After a few months of reading posts and watching videos, I finally got to go out and wander the streets. I just moved to San Jose California from a much smaller town and have been itching to put my "skills" to the test in my new location. I planned on going to a mall before my night class and then going to a bar with a friend after my class ended.

Part 1 the mall:

I felt comfortable walking around the mall alone. I decided to start by greeting people. After ten minutes of that it was time for me to find a target. This is where I had been having trouble at my previous location. I'm either really picky or using "she isn't hot enough" as an excuse, my guess is the latter though it was before six on a Thursday and the mall definitely wasn't packed. I continued to greet people while I looked for a target. After about an hour and a half I had made exactly zero approaches. This has happened on some of my shorter outings in my old location and I would like to find targets faster or I guess approach girls who aren't as attractive as I'd like them to be just to make more approaches. Makes me wonder if other guys spend that much time simply looking for girls? Anyway while greeting people I realized how much harder it was to get someone to respond while walking towards each other. I started making eye contact while they were a little further to make sure that they knew I was talking to them.

Part 2 bar and downtown:

Around nine I met a friend at a bar. While there 4 good looking girls came in which made me glad to know they do at least exist. I decided not to approach them because the place was primarily a restaurant and they were enjoying a meal together (probably an excuse on my part but I didn't know how or if it was ok to interrupt their dinner).

At 11 I left and was on my own because my friend had to work the next morning. I found out there was a lady gaga concert downtown and when I got closer to the area I noticed all of the crazily dressed people getting out of the concert. Lots of barely dressed females. I parked my car a few blocks away from the concert center around 12, and walked towards it to hit all of the walking traffic going downtown. The idea would have been better if I was there a little bit earlier because the concert probably ended 45min before I got there. There were a lot of "interesting" people who were just too "interesting" for my taste (think of lady gaga's fan demographic). I talked to a few people but nothing serious. I walked back downtown and started finding more girls I was interested in. I asked for directions on plenty of occasions, but I couldn't keep the conversation going much past that because most people didn't want to stop and talk. On one occasion I asked a pair of girls that question and one stopped and was really friendly, but her friend was a bitch and pulled her away. I tried to talk to the bitchy one but she just wasn't having it. Walking around alone wasn't helping either because I'm sure I looked more creepy than I needed to.

Later I opened a guy walking with two girls at a crosswalk. I positioned myself to be a few feet ahead of them but still going the same way. I asked the guy for directions and they weren't from here. He was pretty cool about it and I talked with him for a bit (made it a point to ignore the girls at first). He was with one but our conversation ended before I could find out. They were heading back to their hotel to sleep so we went separate ways.

I positioned myself ahead of 3 girls (using the same strategy as I did earlier) who were starting to head towards a parked car, and asked if they knew where any cool places were. Prior to that I heard them trying to decide whether to go home or not. One responded get in the car and we'll take you there. It was kinda sarcastic so I declined (maybe I should have just went for it). I spoke with them and one seemed interested but I think the pressure of her friends wanting to go home got the best of her. She directed me to a place, and they left.

Just after that someone yells I know that guy. I turn around and see three friends from my old town getting out of a car, small world. They were going to a club so I joined them. I opened a few girls with "what's the worst pickup line you've heard all night?" with mixed results. One girl kinda stumped me when she said I don't know give me one, luckily her guy friend interrupted. I made friends with him real quick, but the girl vanished while me and the guy were talking. Later I very very casually asked what a girl what she was drinking on my way to the bathroom. I was just trying to stay social and hardly even looked at her nor did I stop to hear her answer. She was standing real close to the bathroom and when I got out I realized how hot she was and approached her. I used the pickup line opener and she responded playfully "what are you drinking". I started laughing out loud thinking she was referring to me but it turned out that that was the line that was being used on her the most. We were near the center of the dance floor and it was difficult to talk. This girl was looking very good and was probably being hit on all night. I think I should have teased her more just to look different. A few minutes into our conversation the club closed and I lost her while everyone was leaving. I looked for girls on the way to my car but didn't run into anything interesting and went home.

