okay so sucks to say but my GF is cheatting ive caught her slipping too many many times i know theres another dude. i know she has an idea i know. this shit sucks cause its the first girl ive actually loved.

and idk what to do man...

should i just dump the bitch?
or since valentine's day is coming up and should i do something super romantic and make her suffer from guilt? shes already screaming guilt with her actions, words, and body language should i just make it so overwhelming she breaks and just admits it to me?
or is that just unrealistic

What's your evidence for her cheating on you? If it's purely circumstantial, don't dump her on the grounds of her cheating on you. Instead, look at her other behavioural traits. Does she kiss you and touch you like a woman in love would? Does she look you in the eye when she professes her love for you, like she once did? If she doesn't, then that's your reason for moving on.

Don't try to make it up to her. Don't try to win her back. Companies don't make any effort to keep lazy workers. And men shouldn't many any effort to keep losers.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Show less interest, act busy more often, raise your value, be mysterious, and fuck one of her friends if you can.

Also, if you think a girl is cheating on you and you dont have much evidence, she probably is.

trust is gone in your relationship, if that is the case the relationship is doomed one way or the other, start looking for new girls, if you end it or not is up to you, but you would probbably be better off just ending the relationship to motivate yourself to put yourself out there again,

especially if what she does actually hurts you and you have strong feelings for her and strongly respect the idea behind monogomy

I absolutely agree with this, however we all know this isn't going to happen.

my evidence are things ive observed about her behavior.
im pretty sure it was this past week too.
i just started college and she always felt that i was too good for her and would say "watch when you start college your going to find a better girl and leave me..." she has self esteem issues because of a verbal abuse father.

1she has this im too good vibe, which shes never had.
2also she acted different during sex. she also doesnt give me head as much...
3when she says i love you it doesnt sound authentic as it use to.
4she said her pussy was tender which happens when she has sex because she very tight like to the point were its almost unnatural it hurts her every time she has sex. kinda like a virgin....
5 she steped out side to take a phone call from her "mom" she always talks to her mom infornt of me. she comes back talking about the convosation and slipped saying "HE said bla bla bla..." twice!
6 i was testing her by this point i said something to her about how we care about eachother bla bla bla.... and she looked like she wanted to cry, i was sensing guilt.
7 today she striaght lieing to be about what shes doing later n were she has to be. i think she was with the dude. i called once no answer hasnt got back to me which is weird she was seriously " on the sack" you could say....
this all happened with in the past week or two.
she really made it obvious idk if shes really bad at hiding it or she wants me to just pick up on it... and well leave her. but she says thing to try n cover her mistakes and she keeps talking about valentines day... n how shes looking forward to it.

That's all circumstancial evidence. The only damning piece is #3 and possibly #6. If you don't FEEL like she still loves you, and like she's distancing herself and growing cold, then you can go ahead and dump her. But how do we know you're not the one with insecurities, thinking he's being cheated on when in reality he has a loyal gf? If you want to be sure, go ahead and snoop on her phone and FB before accusing her.

I once had a gf who insisted I was cheating on her... I never came close, really. And in the end, her accusations destroyed what we had -- but the bigger problem was her insecurities. Just something to think about before you lay down the law.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

maybe i am being insecure i probably am right now. but it mostly because she always is asking me if i cheat on her. makes me think maybe she cheated on me because she thinks i cheat on her.....
i also took her virginity and she knows ive fucked lots of other girls so maybe she feels unequel in the numbers category i really dont know... i do really hope your right and i am just being foolish... but my gut is telling me otherwise.

My initial reaction was: kick her to the curb. But then I read your story, and I think she sounds like a girl who would answer truthfully if pressed. So ask her, confront her with the evidence, press her if you suspect she's lying. If she doesn't admit it, you'll have to decide if you trust her enough to believe her.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

your on this site, a site that advocates alpha male'ism: strength, emotional is not strength

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If I was ya man, baby, you'd
Never worry bout what I do
I'd be coming home back to you
Every night, doin' you right

I'd say MAN UP, FAST.

Get other things to do.
Love other things.
Find other girls (don't lay them, just be with them, friendzone them as possibilities if you can and once you can't stand the way your gf is right now, LEAVE HER.)
Pull back to your shit if there's even a slightest taste of jellousy, SERIOUSLY, I had this stuff happen to me and it won't end good even if she's not cheating, it'll fuck your inner game up its butt if you don't distract your attention.

Don't try to be vengeful. Find what you love and NOT what you hate. Don't ever revenge on your gf unless it's for fun.

Become a rock, a mountain that doesn't follow what happens around it, instead IT is the world and environment - IT defines everything around it.

My friend had a similar situation to this.. His gf was acting weird often, they were together for a year back then.
He was so in love with her that he never ever suspected that she cheated on him. Until one guy came to him and said he saw her kissing another dude, he suspected, asked her and she tricked him and conviced that it wasn't true, he never suspected again. 6 months later one of her girlfriends got banged by my other friend and she told him the whole story. Turns out she cheated on him for more than 6 months with 4 guys, yes 4 guys o.O
One of those was her ex and he fucked the brains out of her countless times during the time she was with my friend. Even though he knows she cheated on him countless times he has forgiven her and they're back together. I really don't know wtf is wrong with him but then again it's his choice.

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Heat

if there's alott of history and alott invested, forgiving isnt automatically a bad idea.
if he accepts that she disrespected the relationship n him, she mite take that into consideration.
cheating is a symptom, not the problem.

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If I was ya man, baby, you'd
Never worry bout what I do
I'd be coming home back to you
Every night, doin' you right

possibly the most ridiculously naive comment I've read all week.

im going to just dump her. whatevers things become after that i dont care anymore i think she cheated and im not going to stay with a girl just because she's a good fuck. ill just dump her and fuck 10 other girls and feel great about it.
at the end of the day...
there are alot of fish in the sea..
and by fish i mean BITCHES!!!!!!!....