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So I went on a date with this girl I met off OKC whom I'm pretty sure is interested.... went on 1 date with her but whenever I try to plan another one with her, her response is something unreliable like "Ok, maybe" or "I'll let you know" which of course she never does.
It's frustrating as shit and I want to call her out on it, but I don't think that's the proactive thing to do. I don't plan on nexting her (yet), but I do want to know how I should handle her and how to respond when she gives me a uncommitted answer like that.
This is a good question and depends on a number of things that you can answer. Such as...
- Where did you take her on the first date?
- What was the conversation like during the date? How was it prior to the date? How many days passed between meeting her and setting up the date?
- Did you try to kiss her or get physical in any way?
- What were you wearing?
- Did you walk her home or just separated?
- What day of the week did you meet her?
Some of these may be hard to answer, some of these may seem irrelevant but are BIG in the grand scheme of things.
More context is needed and I may be able to provide a few insights as to why. There could also be a disconnect between your OKC profile and how you are in person.
Ok, here's the details of the date:
2 unexpected factors happened on the date...
1) she brought 2 of her friends at the last second, 1 guy and 1 girl
2) she only stayed an hour because she said her friend had to wake up early
and on the side, 3) she was super late, to the point I was ready to just walk out.
I'm not a shy guy. I'm very outgoing and love being around people. Her friends actually didn't prove to be a problem... She introduced me to them as her Hobo Husband (I got an inside joke going with her a long time ago how we would move into a cardboard box together and get married) which is also what she had referred to me as when she told them about me (her telling her friends about me, I always take as a serious IOI). I made a couple jokes, they all laughed, and they spent the rest of the time talking to each other and didn't get in the way. Not awkward in any way.
HBFlakey and I got on much better in person than I expected... in text, she says very little unless I roleplay with her, sometimes doesn't respond, and is of course super flakey. In person, she spoke plenty. No awkward silences. I get her laughing a lot, she tells me about her past, etc. Plenty of comfort and I kinoed when possible. At one point she offers me to taste her beer, and I make a crack how I have herpes. She laughs, but her female friend turns around and takes it seriously, clearly doesn't think it's funny apparently b/c someone she knew caught herpes. HBFlakey tells me not to mind her, that she can't take a joke. We played a game of pool and she kind of moseyed around between her friends and the game and some guy sitting nearby she apparently knew.
I didn't know she had to leave early until they were getting ready to go, so I was unprepared for it. Normally I would have kiss closed her on the spot, but I didn't want to do it in front of her friends.
I get to my car and send her a text, "Hey, had fun tonight."
Her immediate response, something along the lines of "Yeah, me too. Let's do it again soon." I think this was all on a Wednesday. I was in casual/dress black shoes, black jeans, and a blue/black checkered long sleeve which is not too casual and not too dressy.
The other day I made a crack about how I made her my pretend texting girlfriend, but not to expect me to put out. She makes a half-kidding suggestive comment suggesting I can expect "a bath" (I'm not sure how she thought this was relevant) twice a week, maybe once a day... in the context of the conversation, it was pretty clear she meant sex. Then she says she only fucks herself, but doesn't mind an audience. Brings up the "only fucks herself" thing once more.
Other than that, since the date, it's just been more half-assed texts from her and 1 flaked date.
CHAT
