I have ''met'' a girl in an IRC and at first she seemed too arrogant, but in few days things have changed so much that we talk a lot (and by a lot I mean... A LOT) and has confessed that she likes me very much, that she wants to kiss me and other similar things.

I was quite surprised because at first she seemed arrogant, an because she seemed to be in love with a guy who was ignoring her. Now she says she still loves him, and i think they are approaching again. The problem I have with this is that sometimes she suddenly says something about her ''beloved'' (literal, that she loves him so much and that she feels guilty. But then, some hours later, she can confess that she wants to kiss me, that I excite her and other things nobody in love would say to another man.

I don't feel any bad about this because:

- I like her, but in a non jelous way. I don't want girlfriends at the moment.

- I'm not destroying any relationship, and a woman who flirts so much with other men despite having a ''boyfriend'' (if she has)... well, you know.

As I say, I like her and she is very beautiful, and I also enjoy spending virtual time with her. My ultimate goal is to turn her into an ''special friend'', so I want her to stop feeling guilty about liking me and wanting me to like her. Problem is: I don't know how, and I think I'm starting to lose the ''momentum''. Of course, I act totally non reactive when she talks about that other guy, and it's very easy because I'm simply not jelous.

It's the first time I'm in this kind of situation, so help and advices will be appreciated.

Update: After her being very romantical this afternoon, now suddenly says that she only wants my friendship. I changed the subject and we will talk again this night, and it's clearer now that she is attracted but feels guilty. She feels that she owes something to that other guy. It would be great to change that. In any case, this is great way of developing my skills, so I'm happy anyway.

The best advice I can give you is to get away from the computer. Do it in person.

I would, but there is some distance between. I would see her when she comes to my city, and then I would go ''all the way''. So the rest will have to done with the distance in mind.

What I don't like is that I'm starting to get a bit confused because of her attitude. If this confussion grows bigger before I can stop her doubts I'll have tu cut the contact, and I don't want to get to that situation.

I meant get away from the computer in general - where do you see this going? Is she going to move there and marry you? Are you going to visit her and have sex? Is she just going to be your interactive porn?

It just seems like a waste of time, I'd focus my efforts on people that are in front of you.

That being said, if all you're attempting is to prolong your internet fling: pull away, be less available to her and she'll come at you stronger.

Exactly, If she's used to chatting with you every night, then just be unavailable a couple of nights(Even if this is hard for you to do, find a game, or go outside or something) And she will start to see what she is missing and then a few days later when your online again she will start talking 100% and im almost sure she will show more interest .

It may seem impossible, but know she is begging for sex and I think that she is saying that we should be ''very special friends''. She says that I -don't know why- drive her sexually crazy, like no one has ever done, so right now we are where I wanted us to be. I can't believe it, because she is very attractive and I have put 0 effort, but I guess this kind things happen.