ok ill need to set the scene here a little bit, i dated a girl for 4 years, then we broke up because she wanted kids and i dont. anyways she dated another guy for 2 years then broke up with him. then we ran into each other not long after they broke up and we met semi regular then started having sex but no relationship. i ve now known her for 9 years.
a few months ago she came round to my house and we made out and that was it and it wasnt really making out she wasnt really into it and for the first time ever not had sex not even oral.
last sunday she came round again, again quite cold. this time she says 'ive been talking to my mum and i dont think i should sleep with you anymore' 'what if i get a boyfriend i still want you in my life'
personally i dont really want her around now (this is gonna sound sexist) but why would i keep her around if i aint getting sex from her. why would i wanna be stuck in the ljbf zone.

now shes been messaging me everyday since, ive not instigated messaging her since, expecting me to be her therapist which i wont do either, then she started sending me pictures of her in her underwear.

now for someone who wants to see other people she is acting peculiar and sending an ex pics of her in her underwear isnt normal, its like she dont want me to forget her.

i ve been going through my old pua books trying to motivate myself then when i do she comes back with this shit and it deflates me, what should i do??

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ps the underwear pic was about 15 minutes ago

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Fuck her mercillessly. Then either make her your gf or a fuck buddy, depending on what YOU want.

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doesnt work she is saying no more sex shes trying to put me in the dreaded 'lets just be friends' zone. basically it feels like shes saying to me you aint getting none of this so im gonna tease you and guess what im getting up to.

she was my fb until a few months ago

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you know what women are like. they never say what they mean.

is it possible that when she says 'i don't think we should sleep together anymore', she means 'give me what i want (kids and commitment) and i'll sleep with you.'

what woman talks to her mother about not sleeping with someone and then tells you 'i don't think we should sleep together'? only a woman who is seriously invested in you, no?

if a girl wants to ljbf you, she'll give you far less answers than you're getting right now.

thats my problem she is basically trying to put a hold on me, its going from no sex to look what you could have had. but i dont want you to go away, even if i get another man

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On a logical level she wants you to just be her friend, on an emotional level she wants you to fuck her.
What I have done in similar situations (with success) is to tell the girl that we should just enjoy our time together and see what happens. "If you get a a boyfriend, or I get a girlfriend, we can still be friends without sex - but why stop enjoying each other's company if be both enjoy it? Let's just take it one day at a time and see where it leads us, ok baby?"

If she comes over to make out, just play with her tits, kino down to her pants and rub her clit while making out. I'd say there's a 90% chance of you fucking her after that. If she removes your hand, just make out some more and go back down again. Do this again and again until she submits and lets you mount her. If she gets pissed off tell her that you are a man with sexual urges and that it comes natural to you, as an automated reflex. She'll understand. Then go for her pussy again and again.

If it ends with her leaving without sex, keep her as a facebook friend so that you have yet another girl on your friend's list, and don't answer her messages too often, unless when YOU feel like it. That way you are mindfucking her, not the other way around. And chances are she'll understand that you're not interested in having a close friendship unless there is sex involved. She will then probably want a friendship that includes sex. Keep her in your life until you have a small harem of 3-5 other girls (or more/less depenind on how much time you have available for girls). Unless she is one of these top 3-5 women in your life, you then completely stop answering her messages. That's what girls do when they are not interested in a guy, so I guess she'lll be able to relate.

With any luck she'll then proceed to press "like" on everything you post on facebook, write comments on your check-in statuses etc. This builds social proof and is a massive DHV. In fact a gorgeous Croatian girl who lives in America poked me on FB out of nowhere, because she stumpled across my profile and liked it. 20 minutes later we were discussing our sexual fantasies, she wanted us to masturbate in front of each other on SPAM (not gonna happen) and exchange naked photos (that did happen, though). She sent me a pic of herself on her back, with her legs spread so I could view her hot pussy. The photo was taken by her GIRLfriend (bisexual girls rule!).
She now wants to hook up for some vacation fun this summer. But I'm digressing.

I recently did this EXACT thing with a gorgeous, petite 20 year old bisexual latino girl until I got tired of her and told her that I didn't want to meet for sex dates anymore, and just be friends. She got so mad she not only blocked me on facebook, but actually went to the police to make them call me and inform me that she NEVER wanted to hear from me again!
That girl did NOT appriciate being dumped - especially by a man (she was a man-hater, and enjoyed humiliating men, but couldn't resist getting fucked caveman style by a big, tattooed powerlifter ).

Good luck in taking control over your own life and not letting an ex-GF use you as fucking free therapist.

cool. so what do you want from her? just sex or something more?

i just want sex from her, i dont love her, i care about what happens to her but thats it. but its like she wants me to be one of her girl friends like fuck is that gonna happen

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cool. sounds like you're in control of the situation then.

if she won't put out, then that's that.

she can send as many pictures as she likes. you already know she's invested in you so its only a matter of time before she relents. and if she doesnt - no great shakes really.

I'm pretty sure she WANTS to put out, but she is forcing herself to say no, as an anti-slut defense.

Do you still want her as a fuck buddy?

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yeah as shes great at sex but not a good person to talk to

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Then only contact when a sexual encounter is imminent.

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what gets me is how girls collect guys like pokemon, i have a friend for this and a friend for that. im not willing to be her therapist, or someone she talks to about guys, the most important part to this is for me is why would i care

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