If you haven't had any sexual experience besides foreplay/oral into your 30s, are you basically screwed?

I mean, let's say you do meet a girl, she's going to expect that you're not a virgin by that point, and even if you lie or don't bring it up, it will be obvious when you don't know what you're doing when you're fumbling around with the condom and not really good with the penetration.

The one girl I fooled around with didn't care about my sexual experience but:

1.)That was several years ago in my mid 20s, so that was more understandable.

2.)Foreplay is fairly easy to get the hang of and I was good at it. Penetration and all those positions are a different story.

3.)Isn't the woman not going to want to teach by that point?

I have done some dating, so being around women/flirting/etc./kiss closing isn't the problem. It's that deep down I know if I'm around the woman enough for it to get to the sex point, I have no experience with it.

If you were actually meeting with women, k-closing,etc.. then i wonder why you didn't f-close yet at your age, to be honest, it is unusual. However, it shouldn't stop you from having sex with women because you're afraid to perform. There are more people with these issues, however younger of age , they have overcome it, I suggest your search a bit and read up on it. Also armor yourself up with knowledge of how to have sex with a women, there should be hundreds of sites/posts about that. In between work on your confidence, women can smell that, so even if you don't perform well, but stay confident, she'll help you, I guess.

It's not about the sex. It's about the emotional connection you can bridge between yourselves. A woman won't care that you have no sexual experience. In fact, this would actually make her feel special if you tell her that you're a virgin because you've just never connected with women until now.

Anyhow, if you're so concerned, look at porn. That should teach you a trick or two.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

It's not all that difficult really. You don't need to be Don Juan. Don't be too self-conscious and concentrate on her. If you are already good at foreplay then you are good to go. Watch some porn and masturbate with a condom on, don't overdo it though

I don't understand what these questions are leading to. Do you want us to tell you that it's too late for you, and that women won't be with a guy in his 30s if they can tell he is still a virgin? Or are you actually asking for help on how to seduce women and have sex with them when you lack experience?

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To the last poster: I know I'm not a ladies man nor is my goal to be one. I see the way women look at me and have always looked at me. I guess I'd like to experience sex once to see what it's like and to see what the big deal is that guys would crave it so much and if anything to see/touch a naked woman again, but the "pay for an escort" advice I get in other forums is just ridiculous.

I guess what I'm wondering is how to squeak out a lay with a decent/cute woman despite not being a guy that attracts a lot of women.

The good news is, I don't mind cold approaching, it just usually doesn't lead anywhere.

As for myself...I'm in shape, just not what women like. I'm just looking for one woman that considers me someone she'd get into bed with. Since a hot girl fooled around with me a long time ago, and I don't look any worse now, I figure there has to be one decent/cute/hot woman out there that would get in bed with me once.

Just not sure where to find her.

hookers aren't always the solution, but this time...

dude you have noooo self confidence. stop focusing on just getting laid once and work on yourself, be someone youd want to fuck if you were a girl, carry yourself like it (and actually mean it) and youll get laid plenty

figureofeight, now I understand better where youre coming from. Let me discuss some points with you. You said you are not a ladies man, and you're goal is not to be one, however you are trying to sleep with a lady, to do that you must become a ladies man! And thats what this forum is about!

The way I see it you're trying to get a girl that will sleep with you, while you dont do any work towards it, you say you dont need to improve yourself because another girl wouldve slept with you and you didn't change since then, maybe you will get lucky and maybe you wont, but why leave it to fate? Why not take matters into you own hand?
Improve yourself/life. Get fresh new clothes,spend alot of money it, get a new modern haircut, go to the gym and get in a shape that women cant stay away from, read alot of books and threads about being an alpha male and innergame! Once you do all that, and it is hard work I promise you that, it will be rewarded with your goal, which is seeing how it feels to sleep with a women.

Haha, sometimes you have to just break the seal...


Taking the attitude that youre screwed and it cant be done will always yield those results!

And I wholeheartedly disagree with you....

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

I don't feel like I'm screwed, I just feel like at this point since I don't have the seduction skills, even if I got a date, I wouldn't know how to escalate.

The one woman I fooled around with, I'm not taking away any credit, I mean I had to attract her, but she was very open sexually. We met on facebook and were already discussing fooling around and possibly having sex after the first 2 or 3 conversations, so when we met in person, it was easy as hell. I had to make the moves, but there was no resistance whatsoever. She also knew about my lack of experience and didn't care (and was hot too.)

That kind of situation from all the reading I've done and what I hear from friends and other guys doesn't come along often.

I can see myself getting a date with a cutie if I approached enough women, but I don't see myself escalating or being able to seduce if that makes sense. I have no problem going in for the kiss, but beyond that I'm awkward.

Sorry, Taking the attitude that it cant be done will always yield those results!


Im saying that not believing in yourself will be anti-seductive to women... Just believing that you are a sexy woman slaying machine will help more than anything else.

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My personal mantra:

"Every woman's a whore in the right situation"
"They're all selling it for something"
"She's sluttier than you think she is"

Just watch some porn and/or instructional videos. The basics of sex are pretty easy to get the hang of. Will girls hold it against you if you suck in bed? Some will, some wont. It really just depends on how much they like you. It's a terrible thing when you're afraid to try something new because there's a chance you might be bad at it.

I rarely, rarely ever advocate lying, but you should just lie to women about the virgin thing. Tell women you just got out of a long, mostly sex-less relationship and that you are really rusty.

-Wolf

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I'm more worried about how to meet a girl to sleep with. I have the type of looks that a lot of women just don't like, but at the same time, the girl I dated and fooled around with was hot (8 to most men that saw her and a really good personality too) and thought I was handsome/cute/attractive so there has to be another one out there and I'd go as low as a 5 if it meant having sex.

I also have no problem lying about being a virgin. I mean, my goal is to lose the v card, not to necessarily find a girlfriend, so I have no problem lying about that if it meant getting my v card over with.

I'm just at a loss of where to meet women. Approaching women at random is pointless as I'm socially awkward and not great looking either, and online is pointless because most of the women are in the 0-4 range on online dating sites and the ones who aren't are like 6s-7s that think they're Scarett Johanson.

I have one friend I can trust with the information that I'm a virgin and he plans to take me out and help me talk to women.

you are giving to much importance to the fact you are virgin.

hire an escort and problem solved. If that's what you want, to loose your virginity, ¿why not? You can hire a super model escort or even pay two girls to do it with you. But you wont.
it's like the easiest problem to solve I ever heard about. worried about std's ? wear a condom (always do this)

I don't think being virgin is your problem. If it was you would already managed to solve it. You are worried about other things. Think about it. Did you read robert glover's "no more mr nice guy" ? If not, do it.

Let me ask you something, ¿how do you think it is(sex)? ¿why do you think being a virgin defines you? ¿are you afraid of women? ¿why not fuck a HB5 to "get rid of your problem"? maybe she gives you a great experience. David X says that all women are prostitutes in a way (his words not mine jajaja), and also says that the good looking ones are not always the best in bed (wich I found It to be true)