Let me tell you a story.
I have a friend named Jack who dove head first into the Tucker Maxx craze. Tucker Maxx is a natural who is a complete dueche but gets away with it. He is incredibly dominant, he gets drunk, starts fights, does jackass type things and has sex with women. He chronicles his drunken adventures in books. (very entertaining) Jack wanted to be like Tucker Maxx in every single way. So he read the books and became infested with the spirit of duechbaggery and general assholledness.
Jack ran around our high school insulting students and teachers alike. He even stood outside a female empowerment seminar at our school and continuously told the women that were exiting, IN TEARS btw, that no matter what they were told in that seminar they are still bitches and they'd be "damn fools" to think that they are special.
The difference between Tucker and our old buddy Jack was that Tucker was loved and adored. People just shrugged it off and accepted that as his true personality. Jack on the other hand became hated by many and called a bad person. They said he was tryinggggg to be an asshole and that he was doing way to much.
Tucker Maxx is a
real life asswipe. Jack is a wanna be. The reason why Jack didn't end up with lots of lays and GF's is because he wasn't CONGRUENT with being an asshole.
Congruence basics
If you dress a sheep up like a wolf, he still aint a wolf.
So what is congruence? its Agreement, harmony, conformity, or correspondence. One of the greatest drives of a human being is to stay congruent. This is why a person who is dirt shit poor can win the lottery go from having 10 thousand to 10 million and still go broke after a number of years and end up with 10 thousand dollars once again. Its because they are incongruent with being rich, they make broke ass decisions and that why they are broke.
If your outside doesn't match your inside you are incongruent. A large majority of Pick-up is mental so your inner game must be congruent because incongruency will murder your seduction. A huge portion of success is your mindset.
As we all know I can give a AFC all the lines in the world but even if he says them. If he isnt congruent with the material then seduction is unlikely.
See women are seduction hounds. They can smell an incongruency faster than you can smell the shit that your dog left on the living room floor.
A BIG SEDUCTIVE LIE
There is no true perfect method that you can master. I once asked Chief a question and i remember vividly he messaged me back "I DONT KNOW MOTHER FUCKER CAN PICASSO TELL DALI, HOW TO PAINT, CAN DALI TELL PICASSO HOW TO PAINT."
I could feel the spittle coming into my virgin gpua face as i read it. (naaa jk it didnt go down like that but it woulda been alot funnier...for him atleast check out his outer game guide its the shit
chief-s-guide-to-outer-game-vt75887.html ). A similar thing when happened when I asked Daniel Balboa as well. He told me that everyone has their own specific style and what matters most is developing that.(his journal...by far one of the best
all-that-is-man-daniel-balboa-s-journal-vt134792.html )
That is why Mystery Method works extremely well for MYSTERY but for you...well it just might flat out suck or it might be amazing.Its HISSS METHOD, his style, and his routines. Its just how congruent you are with the material. Likewise cocky funny works for some people extremely well (i have found the more unattractive you are the better IMO) but for me it just makes me seem like an ass. You don't adopt a method in pick-up, you develop your own.
There is not nor will there ever be a perfect or fail-safe method. Cuz every pua is different and so is every HB
Now here is where things get specific
1) before i believed i could pull women...I couldn't pull women. even though i was talking to women i didn't believe women liked me so having women on my jock was incongruent.
Mindset is everything
story time! One day I was chillin, analyzing why this woman flaked on me.
BOOOOM IT HIT ME. The types of women i wanted were not congruent with me. I was not congruent with the image she had of someone who she would fuck or be with. She was a super christian woman who loved god and dressed preppy. We had nothing in common, no emotional connection other than we were both had similar majors that's it. That image she had in her mind of a man she wanted wasn't me.
We have all heard the saying "birds of a feather flock together". Have you noticed the women you like all have something in common with you. When you connect with someone after all what your doing is finding shared interests. The women you like have to be similar tooo you in some way shape or form.
Even when opposites attract they gradually start becoming similar. Maybe you have or haven't seen this but i have countless times. A preppy white girl and a thug black dude start dating. At first your like WTF how are they dating they have nothing in common. Then over time she starts to dress more urban and he starts to dress more preppy. They begin to become congruent to each others image of attractive.
NO TRUE RATING SYSTEM
Just as I said earlier about what she desired wasn't me the same thing applies with PUAS and WOMEN. Your 10 and my 10 probably look a lot different. Whats CONGRUENT with me is not CONGRUENT with you. The girls you find attractive are the ones most congruent to you. Its been proven that you are more attracted on a psychological level that are attracted to men like you. You fit, your congruent to each other. This is an idea that a PUA named Poeticallyskuac talks about i 100% agree with it you cannot accurately rate women because we all are attracted to different things. Sometimes a a girl is aesthetically pleasing but shes not your type.
Congruence and Connection
This finally leads us to how congruence can MAKE YOU BETTER. If you like a certian type of girl it will be much easier to get said girl by becoming congruent to men they like. Now you can dress like them, act like them, and mimic them. That's we well all do we are systematically becoming more congruent with naturals. But specifically if you like rocker chicks...become a rocker guy. In addition to just the look you have to be able to share interests with the women. Every relationship is formed out of some congruent value. Me and my best friend became friends because we both shared the same congruent interest madden nfl. When people say "we have alot in common" they are basically saying we are congruent. If you are congruent with each you are connecting and you sprinkle some sexual tension in their and VWAHLAAA you have a seduction
note for the mods : i didnt know where to post this so i posted it in the lounge. If this isnt where this goes then move it as you please
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