Iv been seeing this girl for a few months now. she is not the best looking girl out there if i have to compare her to others. But I just cant keep my mind off her.... I am seeing 2 other prettier girls at the same time, but my attention keeps focusing on this 5/10 (MAX), while i have 2 other options who are atleast 7-8. This girl has done some very "nasty" shit to me. She lied to me, play games with me etc. But I dont seem to mind at all. I think I am having severe case of one-itis with this girl....

Possible reasons why I like this girl more than the other 2:

1). She is living on her own with a roommate, while the other 2 are living with their family. Therefore, it is easier for me to have sex with her.

2). She is kind of the "Bad girl" type compare to the other 2. And I like "bad girls".

3). I have invested in her way more than the other 2, maybe that is why I want her so bad because I already invested so much.

I really need help on this one! I am really fucked up! why do I settle for a 5 while I can go for 7 o 8!! What the F is wrong with me.... Normally this wouldnt be a problem, but this girl is being a bitch and seems like she is loosing interest in me now... while the other 2 are still showing strong interest.

Hi buddy, I know what you are talking about!
I had similar experience years ago! I normally date well pretty girls, but somehow I started seeing this petite mad girl. This was going on for about a year and she got me all messed up in the head. It is not important what she did to me or what I did for her.

I was thinking for long after I finally broke up with her, how on earth was it possible that she got away with all that shit for so long.

I think it is psychological game. Especially because they are not hot, and they dont act needy, there is something that happens to our brain that we give them some extra amazing value. Franky, if you see a girl that is not very pretty and yet acting like she is, she must have at least shit loads of confidence, and that is attractive too.

The only way I managed her was confronting her for any shit she did to me and punished her by withdrawing for some time. It is painful, but it will teach her lesson and you will learn how to control yourself and how to respect yourself. Look at it as a training ground.

This one I was seeing once again went too far and I told her to get lost. And trust me... that was liberation on ultimate level.... because I walked out from the whole situation as a man and it was my decision.

In a long run, I dare to guess that it would not get any better, and you would just be emotionally exhausted. Look at it like this...there is 7 billion people out there.... you dont need to put up with any shit!

Hope this helps

You're just settling with what you have on your plate. Even though you have a few girls, the 5 has more traits that you like so you are fixating on her. But just realize that you are only doing that because you have limited options and this girl is the overall most appealing one.

I was dating a 6 a while back and she acted like she was a 9. I eventually started to resent her, and I realized that I was more attracted to other girls. She had a lot going for her, but I exited that relationship and moved on to greener pastures. If you accept it for what it is and move on and stay positive I guarantee you can do better and you'll be happier. There's nothing wrong with milking it for a while, but don't get too caught up with her.

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What should I do now? she just suddenly stopped returning my call/text, which makes me want her even more ... talking to the other 2 girls and ignoring her doesn't work at all.... I just cant stop thinking about this average looking girl even when I am sitting on the table having dinner with an 8......

That's just a simple case of one-itus. There are cures for that.

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You know, this is just an awesome experience for you and clasic example of how pulling back and not showing interest works. Learn from this valuable lesson.

I think the more needy you become the leas responsive she gets. If you stop contacting her, there is a chance that she will womder hiw come?? And will get back to you.... If she does, id tell her directly or indirectly that you are seeing someone else.

But i understand its not easy buddy. Ive been there. What i have learned that these girls share similarities, and now as soon as I notice, im out or well guarded.

Get yourself busy and enjoy the beauty of the other girls. This is an ego trick that your mind is playing on you. Its hard to be not chased or dumped by a girl when you are in fact out of her ligue.

lol thx for the reply guys. For Teddy Spooner, If a 5 is out of my league, then I must be sad lol. But ya I will try to cut contact with her for a month or 2. and see what happens.

Totally agree. Also, getting sex anytime you wanted if from this 5 was messing with your head also. Damn "box lunch at the Y" hooks us all us stupid men at some point in our lives. I would say keep the two HB's on the hook and fine another 5/6 to replace this 5 with. Then you will loose interest in this 5 messing with your head.

No No No... I said she is out of your league.... meaning you can do way better... considering you got 2 8s

Sad thing is, I haven't had sex with her yet.... in fact, I haven't had sex with any of these 3 girls yet. when I say she is living on her own, what I mean is that when we start to have a sexual relationship, she is the most convenient one. She smokes, shes a "bad girl" and she likes to party..... so I have the highest chance of getting into a sexual relationship with her. (Atleast thats what I thought)This could be another reason why i want her so bad....

Hahaha, Thanks for making me feel better buddy. I'll keep that in mind, keep telling myself that she is out of MY league. Hope that will make me feel better and treasure my 2 other girls