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PostPosted: Sat Feb 02, 2013 6:22 pm 
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Despite my somewhat moderate success a few months ago, I seem to not be improving or the success I had was just "right time, right moment kind of thing". After of going out to bars about 3-2 times a week since my last Fclose(4-5 months ago), I only got about 3-4 Kcloses.
Last night I went out with a few buddies. One friend of mine was asking me how I am so confident and approach any girl that I see. I just told that once I get a few rejections out of the way, I can approach anyone, no fucks given. Then I told him other basics of body language like standing straight, not leaning in, and keeping eye contact. Now this 10 minute lesson for him turned out to get him 3 Kcloses in one night, while I didn't even get one. This just goes to show again that looks matter, of course they do. So at the end of the night I was happy for my friend, but I was pissed off at myself and thought about not going out anymore, stupid I know.

Has anyone here thought they were improving, but later on, the results were heavily inconsistent?
Do any of you consider yourself below average looking and still get good results in interactions with women and get laid?


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2013 1:55 pm 
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I'm personally not an "expert," but I do remember Tyler Durden saying that a lot of people get initial success when they first start out because their genuine nervousness makes them attractive, but then when they get used to approaching they lose that and then they go through a "few steps back moment." After this is when, according to him, someone starts actually getting good at pick up. Like I said, I'm only saying what he said and I can't tell you exactly which video he said it in (It's either one of the ones on youtube or the blueprint.)


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2013 2:07 pm 
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I just told that once I get a few rejections out of the way, I can approach anyone, no fucks given.
First of all, that's some great advice you gave to your friend. Starting your night out with an intentional rejection or two is what a lot of the greats do to get a crazy momentum going.
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Now this 10 minute lesson for him turned out to get him 3 Kcloses in one night, while I didn't even get one. This just goes to show again that looks matter, of course they do. So at the end of the night I was happy for my friend, but I was pissed off at myself and thought about not going out anymore, stupid I know.

Has anyone here thought they were improving, but later on, the results were heavily inconsistent?
Do any of you consider yourself below average looking and still get good results in interactions with women and get laid?
It's more accurate to say "looks count" rather than "looks matter." When it comes to attracting and seducing women, everything counts! Looks included. Fortunately we can compensate with other things like game and passion.

Don't let that get you down, though! There will always be someone better than you in some way, but only you have the unique combination of strengths and characteristics that make you your own individual player in this game. Your better looking friend will have an immediate advantage in his own way, and you'll have yours, even if it's not as immediate and socially accepted.

Keep exploring and you'll find your consistency through persistence.


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I just told that once I get a few rejections out of the way, I can approach anyone, no fucks given.
First of all, that's some great advice you gave to your friend. Starting your night out with an intentional rejection or two is what a lot of the greats do to get a crazy momentum going.
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Now this 10 minute lesson for him turned out to get him 3 Kcloses in one night, while I didn't even get one. This just goes to show again that looks matter, of course they do. So at the end of the night I was happy for my friend, but I was pissed off at myself and thought about not going out anymore, stupid I know.

Has anyone here thought they were improving, but later on, the results were heavily inconsistent?
Do any of you consider yourself below average looking and still get good results in interactions with women and get laid?
It's more accurate to say "looks count" rather than "looks matter." When it comes to attracting and seducing women, everything counts! Looks included. Fortunately we can compensate with other things like game and passion.

Don't let that get you down, though! There will always be someone better than you in some way, but only you have the unique combination of strengths and characteristics that make you your own individual player in this game. Your better looking friend will have an immediate advantage in his own way, and you'll have yours, even if it's not as immediate and socially accepted.

Keep exploring and you'll find your consistency through persistence.
Chief, how is your game? Would you be able to elaborate on what exactly I should do? I feel like I'm stalling at this point, because I don't have the next "goal" in mind. I think my confidence is no longer an issue.

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I'm personally not an "expert," but I do remember Tyler Durden saying that a lot of people get initial success when they first start out because their genuine nervousness makes them attractive, but then when they get used to approaching they lose that and then they go through a "few steps back moment." After this is when, according to him, someone starts actually getting good at pick up. Like I said, I'm only saying what he said and I can't tell you exactly which video he said it in (It's either one of the ones on youtube or the blueprint.)
I really hope that is true. But, now I want some kind of technique or lesson on how to get better at my point of learning process.


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The worst thing you can do is compare yourself to someone else. Because what's the point? If I told you that below average guys don't do that well with women would you just give up and go fap in your bathroom for the rest of your life? You're trying to validate a self-limiting belief but the question itself is inherently counter productive. Don't do that to yourself bro. Keep a positive attitude, perspective, and outlook.

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PostPosted: Mon Feb 04, 2013 7:15 pm 
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A guy at my work literally looks like a walking rat that's overdosed on heroin, he pulls and gets 6/7 girls because he is so funny and doesn't let his weird face ruin his inner game/confidence.

Looks do matter when first talking to a girl but ONLY for her reaction, if you look good. Yes the girl is more likely to try to connect back with you hoever if your not the best looked then just sarge through and the girl will eventually find your personality attractive.

I find the key is a mixture between making her laugh, sexual tension building, kino and eye fucking.


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