Not so much a fear thing, but an anger thing.

Why should some random girl who knows nothing about me have the power to reject me? I hate when girls are rude after the opener etc. How do you justify it/react to it?

It's annoying because if she met me in a different situation, she'd react so differently but because it's cold approach night game, she can act rude etc.

Hey,

I am no master, just an average player but you seem to be looking at things the wrong way.

Rejection is part of life (for us suckers). You mentioned that the girl you opened knew nothing about you, so why would she open her arms to a total stranger, in this case you?

You shouldn't get mad at her for it, just take it as a learning lesson: try and remember your body language, analyze the situation and come back stronger.


Don't take it too seriously and have fun, don't put too much pressure into it, it won't bring anything good.

Or you can stick with day game, and get better results.

stop with the cold approaches...chicks love confidence, what shows confidence more than walking up to a girl out of nowhere and telling her exactly what you're feeling?

Like answered before;
View it in a different perspective. Tyler from RSD had a great video about it. Dunno how its called tho.

I understand what your coming from but view it thro her eyes. There are multiple reasons why she does this and it is her fullest right.

She has a ton of amogs she has to deal with and is probably pretty tired of it.
It can be a shit test. Often times i had girls being rude/rejecting me at first hand. I showed that i was grounded in who i am which includes having fun, not pinging off on her reaction.
You are taking up HER time she values and wants to spend having fun. If you don't bring her the fun/party why would she spend time with you? She is not a possession of you.

What it comes down to that you allot of the times you actually reject yourself. Either by failing shit test or not coming up strong enough to get her attention on you.

This is a good video on how to get the attention on you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_2reDG7UwO4

Cold approach is fun as hell thats 1 reason. Another one is that cold approach gives great results. You can show confidence in so many ways that I find your argument so irrelevant
Also you can have best of both worlds.

They're not rejecting you, they don't know enough about you to make a decision whether you should be rejected or not. What they are rejecting is the opener, you're just using the wrong technique. It's not personal and probably an autopilot response. Hold the frame and just barrel through till her surprise mechanism has quieted down.

Here's something I usually do when I have one of those nights where I just don't want to deal with rejection.

Me and my buddies usually barhop in the beginning of the evening (go to a bar have a drink or two, get a feel for the SPAM then move on to the next place, wash, rinse, repeat)

So, just before we leave some place, I will lock eyes with a girl I want to game, then completely ignoring her friends (if she is in a set) just walk straight up to her, if there is a guy in the way, I'll just gently put my hand on his shoulder and say "excuse me, I just need to get past you here" then offer my name to the girl. She has seen me coming, we've had eye contact the entire time and what usually happens is this.
"Hey, I'm Does; what's your name?"
*She says her name*
"Look, me and me friends are heading out now, but I just had to say that you are very beautiful"

Don't use sexy, don't use cute. Use beautiful, and don't say she "looks" beautiful, say that she "IS"
Before she gets a chance to reply:

Look, I gotta get going, but I'll leave you my number and if you're still out and up for it later, text me and we'll party" (not that kind of party guys, but go to a club, or go dancing or something)
She gets my number and me and the guys leave.

Now we go to the next place, I do the same thing, wash, rinse, repeat.
When we settle down somewhere I've probably given my number out to about five girls and I can just relax and enjoy drinking with the guys or what ever I feel like, then usually between midnight and two in the morning three of the five girls have messaged me, then you simply find somewhere to meet up.

This is a super relaxed way of game since, 1: I've never experienced that none of the girls texts me. 2: If I happen to stumble into a great sarge, I simply don't answer. 3: the girls that I didn't answer the night before, I'll just text the next day, something like "Hey, sorry I didn't answer, had to take a friend home he got a little drunk. (Every girl I know has had to deal with this, so they relate) She usually replies with something like "That's sucks" or "that's okay" and now you can just start messaging. The next time you go out, you can say "Hey, going out tonight?" and voila you just made a new friend.

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Because i can.

who cares about rejection? everybody gets rejected some of the time. Its their loss. You're giving the girl too much power by fearing rejection so much.

ill admit ive never done a cold approach, as I have plenty of success just being honest and direct. Can you elaborate on your method of cold approach, Gurren? Of course you can show confidence in many ways, just saying my way works for me.

Broseidon55, I don't know what you are referring to when you say "cold approach". A cold approach is approaching a girl who you don't know, and don't have any connection with (social circle, warm environment) and also approaching without any approach invitation. So if you're doing direct approaches all the time, then you're definitely doing cold approaches.

I actually like direct approaches a lot and that is my go to. It's basically when I try canned openers that things can go badly for some reason. It's like the girl knows I'm hitting on her but doesn't like that I'm beating around the bush.

Sorry but u deserve rejection... Look at u being pissed off for getting rejected!? Ur dangerous as hell. I think girls sensed ru anger for being rejected. What if she accepted u And later pissed u off? She afraid to might get hurt

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Gotchya, I confused "cold approach" with "indirect approach" -- a la mystery method of negging and ignoring your target. Not down with all the lingo here yet.