Overall for my first time out specifically looking for girls I got some good experience. I felt some rejections which was good. Although I would have liked to at least get some numbers, I

Now I know I have a ton of things to work on, specifically:
- Opening people walking toward me and getting them to stop
- Finding more targets whether its lowering my standards or going to better locations
- Flying solo in general (It's so easy to look like a creep)
- I like the opener I used but I need a response for them asking me to give them a pickup line
- I won't be asking girls what they are drinking

I really want to get better so if you have any advice or criticisms I would absolutely love to hear. Also if you are in the area and looking for someone to go out with let me know because I'm new to the area and am probably going to be going out alone for a while.

I loved that post.

You have some good habit to keep track your progress. I'm not a big fan of night game, dont have time and energy to do it everyday.
However I do daygame more then 5 times a week.
What I want to give as advice is to do coffee shops, food quart and libraries or bookstores.
1-easier to practice conversation, most important part of he game, only way to learn flirting, positive vibe and humor is through practice.
2-go beside with low pressure opener, " I had to wait for my friend/I need to kill 5 minutes, you look more interesting then my coffee/ my Ipod/ my studies etc. May I sit?"
3-once you are there, just chat as they are normal people. There is a couple really lame but simple topic you can use as backups:
a)work/study (what you do for living?)
b)nationality (where do you come from)
c)hobbies (do you workout/ do you do yoga, w.e hobbies you do...)
d)Actuality (have you seen the hobbit, its super lame/cool, w.e opinion you have about the movie/TV show/politician/local sport event...)

Once you are good with conversation, you can apply all the theory, technique, tricks you learn over that base.

4-the last good thing with daygame, its will train you to be sober while you game and its totally FREE!!!!


And for the end, if you are interested on doing direct daygame here is a really good example:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YlZYmPbc ... Nw&index=6

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gMgik1pS ... &index=17

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I really appreciate the response

Day game seems easier to do more often rather than waiting for the best nights to go out. I'm not the biggest fan of clubs, but don't mind them either. I would rather be talking at a bar or something. I'm definitely going to try out some of the locations you mentioned. You made me realize that I didn't try using a time constraint. I'm going to make a point to try that next time. Being a college student, the word free is one of my favorites. Definitely going to do more day game. That video was very helpful to. I'm usually hesitant about interrupting a girl or girls current interaction and that video may have presented a solution.

Keep the advice coming

This is just for myself so I don't forget my problems

Soloed last night walked around downtown. Went into a few bars/clubs. All were really loud.

I went in and out of places looking for sets to open. I had SO MUCH trouble with the loud music. Approach anxiety kicked in because I couldn't think of shit to do to overcome the volume. I bitched out on a few sets because of it. Felt more uncomfortable when the sets were larger than 4 especially with the noise. I was glad to use the opener where I grab a girl and introduce her to a random guy, telling him she was shy. It didn't hook her, but it help me befriend the guy and his friends. Opened 2 girls at end of night after a fight and ran bf test pretty well. One wasn't as interested and she sarcastically said she was 30 and that led to the end of the conversation. I should have asked the other girl if her friend is always like that.

Sticking points
1. How to handle the loud music
2. Establishing social proof when I'm alone in loud place
3. I need to follow the 3 second rule at all times

One of my classes got cancelled so I took the time to try some day game. Started off asking "how are you?" to pretty much everybody with mixed responses as I walked around campus. Had some trouble but thinking of things to stop girls walking toward me. I felt like walking around the smaller campus wasn't doing me too good and after the traffic died down I'm sure a few people noticed me passing by more than once. I tried to fight that by taking weird routes and stuff, started walking slower. I sat alone at a table right in the middle of a T shaped intersection. Made eye contact with girls walking by, smiled, and asked how they were. Next a girl smiles and doesn't say anything I'm going to ask her if she is shy because she clearly looked right at me, smiled, and didn't say anything. Ended up opening a good amount of girls and definitely am getting more confident. I'm finding that I'm thinking too much about what to say rather than just going with the flow, which I know I am good at. I left a few sets early as conversation started dying but totally got into a talkative state after a few good conversations.

Sticking points
1. Stop thinking so much about what to say
2. Keep conversation going

It's like Adam Lyons says. Just read one book and then start talking to people. Keep an open mind and you are on a path to success.

