Hi peeps,

They say, you become a pick-up artist when you are able to turn an AFC into one. And they also say, strangers help you more than friends.

I am an AFC, lost my virginity to an hb9 not long ago and started dating 4 months ago but things went downhill. I am a university student, surrounded by very successful friends when it comes to women. They give good advice on how to deal with women but not on meeting, texting, attracting, etc etc...Infact, they're very useless in this field, before I lost my virginity they always said "don't worry, you will know what to do" or "it will just happen". Truth is, it didn't just happen, I made things happen.

Now, I'm finding it hard to move on but I will go out of my way to move on and add girl number 2 in my life, I lost all my confidence, I get remorse meeting girls and lost the drive to do so , only to go back home and regret missing out on taking my chances. This forum has taught me a lot, thanks to the great advicers in here and the inexperienced ones raising their topics. I feel like home here when it comes to advice taking.

My problem is, I am confused over what method to use, I try different things different times depending on mood, but for me, I have to be myself which I feel is AFC. Secondly, when I ask for advice, I get a lot of great responses but I do not know which one to take so I choose the one that matches my personality best.

What I am looking for, is one or two PUAs here with experience in London in the field so I can contact them on a pm one-on-one basis for a consistent successful results. I do not fully agree by MM as a lot of it requires not being yourself. I find myself most adapted with Vin Di Carlo's material. "The Attraction Code" is an amazing guide and "Pandora's Box" definitely helped. Right now, I am struggling a lot with text game. I am kindly asking for any volunteers that are willing to take me as a faithful commited student to see me rise. I will give it a lot of effort. I am 23, only fucked one girl and kissed only another one. Please let me know. Thanks in advance.

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Inner game is ALL you need, then create your own routine

the book attraction code, is really good, yes mm, is obsolete the best on mm, is the concept of "shit test" imo... You still need more education, i recommend you read "sex God" by rose, since you need to become good in bed, that is extremely important... I also recommend this other book, called minimal game, it cost $7 bucks in kindle, if you have friends that are good with women look at what they are doing that is the best way to learn:

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Look at your friends for non verbal communication, listen to what they say and try to recognize and analyse it by looking in the various seduction books. Surely they'll use some push-pull methods, cocky frame, selfcontrol and confidence. They'll probably be using disqualifiers, negs, the lot. When they're chatting with girls listen and look for these things.
"you're gorgeous, in a childlike kind of way." neg
"I don't date people from London." disqualifier
"I'd surely fuck you, to bad I'm on my period" Push-pull + C/F

They're probably not aware of any of these terms so it's hard for them to explain what they do in order to score girls. In their mind it just happens.

With regards to this I was just telling a friend of mine that when it comes to methods, just look at as many as you want and pick out the things that will work for you/you'll be most comfortable in using (to start with at least).

Also where you said "I have to be myself which I feel is AFC", that's all in your head, being yourself is the best thing you can do, you just have to adapt yourself conveying your good qualities more often. As well as working on things that will improve your self-esteem, so for example if you are unhappy with your body? exercise more, unhappy with your job? start searching for a new one, want to drink less? take steps to start cutting down. If you do things that make you more confident about yourself, that will come across in your interactions with people.

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"My toughest opponent is always myself"
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Don't adapt yourself to game, try the reverse. You learn a few things, some things work, some don't. The worst thing you can do is try to fundementally change yourself to fit some book's idea of the ladies' man. That being said, you have to figure out what's truly you and what's just an easily changed belief or idea. What could be made better, and what just isn't congruent with your personality. Odds are you'll end up changing yourself a bit for the better, but you shouldn't have to pull a 180 with who you are.

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These hos ain't loyal

You are full of potential man!

The fact that you havent chosen a path but let it depend on mood is a great thing, you will go far if you let yourself get influences from all people who are good with women. Also, when you get advice, take the one that makes sense to you and keep the others in mind in case you get another chance to try them out.

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I appreciate the advice peeps. Steve's lessons are too expensive for me at the moment. I'd rather stay as it is than pay a big sum to learn something that most people do for free as a nature of evolution! No offense to anyone who paid for PUA lessons but If im going to be real about myself, I will be ashamed to admit I paid to learn how to get girls when I know that the man and value inside me can pull it just like I did before. I just need basic day to day guidance from a focused experienced individual when needed.

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Inner game is ALL you need, then create your own routine

This forum is the place for that.

You say your friends are successful. That's a luxury I never had, so be grateful for that! You say you need a mentor? I think you need a role model and those you've got plenty of. Don't ask your friends how they do, analyze how they do it. It's usually the small subtle things.

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Optimistic?