I know you like this chick, and that I already called her a facebook idiot, but I think she's also a text-tard too. Texting is a pretty simple process. If someone texts you something that seems like it should require a response, you should try to text back in a timely manner. If not, text them later and give a brief explanation for the delay. If you engage in a texting thread, don't just leave off mid way through and leave them hanging. Otherwise say "I gotta go" or "text u later" so they know you are ending communication. If the last text sent had no real purpose to it, it's okay to not respond to it.

She's obviously failing in that respect, but you are probably expecting too much. Yes, it'd be nice if a girl texted you out of the blue to see how you are doing and shoot the breeze, but you can't rely on that. Also, if you only text her silly stuff, she might just laugh to herself then set her phone down since it doesn't necessarily require a response. I know calling people sometimes seems MUCH harder than texting them, but if you really want to get to know the girl better you'll have to try speaking to her.

It's pretty simple. If texting works for you, keep doing it. If you find that you aren't good at communicating with the ladies like that, or maybe one particular girl sucks at texting, then stop doing it! Just call her instead.

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Man! this girl is reallly hard though. She doesn't like hugs, so i high five her when we part ways. She never answers the phone when i call. Only when im there to pick her up. And she never initiates text. UGH!

things i HAVE done with her:

3 hour long live show/musical
2 dinners
twirled her hair in my fingers (to which she said it takes forever to do her hair, dont touch it!)
and random little meet ups to bring her coffee or something.

What do you think? I haven't talked to her for 5 days. our last conversation went like

Me:
Is that a bad thing or something? (To her response calling me random)

Her:
umm....kinda? sometimes

Me:
O

and it's been 5 days since i last talked to her.

So when you say," You can't rely on a girl to text you out of the blue............"

Does that mean i HAVE to initiate with her again?

And i WANT to but there's a problem....remember...I deleted her number? LOL!!!

so now i dont' have her number. but i email her when she's at work all the time. Should i send her an email or just wait for her to ask me why i haven't been texting her? when she texts me and i take a long time to reply she kinda gets upset like," wow you're rude, you took forever to text back"

i once did the same shit you did.

but i did it with true intent, whereas you did it for the wrong reasons.

I met this girl in a bar, got her #, i built a solid first contact/impression, so i knew the texting would work.

we started texting, but after maybe 4-5 days i too felt like I was always the one initiating.

yes i did like this girl, but i also had other options.

so i just decided to stop contacting her. it was an experiment of sorts.

heres the thing tho. some girls just get used to shit. if you set a precedent (i.e. you always texting first) theyre not gonna think " oh i have to start initiating too". because YOU are the one leading and THATS the natural course of mankind.

anyways, in my case, because of the fact that i TRULY didnt care if this broad ever contacted me again, i wasnt bothered or was sitting there waiitng for her text. (in your case this is ovbiously different)

and 8-9 days later, i get this text from her like "heyy stranger" . as if I was at fault for not contacting her.

i took her anal virginity that was fun.

LOL at the irrelevant random anal virginity comment.

Anyways, so, should I hit her up then? Or just forget about her?

heres some advice i give my students:

do whatever you feel like. as long as its coming from an internally focused place of control, a non nonchalant fun vibe if you will. you could care less about the outcome. you just DO WHAT YOU WANT. because YOU WANT TO. and because its FUN FOR YOU.

could you imagine if the broad in question saw this thread? and saw that you were asking other guys "yo should i contact this girl or not?" MAJORLY unattractive and shows a complete lack of confidence. she would instantly lose any emotional/physical attraction she had/has for you.

Alright, i'll give in and hit her up....

I deleted her number so i dont have her number, but i will email her work email. Lol.

I said

"Hey baby! Happy new years....i would love 2 see you soon! "

How is that?

you gotta ask yourself. " will i be disappointed if it doesn't work? will i feel like an emotional tampon? "

you need to work on your "innner game" before going out into the field and raging because if your inner game is weak you will fail at a much higher rate. whereas a high inner game dude can basically get laid all the time without knowing what he is doing

Don't take it personal. Some girls are just very conservative and will never make the first move even in texting

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I wouldn't really care because I already deleted her number.
Anyways she responded in the quickness to my email with

"ohhhhhhhhhh, now you wanna talk to me"

What should i say?