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Just got back in from a night out. Went solo for an hour and a half, and then had two buddy's for the rest of the night. I went downtown as usual. A few days ago I started thinking that I am way too picky with girls for someone with my level of skills. Not sure if I should lower my standards for girls and start talking to sixes, or keep talking to the eights and nines out there like I am. The problem is I'm not seeing as many of them as I'd like. Since my last post I've started trying more daygame and direct approaches with a lot of success. It's making me want to go out more during the day than at night. Anyway, I didn't do great solo but I can definitely see an improvement from my last night outings. I approached more girls than I ever have in one outing. Most were done while I was alone. The first bar I went into the security guard who checked my ID asked if I was lit when I took the picture (hilarious because I do look like it). After that I was opening girls with "Real quick, do I look like a drug dealer" and got mixed results. I eject way too quickly at night.

When I met up with friends I more hesitant to open, but I think that's because we went to a club (I still haven't got a good solution for loud clubs). We ended up leaving the club and I was hoping to talk to some people walking down the street. We ended up at another club because my friend wanted to piss, but I was the only one who got in.

Real info starts here:
I was heading straight for the bathroom but it was crowded so I was moving slow and getting pushed a little (I'm way too polite for some of these places lol). I noticed a girl was behind me getting pushed into me so I teased the girl for pushing me. I don't remember what I said but she grabbed my hand and walked in front of me. Her hand was pretty cold so I busted on her for it and ended up grabbing her cousin's hand, who was now directly behind me. I found out they were going to the bathroom too, and I ended up taking the lead back and pulling them to the bathrooms. We talked a little on the way and when we got to a hall where the bathrooms were I just pulled out my phone and said:

Strummer12: Put your number in it
Asian girl: At least buy me a drink first
Strumme12: Alright how about after we piss we play a game. If you win I'll buy you a drink, and if I win you buy me a drink?
Asiangirl: Ok I'll meet you right outside the bathroom

I didn't see her when I got out of the bathroom so I started walking out. On the way I saw and passed her. I was about to leave when I decided to go back and say something to her. I grabbed her hand and told her friends I was going to borrow her really quick. We went to the bar and I ran Style's 5 questions routine (I've been waiting to try this lol). It worked and though she tried to fight it a little she gave in and went to the bar and ordered a drink. I started talking to other people while I waited for her. The nice guy in me tried to stop her, and I guess it worked because I stalled her just enough for the bar to close. We talked very briefly and I'm not sure if I was talking fast (I naturally talk extremely fast and work really hard to slow down) or something because she eventually said I looked nervous. It was weird because she was a 7 max and I wasn't nervous at all (which leads me to believe I was just talking fast). I held direct eye contact and used super confident body language after she said that. I leaned in while looking her dead in the eyes. For a second I thought about kissing her, but we were pretty much talking shit to each other by that point. I even brushed her hair out of her face to make a point that I wasn't nervous. I didn't go in for the kiss thought because our conversation was getting intense in an argumentative way (maybe I should have just disregarded the words and tried to kiss her). I tried pulling my phone out again and telling her to put her number in but she started saying that I seemed nervous. Our conversation ended up with:

Asaingirl: You should be less nervous when hitting on a girl
(by now I am getting pretty irritated because I wasn't nervous at all and I think she is just acting tough)
Strummer12: You must think you are something really special to think that I am hitting on you.

I think that line doomed me. I felt rejection coming and I believe I just blew myself out before she did. I couldn't recover from her questioning me being nervous.

Improvement:
1. Body language
2. Opening way more sets
3. Learning to talk under the loud music (using loud low voice)
4. More kino
5. Realized that no matter how I open I need to have a transition ready before she even answers my opener

Sticking points:
1. I need to decide whether or not to open girls who I'm not as physically attracted to or to just stick with the more rare 7 and ups I run into. (help with this would be much appreciated)
2. Still unsure how to open with loud noise
3. I may have asked for the number too quickly

Overall I got way more comfortable with day game and am having trouble with looking like a creeper or every other guy on the streets at night.

I'm going out tomorrow day and night and I'll probably post again after.

I'm glad you said this because I stopped posting because I didn't think anybody would read or give advice. I can see how I benefit from these because I forget everything. Thanks for reading, I really appreciate your advice.