well here it goes I met a beautiful girl last year. When I first met I felt we got on pretty well and she seemed really nice so I asked for her number.

I asked her out but she said she already had plans. she ended up texting me for quite a few weeks but whenever I asked her out she always seemed to make excuses. so I kind of cut my losses.

I would get the odd message asking me to do something after that but it was usually in a group type situation. I never bothered as I was too busy and didn't see the point.

However recently this girl asked if I wanted to join her for a fitness activity as she knows I like keeping fit. I agreed and we ended up meeting we had a great time and it was only me and her.

I really fancy this girl and she seems keen to meet. problem is I don't know if she's interested in more than friends? the fact she didn't contact me in a long time then out of nowhere wanted to meet seems dogey.

Is she just using me? I've no idea as i'm sure she could have got somebody else so I'm not sure if she is.

How do I find out if she's interested. should I ask her out for dinner? I'm worried it's going to backfire.

I really don't want to end up in the friends zone. this is the first girl i've really liked in a long time.

I'm not the most experienced and confident guy out there so any help would be appreciated.

thanks.

Get sexual with your messages, friends don't send sexual messages!

_________________
They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Like what kind of stuff should I say? I really wanna make an impression and win this girl over. she's amazing!

So you like a girl and you want her to like you but you don't know if she does? Gotcha. The rest of your post is irrelevant...like so many other "I want this girl to like me" posts.

The answer: run your game like normal. That of course is assuming you have decent game. If not, let me give you a brief refresher course. When you go out with her, build rapport, try to be charming and funny, etc. Basically, make a good impression. You want to make her feel like you are really feeling her. Tell her that she is fun and cool to hang out with, but don't be too over the top with it. You're trying to engrain in her mind that you two have a lot of fun together. Say things like "Wow, this is fun, I really like doing this!" Also, while hiking or whatever you should be looking for ANY excuse to touch her, grab her, pull her up, etc. Establish physical contact early on. Make it seem innocent...at first.

Then as things start progressing, you can't play it safe. You have to make your move. Instead of just going hiking once a week. Ask her if she wants to go out to dinner the day after tomorrow. That's much more formal. If you are complimentary towards her and asking her out on dates, it will be abundantly clear to her that you like her. If she starts coming up with excuses or tells you that she just wants to be friends, then you'll know right away where you stand. If not, then you are well on your way to gaming this girl.

_________________
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

I don't really have much game. I just try to be myself and be nice. I'm not usually aware of making compliments or saying I had fun. She actually said it to me as we were leaving 'this was really fun'.

I think because she made excuses before when I asked her out I'm a bit cautious to do it again unless I know for sure she is interested.

That's a good point about complementing her I don't really do it. Next time I see her I will be more aware of it. We just generally have good fun.

I meet hot girls but always seem to mess it up by not making a move or just getting nervous.

The problem I have is whenever I make a compliment it sounds dead obvious. I've never mastered the art of doing it in a subtle way. same with physical contact I find it hard to find an opening to do it.

I really can't afford to mess this one up. This girl is perfect in every way and I'm not getting any younger. thanks for your advice it's really helpful. I don't think about the obvious stuff.

I'm a bit worried as I text her the day after and haven't had a reply back yet. she did say she was rubbish at texting though.

If you have any other pointers I would be very grateful? I'm meeting her next week and want to make a real impression and hopefully seal a date.

thanks.

You've already lost her because your inner game is fucked up. You said that you "can't afford to lose her". You HAVE to be willing to lose the girl to get the girl. There's nothing worse in a girl's eyes than a guy who is clearly trying to measure every word and step he makes around her. It comes off as needy and desperate and unattractive.

Don't worry about texts that haven't gotten responses. If you are trying to shoot a target and you miss, do you keep shooting or do you just sit there and say "Why couldn't my other shots have just hit the target?!?" No, you keep firing until you hit it.

Another thing, sometimes you need to do stuff that is the opposite of what you want to do, in order to confuse the girl or reinforce a specific viewpoint about you. For instance, not being needy. Maybe she calls you up one night. Instead of answering the phone after the first ring like some AFC with no life, just let it go to voicemail. Same with texting. Don't answer it for a while. When you develop a habit of responding to her calls and texts instantaneously, it conveys neediness. Then later on you all her back and DHV yourself. Tell her sorry that you missed her call because you were helping your friend fix his car, or you were working out or something.

_________________
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn