what she thinks of me?

I'm confused by this one girl right now... she hasn't been responding too well to my texts recently. (given that she's been busy and I could be over thinking) We have a scheduled date this Sunday. I'm curious to figure out what she thinks of me/us.

I have been talking to other girls to try to get my mind off this one but it hasn't been working. It's the "i have to know" mindset that's bugging me and maybe that she's pretty cute. I would like to find out for sure so I can just NEXT her if anything.

It's a big DLV if you do. The not knowing can be a killer but you have to take it on the chin like a man. Just assume she does and game as normal. What will be will be.

She's probably going to flake. One of the most common things I read on here is "well she's been busy." There is no such thing as being too busy to take a few minutes out of your day to write a proper text and genuinely showing interest.

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EXACTLY if shes really interested she'll find some or make some time for you

We do text each other... she would actually initiate with something first too or say good morning but as I text her back, I usually add humor to my text.... her responses are pretty lame, given that she usually responds, it's not anything interesting or something hard to build a conversation out of. She was slightly more talkative prior to the last few days. (something did happen to her though... which i find reasonable for the change. her office closed down so she lost part of her job? I wouldn't say she lost her job, but part of it and that's part of her pay too.) That's also another question of mine. I know you're not suppose to treat them too nicely. But if they're having a bad day or few days... what would you do? I offered to take her out, but she said she had to work on her thesis that was due the next day.

I highly doubt she's going to flake. We scheduled it to Sunday when I asked her out last week and 2 days ago she asked what we were doing Sunday. She just doesn't seem as interested in me as she was before.

Too much texting without esclation (seeing them in person) will burn you, which is happening to you.

She texted me g'morning today and asked what i was up to today. So I would text her back?

I met her twice already... I escalated as much as I could just to the point of kissing her. I was planning to do that tomorrow but what luck! I went to get an oil change... and they recommended I change the differential oil too... and took out my filters to show me I should change that as well. (I didn't) They put everything back and I started having car troubles shortly after. They were nice enough to run the process over and double check everything when I drove back to see them. I need to take it to a mercedes dealer to get a diagnostic.

Anyway, back on topic. I can't pick her up tomorrow... should I ask her to pick me up? I figure that would be a good way to find out if she really wants to hang out with me.

I was just going to tell her what happened... and if she like, she can pick me up instead or we can reschedule for another time. The latter option would probably tell me to next her? What do you guys think?

You still haven't broke that barrier but text her back make it short and sweet telling her you want to hang 1 on 1, I like to suggest a place to meet up, but if you can't do that see if she'll pick u up if so kissing her should be kind of easy since she shows enough interest in you to pick U up.

It reminds me of the advice, "Don't ask a girl if she's having fun." If she's laughing and having a good time, you'll know and if she likes you, you'll know that, too. As someone earlier said, texting takes mere seconds to do, I don't care how busy you are.

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"Let me ask you something. If the rule you followed brought you to this, of what use was the rule?"

So I told her. She said that she'll check her plans and see when she'll be done and I believe she was hinting at picking me up. I said sure, just keep me updated.

After thinking a bit more... she was like hmm... she has to do this thing later so she wasn't sure about driving back and forth and back again and said it may be easier to reschedule.

I said, that's fine if it makes it easier. I didn't expect this to happen anyway. So i was heading towards ending the conversation in terms of we'll reschedule for another time and sorry about the change of plans.

She then said, "no, it's not your fault"... and thought for a bit and said "we can do lunch." I paused for a second, I was thinking. She said "no?" I asked her if that was okay with her... and then said we can do lunch.

However, I don't see the difference with doing lunch and her picking me up. It's the same thing... why would she reschedule.

Is there anyway to ask a girl if she's interested without DLV?

Also, what's the best comeback to a rejection?

Some women are just difficult to read.

I have a similar situation right now. So here it is.

We don't text back to back all day. It's pretty sparse usually, which irritates me. What we do talk about is usually cool though. We hang out pretty often. At the very least once a week. Just recently it has escalated. We've hung out twice this week and will be hanging out tomorrow.

However, I am still having trouble reading her. I got frustrated a few weeks ago (I move slow, going for LTR) and told her I wasn't gonna ask to hang out anymore. She asked why and I told her I liked her and I didn't feel like the feeling was mutual, so I was onto the next one. She told me I was wrong, she did like me. Okay, well that's something. I could be blind, I don't know, but I don't feel like she would want a(n) LTR.

I explained to my friend today. "I like her but I don't want to ruin my rapport with her by asking her out. If we don't date, I'd still want her as a friend.". He said, "Dude, you only think she's cool because you like her. You wouldn't care about hanging out with her otherwise. Ask her out, and if she says no then you know you aren't wasting your time. On to the next one".

I've had her over many times. He said "Dude, if she is hanging out with you, she is obviously interested in you. Especially with some of those more recent texts."

The problem is, I have built myself up to be so non threatening that she may just be really comfortable with me as a friend. I don't know, but I need to figure it out soon before I enter the friendzone, never to return.

Im not a fan of lunch dates AT ALL hard to get things sexually esclated and I'm guessing that your on a time frame so if things are going good you have no shot of taking her back somewhere to be alone. My honest opinon is that shes thinking of putting you in the friendzone. If she tries to do this I usually freeze them out but there are other methods that work

Hang out with her again 1 on 1 but this time before you hang out with her change how you talk to her and put her in a more sexual state of mind about you through texts (things like saying your taking a shower, just got done lifting) stuff like that puts sexual things in her head without you ever even saying anything about sex. Next time you hang with her you have to esclate things and try a kiss close rountine only then will you know where you stand with her, don't be a pussy do it

Why are you so fixated on asking her if she's interested? To answer your question, no -- there is no way. That's why you just have to look for IOIs. And when you're unsure, assume she is.

And when your vehicle broke down, you should have been the one to cancel -- not her (if I understand correctly, she's the one who offered that). You don't want a girl picking you up for a date anyway -- that's beta.

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Spinks... she said she likes you. You have nothing to worry about. Go kiss her.

I do like how you told her, that you didn't want to hang out with her anymore. That's something I was thinking... if it's over, then be the one to end it. Telling her you like her is DLV but, in that case, you're the one ending it. I thought of that.

I think there could be some misunderstandings. I didn't ask her to pick me up. I told her that my car broke down and she offered... I saw that as an IOI. Everything was good actually... we went to a packed place and SHE decided to take the food back to my place and eat. In my mind, I was thinking this was the ideal situation. BAM, cockblocker tells her that her dog might be dying. He overreacted to some things that she told him about the dog vomitting earlier. I suggested we go check up on the dog since she was worried and maybe continue at her place. It just went downhill from there, she was worried, I couldn't communicate with her very well... hit some sore topics as I was trying to divert her attention from the dog. Who would've though family was a bad topic right? Anyway... yes. That's that. Time to next right? I'm wondering if I should just tell her what I thought and then next... but I understand where you're coming from too fly_swatter.