I read your original post and I can really relate to you. A lot of those traits you stated I also share, I'm also a very confident, motivated person. I know what I want in life and I strive to achieve it. I do take quite a lot of risks, as I believe in trying new things, but haven't been met with much success, I can get numbers (quite easily) but after that it's a struggle.

If you had written my post with any attention at all you would know I advise not to use the first move on the dreamgirl. Because it is traumatic to lose your dreamgirl. Just keep on friendly terms with the dreamgirl and target the non-dreamgirls. Then one day when the iron is hot and you come sufficiently equipped, forge it and try to get the dream girl.

I was kindly directed here by Mr. Marville from a similar topic I started. (forgive me if I'm unawarely hijacking this topic)
I have just read this whole topic and your field report (now reading your second) and the similarities we have are mind boggling. Though you seem to have a better way of articulating your situation. Perhaps It's because I ain't English.
Anyway, I will definitely follow the endeavour you are making, and perhaps apply the info I read here on myself.
My guess is that if a person so alike can archieve the exact same goal, I can do it aswell. It's already putting more faith in my shoes.

I believe this issue has something to do with the way I act. I am not shy at all and just like ohforsure I could easily stand in front of a big crowd. But I do notice that my influence to people is below my liking.
I lately found out that when I'm confident, I start talking fast or way too loud and thereby losing people's attention just to name one thing. The books "How to win friends and influence people" and "The Way Of The Superior Man" could be a good training directly at the root of this problem I think. What do you think?
I am wondering about something that's in conflict with this statement.
Altough I agree what you say, One's dreamgirl is mostly his oneitis right? from what I can tell from my experience is that I wasted too much time on her, and thereby I'm glad I've finally forgotten her. But at the time I finally master decent skills to be a good lover I think it's better to leave her behind and proceed with your new direction in life. Altough on the other hand, having the ability to finally seduce her after all these years could indeed trigger a great form of happyness in your love life. So I'm not sure exactly what to make of it.

Again my apologies if I'm hijacking here, If I may I would love share my situation here since I'm in the same boat as OP.

Still you have my attention, and I'm interested in the progress you will be making!

If you have 'oneitis' well, that's a natural biological phenomenon called 'falling in love'. It is engraved upon your genetic makeup. For instance my genes make me extremely attracted to thin, petite, girly, super-Über feminine girls with fairy-light voices and slim butts and sleek bellies and cute breasts and shimmering bright eyes. And thus it was inevitable that I would fall for her, even though I was having secondary girlfriends and still a third girlfriend stashed abroad this girl was eventually conquered by her anxiety issues and what not once I confessed my feelings to her. But I am like Luther: "Here I stand, I can do no else."

Your post kind of inspired me.
I'm reading a book "way of the superior man" and it says that in order to achieve something, you must often step out of your comfort zone and just do it, as long as you don't fake your capabilities.

I'm a developer in some entertainment related matter and years ago wouldn't dare to dream about asking my oneitis of doing acting work for it.
I truly wanted her on the team. Love or not.
So I grabbed some guts and gave it a shot with asking her to join.
Due to my failed attempts in the past I started the message that she didn't had to worry about another one of those, and immediately after I confirmed that she was my crush the whole time. And yes I was fully concious about the rule of never telling a girl you like her until you are in a relation ship.
Why I did it? Well, after saying it, I feel much more comfortable talking to her. now that the whole pressure is off.
Besides, if it's all about the details, I said she was my crush, not saying she still is. (not that she doesn't know or anything)
Anyway, to sum it all up. Her response was surprisingly positive. Even after all this time of no contact and me dropping a bomb on her out of the blue. She's on the team and soon we'll meet somewhere.

Talking about the project I want her for is no problem, but do you think that despite my confession there's some way to get somewhere romantically with her? I know people having great relationships that started with their confession.
Anyhow I'll just go for it. See where it gets. Since the pressure is off, I can reheat the can.. or something like that...I don't know.

It is good that I inspired you, if you mean me with "you". No-one knows what happened to this guy who built this thread. He started out by saying: "I'm not gonna fail Marville, I'll be tough om myself, I know many people give up when it gets hard but I won't!!!"

Who knows what happened to him. Maybe he became a top-lawyer or director of a stock marketing bureau and is, as we speak, in a hot-tube surrounded by slim twin blondes holding a bottle of champain. Could be he is scavenging the street for crack in a torn and muddy coat. Or he hung himself in an obscured attic where a frigid gale blows through the cracks, making the wood utter the sighs of winter. No one knows, no one will.

I personally think the best would be to get rid of AA. Also study body language.

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