So I’ve decided to start my very own gaming journal. I will post my field experiences, thoughts and goals here from now on. I have been meaning to start a journal for some time, but just have never gotten around to it. I think subconsciously I have been scared to share my experiences in fear of criticism I would receive from others. Yes, I knows that’s silly, and one thing I’m trying to improve on is to stop seeking validation from others.

I hope by putting my thoughts out there, and referring back to them from time to time, and by receiving feedback from others on this forum, my game and other areas of my life will improve over time. I’d like to thank anybody in advance who takes the time out to have a read and help me with my development.



Recap of previous nights out this year:



Wed 9th Jan, Flashies, Drinking

The only set of interest for the night was when I kinda made eye contact with a girl on the dance floor, and we had a bit of a grind for a while. I didn’t close the deal, and she ended up going off with some other guy, but I took some positives away from it.

It reinforced that girls can/are attracted to me. There is hope in the world! Yes, there is a lot of work to do, but there is hope! She was attracted to me, at least at the start. And I’m only going to get better. No biggy that this fish got away.




Friday 11th Jan, City, Drinking
Me and a few mates started off at The Alma. I was dead, and I was too scared to approach anything anyway.

We left and went to the city. At Distil, I saw a girl who I’d hooked up with before on a drunken night out at Red Square. I’ve always been scared of going to Distil. It seems like whenever I walk past the place it has really classy clientele there. I find it quite intimidating. But yeah, turns out, it wasn’t that bad. Stupid mind of mine... So anyway, this girl… easy approach right? Since I’ve met her before and all. Turns out she couldn’t even remember who I was, but I could tell she was in to me anyway, so we ended up hooking up again. Made me feel a lot more confident.

Second set was at The Woolshed. I opened a girl near the dance floor by asking if she knew where the good places to go clubbing on a Friday night were. Her friend came over and joined in the conversation. These girls were pretty hot, and I think they actually liked me and my wing. Was definitely feeling some good vibes there, but didn’t have the balls to escalate anything and we left. Yeah that sucks. Growing balls… definitely on my list of things to work on!





Saturday 12th Jan, Garage, Drinking

Fairly non eventful night. Was out for one of my mates birthdays. I didn’t have a good wing. I guess I’ve become fairly reliant on having a good wing. Someone positive, someone motivated. Kinda sucks that I kinda suck without a good wing. Hopefully I can improve on this in the future. Another area to work on.





Sunday 13th Jan, Grand, Drinking
Working on: Not seeking validation from others

Ventured off to the Grand with a friend of mine. We went to the backpackers first for a couple of Coronas. We had a few sets in the outside area and befriended a few out-of-towners. My friend was doing particularly well early and was very sociable, hooking sets easily. We even had a good chat with the security guard as we were leaving.

At The Grand, a lot of my mates were there, from different circles. I was in a really good mood, but not really approaching, mainly hanging out with friends. Was having a great time but needed to man up and approach, after all, that’s what we were there for.

I saw a girl who looked familiar, then remembered she added me on Facebook. I opened with “ You added me on Facebook, who are you”. She saw a photo of me on Facebook that her friend shared and added me randomly. I could tell she liked me from the get go and it wasn’t long before we were kissing. Not great game, just good luck. Yes, I still had to escalate the interaction, and definitely will gain some experience from that, but at the end of the day, I got lucky. In fact she pretty much gamed me. Who am I kidding. No real effort on my part. All I had to do was not stuff up. I didn’t

I do get lucky from time to time with women showing interest in me, and have women approaching me. I wouldn’t change that, but it does hold me back from approaching. I know if I wait long enough, eventually a girl will show interest in me. It’s just another excuse for me to be a wuss and chode off in the corner somewhere with my mates and not approach. Problem is, women don’t approach me often enough, so I’ve had too many nights where I’m the chode in the corner for the WHOLE night. That’s not cool. I don’t want to be that guy. I want to change this about myself.

What I really respect is those guys who pick their targets, the girls THEY are super attracted to, and then take action to make those girls a part of their reality. That is something I’m not currently able to do, but I’m working towards it, and getting better with every night out