After reading alot of PUA things I realize it is important to show that you are the prize and generally have women come to you; or at least not be a desperate loser.

However, I feel like there are exceptions to every rule:

The other night at the club I DHV to this group of girls; one of whom was stunning. I wanted her. bad. Of course I didnt show it; not even subtly. Anyway after making her laugh and stuff I walked away to approach other women.

I hit the dancefloor and was dancing with alot of girls; but I really wanted to dance with the girl I talked to earlier; who was just at the bar alright.

Are you guys telling me its NEVER ok to just go back to her and complement her and try to sweep her off her feet by saying what I truly felt about her... she had the most gorgeous eyes. I was gonna do this without sounding desperate. I was then going to try to dance with her. But I avoided the whole thing because I didnt wanna seem "needy."

What if I just went up real smooth and say; "Look, I dont wanna dance with all those other girls; I wanna dance with you girl...." Or something like that.

Im a good dancer so I can back it up...

Basically... after you show a girl your not a toolbag by demonstrating higher value... is there anyway to show her that you think shes fly and that you want to dance with her....

You guys are telling me a girl [or atleast some girls] wouldnt be flattered by that?

Im talking about doing this very "smoothly." Like Johnny Depp in Public Enemies when he goes to his girl at the coat check in the Steuben Club and says "I like big houses, fast cars, and YOU."

Show her you think shes fly...but be smooth about it.

So did you end up asking her to dance or not?

Also something a lot of PUA's don't realise is that every girl is different and nothing in PUA culture is set in stone. Something that works perfectly for one girl may creep another one out because not every girl is the same.

If the girl is outgoing then chances are she will be more likely to approach you after you successfully built rapport and comfort.

But a shy or innocent girl is waaaay less likely to do this even if you did everything perfect. Picking up shy, innocent girls is usually more rewarding but it is more work.

My point is (and a lot of other PUA's are probably gonna get butthurt over this) you can't stick to your material all the time. If it isn't working try something else - like asking her to dance - if it works then you've just successfully field tested a new approach and made yourself a better PUA congratulations! If it doesn't then you know that it's not a good technique but keep in mind that just coz it didn't work on one girl at one particular time doesn't mean it will never work on anyone.

Just keep on your toes and be ready to adjust game when you think it's appropriate, hope this helps bro!

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So you make a stunning girl laugh for a few minutes. And you think you can just walk back in and tell her "how you feel?" This is classic beta behaviour. Instead, if you're as good as you say you are at dancing, you should have just started dancing with her. If not on the dance floor, then you should have continued talking to her and creating attraction, then grabbed her hand and told her to follow you.

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Dude girls fucking LOVE IT when guys show their interested, but you have to be a cool guy, what is your criteria for being a cool guy?

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Telling a girl how much you like her is beyond beta, it's straight up AFC.

You don't need to to tell her you like her in order to get with her. You just need to give her your attention. Instead of saying "I could dance with all those other girls, but I want to dance with YOU instead because I like you more than all of them."

Instead of that, just say "Let's go dance."

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Its the thread starter again...

No I did not even go back to talk to her. She was talking to other guys and I figured Id just go meet other girls. When I left the club I realized I should have taken a gamble. I know I just met her, but you could tell she wasnt a huge whore.. and she was gorgeous. I wanted to show her I wanted her on the dance floor...and that I thought she was fly you know? (Not just physically fly...). Basically I wanted to demonstrate higher value by showing her I wanted to dance with her even though there were multiple girls who wanted to dance with me instead.

You could not have said this better dude. Every girl is different. And you definitely have to take everything with a grain of salt. Like some guys may say never buy a girl a drink....but heck It might work for some girls who want a more polite guy you know? Every girl is different.

Not every girl is the same man. I wasnt telling her how I feel like puppy love crap. I was gonna tell her in a confident manner that I thought she was the flyest girl there and wanted to dance with her on the floor. But yeah maybe I should wait until Im actually better at game to do that. Im sure it works on some girls.

There's nothing wrong with a normal text size buddy

What do you mean?

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