| Why do you need the words? I used to be scared about it too. First I was all nervous and worked really bad, with not a fixed technique. Then I used the "touching the hair" technique. If she doesn't lean back or even moves a bit forward, you should kiss her just after that. Then I thought about triangular gaze. This is really natural one, but as it comes from outside, it feels non-natural for me. And now I am completely calm and don't have a fixed technique, and works the best for me. Don't have any statistics thought, but I think the more natural it feels for both, the better, and I don't find it natural at all saying it out loud.
Just feel (or analyze if you are nervous) her body language AND the situation. These are my main 3 indicators:
Isolation. Are you two alone or without anyone known around? Check. Though this one is highly variable.
Eyes. This is my personal opinion. What's she doing while you talk? Normally, whenever she's ready to kiss you, she'll talk less and give you deeper and longer looks. If you are talking and she's nodding while looking away, she's NOT ready. If you are talking and her body is looking right into you, her eyes are fixed in yours, barely blinking, and she's leaning into you, she's ready.
Distance. You should be able to kiss her if you move only your head/neck. Is your breath fresh and your teeth clean? Check. Is she at this distance? Check. If she's not, tell her a "secret" and she'll approach. Something about this: if she leans to listen to you, she's likely to go back, if she moves her body closer to you, she's "more" ready. In both cases, when you seem finished telling her whatever and she starts (if she does) moving back, continue talking to her ear. She'll probably move her body closer to keep listening.
That's it. Not much more needed really. You two are at a kiss distance, she's staring right into your eyes and not talking and there's not any annoying friend or jealous boyfriends around. Can you see these soft lips? If not, look at them and go for the kiss.
If you are talking while she's looking deep in your eyes or lips, really close and not talking, shut the fuck up and kiss her. DON'T make a joke as an end for what you are saying, which will release the tension you have learned so much to avoid. That's good tension, that's fucking sexy sexual tension. If you like it, keep talking as long as you like, slowly going softer and getting closer and closer. Anyway, finish what you are saying with a fading voice, not really finishing the sentence (she's not listening right now anyway, she just wants to be kissed), look her in the lips or eyes and kiss her. Another thing, next time after kissing she tries to talk (not something really serious), kiss her making her stop talking. It's funny and conveys positive things for you.
Extras:
Dancing. If you are somewhere with music, put her arms on your shoulders and take her by the hips. This will make it even easier to go for the kiss as it will tell you if she feels comfortable in this kissing position.
You can also put your hand into her hair, caressing her head, before kissing her. A firm hand that will build up even more the really high sexual tension that should be there at the moment. Firm but not pushing/pulling.
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I'm not English so I might make minor mistakes and make some sentences sound a little weird.
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