What's up brothas ! I have a question that's been bothering me for awhile with many situations alike with this one, its how to react, & when or should I react type of thing. Possibly a long read, but i'd really appreciate your time & thoughts. Who knows, you may learn something about yourself just brainstorming.

Quick background - Me & this girl met from friends, went to a party that night with her, her friends & my friends. We got talking, stopped, then randomly later on threw the night we ran into eachother again, i'm sure we were equally full of liquor though. She brought me to a couch & we fucked around infront of everyone. Rubbing her pussy, sucking her tits, she was all on my cocks blah blah. After that we were going to hang out one more time, I flaked on her then we stopped for awhile again. Recently she posted a status how she was overcoming life struggles & she feels so free & happy etc. . so I wrote her.

She was all happy to hear from me, she asked for my number, then she texted me talking about how she's changed & my first impression wasnt accurate probably & blah blah. My phone was broke at the time & I can only read it, so I didn't write back till recently, which is like a week & a half later lmao. . I wrote her this. .

"Hey love, sorry I couldn't get back to you, I had to get my screen replaced it was so fucked up & I could barely type anything. BUT, I briefly remember the parts that I COULD see of what you wrote though, so being said. Good [Name] ! I'm really happy for you that you found a place in you where you feel at your all, it's tough for people to overcome that. You're a sweet girl so it's nice hearing your doing good & progressing as someone. I'm on the same grind, life's all about self-improvement & it's that alone i'm excited to wake up everyday & be challenged. I miss that cute face & bright smile though, come see me sometime; I want to meet who you really are ! Because from what I heard so far, we were twin personalities that didn't even notice it !
Have a good one sweetheart."

She only read it & never responded. . . so uh yeah, what the fuck ! I understand it is a week or so later but come on be understanding bitch ! But that's not the point, the point is, my game when I partied with her was diffrent from my game now, I was more of a dick & real ballsy. Now i'm real humble & confident (Atleast 100x more then before) still ballsy & a dick at times to. But where i'm getting at is, the way I would've wrote that woulda been entirely diffrent back then. I'm humble so I was sweet & nice & actually gave compliments where before it was my #1 rule NEVER to compliment.

THE QUESTION - I like giving compliments because when I do I actually mean what I say & it's coming from honesty not "Nice eyes, let's fuck" so now i'm caught in this thought paradox of should I still compliment even though they maybe don't see i'm being genuine & it may just make her a uptight ego thirsty shnob later getting all the attention syndrome. Or just stick with my rule & never compliment. . .

ANOTHER QUESTION - Because she didn't write back & only just read it, I was going to write her again saying something ALONG THE LINES of "I understand I made you wait for my attention, but don't be a copycat!" or something like that, I still need to think of a Opener that dosen't make me seem to invested. What would you write? Better yet would you even write anything again at all?

That brings up another old rule I had, NEVER to chase & never seem to invested, I don't want to put the ball in her park & that's what i'm entirely trying to avoid. But the fact I wrote a nice genuine thing to her & I only get a mere "[Name] read this" bothers me, & I don't have her # anymore due to a new phone. So I needa get it somehow.

I'm just confused how to correctly act here & how to think about it. . . I get she's one girl, but like I said at the top, I have situations like this time to time & I need to fix how it's thought about & handled.

What do you guys think & what would you do in a similar situation? I apologize if I hurt your eyes with so much text but I rarely ask questions so when I do I like them being fully understood.

Anyways, thanks brothas, I appreciate it !

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It seems you know the rules to follow, and you clearly know what happens when you don't follow the rules!! So my suggestion don't text her, until she texts back. Stay strong and hold out mentally, it may be difficult but it is a must! She must invest in you, otherwise you're gonna be wasting your time and chasing her.

Second, you wan't to be honest with her, I agree honest is best, HOWEVER, I learned at times, it is better to follow the pua rules until you have her in a spot where you can be HONEST and only have positive consequences(IE, deep talk which leads to a relationship) instead of her seeing you as a friend(hate the friendzone). Understand me? I hope i was able to convince you to stick with your game until she replys back then you act upon it.

First off, thanks for your time my man. That's what I was thinking though is to hold strong & stay put, but I dont know, I think maybe I can break the rules abit, throw her the ball for a minute & take it right back once she's in the court ready to play so to speak. What's everyones views on this? Got this piece of mind from RSD.

Second, exactly. I like being honest, i'm always honest & blunt but know my limits. But regarding whatcha said "Only be honest when YOU KNOW you can only have positive consequences" how do I know when I can cut the shit/game & be honest? I also don't like fakeing till it's the right moment, if that's what you even mean though.

Thanks brotha !

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Well, you can try breaking the rules a bit, and see how it works out for you, ofcourse every girl is different and I don't know the exact history and words between you 2, so thats only something you will know with trial and error!

And i'm not telling you to lie or fake anything bro, just try not to open up alot to her and swarm her with emotions(thats why I meant with being honest) like an AFC and then she decides to friendzone you. Wait till you have fucked her, or atleast in a position to be sure she likes you alot 100%, then you can open up and allow her in your heart if you chose to do so.. good luck!

That's true my man, I tried giving a brief history of us though. You're right though, everyone has their variable, it's something i've heard time & time again in the world of PU, we're only Human, not robots with a set of cheat codes & buttons to press.

I understand what you mean now, that's true & exactly what I was trying to avoid. I just want to be myself that's all it's about & i'm humble but I don't know if that's entirely good for game that's the paradox in this situation that's confusing me.

And regarding to having fucked her, we messed around plenty at that party, & the day 2 I saw her she seem heavily invested into me, I think the flake either killed the intrest annoying her, or sparked it higher, not sure.

We're reconnecting now, well were. After I didn't reply for a week or so & wrote her she only read it like I said & the reconnection didn't happen. I possibly blew it. But then again i'm like I made her wait for my attention, i'm a busy man she should see that, why isn't she digging the fact i'm hard to get to. Maybe she's lazy? All these questions.

Anyways thanks brotha, I appreciate all replies !

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