Have a "friend" who I am deeply attracted to. Hot, intelligent and did I say hot?

We have known each other for three years. Had an opportunity one night to sleep with her - she asked me directly "do you want to sleep with me?" to which I said yes. So, we slept together - literally slept. She brushed off my advances in bed and said that she didn't want to do anything other than sleep. That was about a year and a half ago.

After that situation, she became distant, left the country for several months and cut off communication. Then, she came back and restarted talking to me. She tells me everything - about my friend she thinks she is dating but he denies, about past boyfriends, about what is going on in her life on a daily basis, etc.

I've tried to reapproach her several times but she eventually just told me that she didn't want to ruin our friendship and that she just wasn't attracted to me sexually.

Now that I am going through a divorce and playing the field a bit more, she helps me go shopping for clothes she thinks look good on me, invites me out on the weekends to go places during the day and night and continues to keep me in the friends zone. Still, there is an air of "dating" to the whole situation because the places we go always include dinner, drinks and entertainment - alone together.

Well, last week, I invited her out to a club to help me as a wing-girl. I figured that it would make her a bit jealous and make her question the whole relationship between us a bit more.

Instead, she picks the first group of guys peacocking the club as cowboys to go chat up and eventually makes out with one of the guys in front of me. Lovely. As I was there to hook up with other women and she knew it, I couldn't say shit.

On the way home, I drunk texted her and told her I didn't think I was ready for the clubbing scene nor was I ready to see her making out with some other guy. She and I are incommunicado since. I don't want to call her and she is either respecting that or doesn't want to call me.

What can I do to turn this girl around or should I just say fuck it and move on?

The best answer is MOVE on, there are plenty of other girls out there just as hot.

Sometimes this can be turned around to your advantage, but often not worth the effort!

The jealous drunk text did NOT help you.

I'm guessing you had several opportunities to escalate sexually but pussy-ed out!

Now your deep into LJBF's zone!

Freeze her out, remain no contact until she misses you, and then only express sexual interest! and only sparingly! No "favors" No "advice" No "gifts" No shoulder to cry on! NONE of that shit!

Rite now she has no need to fuck you, you give it all up for free!

Where is the challenge in THAT!

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I'd say this is where I am at now. Didn't help I was married at the time but... that's life.

Will follow your advice and freeze her out.

my good god, you know you have oneitis. This is not going to work MOVE on.

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Maybe you could accept her as a friend and MOVE ON at the same time?

For sure you are in the LJBF zone, but to me as a woman that's not always a very strict zone. When I'm in lying in bed with a good friend, suddenly there can be some sexual energy there, when I'm horny, he's lucky or suddenly initiating it bravely.


Anyway.. if you really MUST fuck her, than freezing her out is your last option. You could pretend to have a girlfriend and tell her about it, but well.. you probably wouldn't be any good faking that story if you want her

As a last call you could show up at her doorstep very horny, very masculine, hold her tight, whisper in her ear all the things you want to do to her sexually and make it a 50 shades kind of thing. All woman want that and if you make it a surprise visit you catch her of-guard! Make sure you are a confident, careless, bad guy!!

Nothing to loose right?

Unless you still want her as a friend of course, which you might ruin completely if she doesn't respond!

The problem is that she is deeply integrated into my social circle.

AND, all my friends know I am infatuated with her.

So, why fake it? See this post and help me out: met-a-girl-on-ok-cupid-vt156991.html

I agree with what everybody else is saying. You need to move on, either be her friend or don't be her friend. There are plenty of other women in this world.

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