When I'm at home or with certain people, or even around new people, I can be so fucking awesome that I truly believe it. I feel so confident and energetic. I've felt like this around women before too, and when I do, I can see/sense that they love it. But most time than not, I'll come across that same girl again -but I'm unable to be like that. I just feel so boring. Today for example, I saw a girl that obviously is a little shy, and I had enjoyed myself around her before and made her laugh, but this time I literally felt like a puny little shy guy. It was lame. I've gotten better at talking with people in general since I began my journey, but I still haven't been laid and I'm still not super good at talking with women. I feel like it just happens spontaneously, like I can't control it. I want to feel like that all the time and make a serious permanent change. Can anyone relate to this/ give advice?

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Most things we're afraid of are simply challenges, so smile because you'll become stronger from it.

Yes we all get "in the zone" and you just have to find way to pull your self out of a funk when your in one...often times it takes some warming up.

Lets say you meet a girl at the bar, have an awesome time! get her number, your on your game and fell positive! you set up a day 2 but before the day 2 you are nervous and low energy, try to pull your self out of that by finding things that will pull up your state.

For example on the way to the date listen to up bear music, say you go to a bar get there a few minutes early, talk to people, open a set of women to bump up your state and loosen up so that when she gets there you feel good, take her to a high energy spot, some place where everyone is positive and energetic!

you just have to find things that raise your state...everyone is different.

The thing that works best for me is opening sets...when I get to a party or a bar my state is always low and my energy is low, I bring it up by interacting with people, feeding off their energy, after 2 or 3 sets my energy level and state go from a 2 to a 10! its amazing what this can do for you.

Have you seen the movie "Don Juan DeMarco?" In it, Johnny Depp's character describes his way of living - he is always inspired by the outer and inner beauty of women!

That awesome feeling you're talking about is being "in state." Lots of guys run out of gas and they feel like their state has been depleted. However, you'll have never-ending state if you get it from a different source like simply being around women and being able to feel just how wonderful they are.

Whenever I'm around pretty girls, I get excited! It feels so great to be around their feminine energy. As soon as I can make them giggle, I feel that confident and energetic feeling that you're talking about.

Some guys get nervous because they don't want to fuck things up, but being unattached to the outcome can make a world of difference here.