Hey guys,


I am a 21 y/o college student. I ussually have no problem talking to women until it comes time to close. this ussually happens through frustration of not being able close as quick as possible. I need to learn how to slow down and let things work themself out that is why i decieded to join.


I have been in a small stump. I stumbled upon this website on Sunday. By Monday I have a hb9 ask for my number and text me within 10 minutes. She's not very good with outlandish jokes through texts but finds me hilarious in person. She's also a gym rat and very dedicated in going

My question is how can I get this going without messing it up?

This is the last part of the conversation through text


Me: you got out of the gym early. Lets do something since I'm always busy with labs
Hb9: ok I'm just going to eat quick ill text you after.
Me: ok take your time I have to study. (I didn't).
Hb9: sounds good!
Me: (2 hours later) I'm done studying are you done eating?
Hb9: yea I'm just doing some work
Me: finish up we can catch this show at 9
Hb9: sorry I can't tonight I have to go to the gym for 7
Me: that's ok you can make it up to me!

Obviously my texting sucks but she deff is into me. I have no idea where
To take it from here

Ask her out.

Interesting choice of a forum name, asshole1!

First of all nice job in getting that HB9 to the point at which you have her right now. From what I read out of the text, I feel like you make yourself too available. You should not be the one asking her several times to hang out. You did good on saying you had to do something, even though you didn't, but you should not have wrote her again later.
Better than texting when you want to ask her out on a date is always calling. A text can easily be ignored and just presented as "Oh I missed replying to that, sorry."

One thing you could try out possibly is being in the gym on a day where you know she is going to be there.
Be there before her and do not talk to her, let her notice you and approach you. You're the prize, not her.

The texting seems to suggest that she was interested initially but may be loosing some interest right now. Try a freeze out perhaps. Go out with some friends, male and female, and make sure you have an HB with you that will play along or you can at least play with. Then call her and just randomly invite her to join and have a fun time. If she tries to turn you down go for a little neg. For example you could go at it like this "I thought you were spontaneous and fun when we met last time, seems I might have misjudged that"
Make her feel like she is doing something wrong so that she will go along with what you suggest.
Then when she ends up meeting, freeze her out and focus on the HB in your group as well. Show her you got ladies available and that she is not the only one. That will make her want to grab more of your attention and allow you to close in and turn the tables on her.

Thank you! I appreciate all of the advice. The support on this forum is unbelievable! I plan on dropping any text conversation and just keep face to face conversation until she asks to hang out. Make her feel as she had a chance and blew it.

Wrong. Ask her out.