Okey to be honest there is a long and short version to all of this, I'll start with the short but if any of you guys need more information to help me I'm happy to tell all.

So the short version to all of this is I've been seeing this girl on and of for about the past month's, she has some serious ex/trust issues which include him being a controlling bastard when they were going out and the fact that he cheated on her with her sister.

She was staying in Glasgow when we first met but has moved and now stay's about an hour from where I do.

I know she's being seeing other guys, at times she's sort of thrown it in my face to get a reaction and about 4 week's ago sadly I DLV'd and gave her one, after this happened she started saying we should just be friends. I was pissed off more at myself than anything else but I decided to run with it thinking "hay the worst that can happen is things stay the same". So over Christmas and New Year's she came over to mine we watched some DVD'S i Kinod as well as a could however I wasn't getting enough IOI's so I didn't try anything. So while I was taking her home she could tell something was up with me and was constantly asking "What up / Are you ok?" I ignored it the first few time's telling her she was imagining it but then, eventual, for some reason the word's just popped out my mouth "I don't think I can see you as a friend, I just feel things are really awkward". We spoke about this the rest of the drive back to her's I wasn't happy with what had happened but I felt satisfied that I could just move on and forget about her.

So on Friday I get a text from her asking what I'm doing on Saturday I reply "Don't know yet probably town what about you?". For whatever reason she Doesn't reply.

So Saturday morning again I get a text from her "What are you doing tonight?" I replied this time saying "Is this you trying to invite yourself over to mine?" Basically she want's to get a drink with me, her one of my mates and one of her's.

So that night after a good drinking session, her looking through my phone and seeing photos and text from two other girls she asked to talk to me in private. So in the bedroom, she asked why i'm seeing other people if I like her blah blah blah. I DHV as much as I can with every thing I say (we are both really drunk though) Then I kiss her one thing leads to another we are on my bed she trying to get my dick out and I for whatever reason stop her. I tell her "You don't just get to walk in and out of my life and get what you want when you want" we are still kissing though I've not spoiled the mood just told her I'm not having sex with her.

After 10 minutes so gets weird we end up having an argument and about half an hour after it all calms down she tells me she still has feelings for her ex that she has been ignoring (they broke up 8 months ago)

so the next day she basically said she doesn't know if she can see me anymore. I tell her that the whole time we have known each other she has be putting pressure on herself to make something happen with us and she needs to stop it. Basically that's the last thing that happened

I'm planning on not speaking to her for the next 3 - 4 weeks

any other advice on things I can do on going forward with this would be much appreciated

I don't have onitase with this girl, I am seeing other woman but for some reason she is always at the forefront of my mind

and sorry for the long ass post

Why 3-4 weeks, why not a month? A day? Think about how ridiculous that sounds.

You say you don't have oneitis, but she's always at the forefront of your mind and got under your skin enough to post about her. You're intentionally ignoring her for a set period of time. My friend, you have oneitis.

You need a healthy dose of other women. I'm not convinced you're truly dating other women if she's so prominent to you. Or the women you're going after aren't good enough, up your game.

I think your probably right about me not properly dating other woman. I'm still planing to wait 3-4 weeks and try again with her but properly pursuing other women is going to help me deal with it better if it doesn't go the way I'm hoping. Cheers.

wait, so why didnt you have sex with her?

Women associate sex with emotion. If you had a chance and blew it, then that was definitely it.

Also, about the DLV thing, I don't understand why you didn't just freeze her out and make her qualify to you? Instead, you kept DLV...

Then, when you get her in a position where you actually want her, you decide to freeze her out?

All backward.