I was thinking of going along the lines of

"Well, not as bad as wanting to see you!"

or

"Well, I've always wanted to talk to you, but I haven't really had the time to do so with all the holidays and stuff. But since that's all over now i would love to see you!"

or

"Well, I've been wanting to talk to you. But i've been busy lately. Wanna set something up for Valentine's Day?"


Also! on one of my pictures she commented and said

"You're fat!"

should i reply with

"You're fat too! Luckily for you, I like skinny girls with long legs " (she has long legs and is skinny)

Is that too creepy?

damnit where did you guys go! the longer i wait for a reply here, the longer it takes for me to reply back to her LOL!

helppp

I wouldn't really care because I already deleted her number.
Anyways she responded in the quickness to my email with

"ohhhhhhhhhh, now you wanna talk to me"

What should i say?

I was thinking of going along the lines of

"Well, not as bad as wanting to see you!"

or

"Well, I've always wanted to talk to you, but I haven't really had the time to do so with all the holidays and stuff. But since that's all over now i would love to see you!"

or

"Well, I've been wanting to talk to you. But i've been busy lately. Wanna set something up for Valentine's Day?"


Also! on one of my pictures she commented and said

"You're fat!"

should i reply with

"You're fat too! Luckily for you, I like skinny girls with long legs " (she has long legs and is skinny)

Is that too creepy?[/quote]

You are chasing because she isn't. You will continue to do so and she will continue to interact with you the same way unless you stop. She totally appears friend zone due to her lack of physical engagement (hates hugs, wtf?), responses to your attempts at it, and her overall communication with you. If you're really trying to pursue things with her, you need to be more unpredictable. Do not communicate with her whatsoever, and when she talks to you eventually (which she will do if she does like you, I promise) ignore it. You need to break the rhythm she has set drastically.

With that being said, definitely do not respond with any of these! You need to stop showing interest so she will show hers because you are too deep into the chasing to get any affectionate response.

You messed up by getting in touch with her again, you should have waited for her to break and contact you.
Prob too late now, but I'd say something like "Yeah, I had some stuff going on, done with that now though. How's the new year treating you?" and then just absolutely REFUSE to let her know what that 'stuff' was. Give her a mystery.

Didn't realise you'd had some dates with this chick though. Did you kiss her? If you've not kissed by the second date, you're gonna be right there in the friendzone right now dude, without some -drastic- action

Yeah i probably did mess up...damnit...but she replied realllly fast and she already wants to set something up for valentines day now! I did not kiss her =\ the farthest i've gone was twirled my hands thru her hair. I will kiss her tonight. we have dinner planned. lol.

anyways this is what i emailed her yesterday, and then she responded in less than a minute!!!

Me: Hey baby! Happy new years...i would love 2 see you soon!

Her: ooooh, now you wanna talk to me

Me: (a day later, this morning) Welll, I've been wanting to talk to you, but i've been really busy lately. Let's set something up for Valentine's Day

Me: .....aaaand we should get dinner tonight because i cant wait until valentines day

Her: Rude! You should still be able to text me though. (Little does she know, I deleted her phone number from my phone for the reason, so i CANT text her)

Her: but okay, are you gonna pick a place for dinner? hehehe

Her: There's valentine's day and my birthday too FYI!!!

I haven't responded yet. How should i respond to her throwing in that "birthday" comment?

Good stuff man, well done The 'busy' thing worked, and the Valentines day was great stuff, so you did well!

What I'd say would be something along the lines of "Ok, we should go to (such and such), place, good place. If dinner goes well we could do something even MORE fun on your birthday " but as long as you see her tonight - and go for a kiss no matter what!!! - then it doesn't matter what you say so much, as long as it's easygoing and cool.

Good luck on your dinner