Ok, last wednesday I ran into a girl in a club. I knew her vaguely through a friend, we'd hung out in a fairly large group at a carnival in the summer, but part of the group there included her bf (now ex.) So club, she latched on to me and my friend very quickly, and we ended up spending the rest of the night with her. Number closed, and have been texting/chatting fairly solidly since then.

On Thurs, I was going to meet her in town when she got off work and get a drink or two. She texted me about half hour before I would have left, saying she couldn't make it from double shift at work. Flake #1. But she moved it on to Friday night, after we'd both finished work. Once again, double shift. Flake #2. After that, she had plans to be going out with a friend from uni tonight (Saturday night,) but she wants to cancel on him to see me.

Questions is: Is she going to keep doing this? How many flakes is it worth keeping trying through? And if she does, how should I react?

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If she reschedules, then you should not consider it a flake. If she says "Oh I can't come, but maybe another time." That's a flake. But if she says "Oh I can't make it, but how about Friday at 9?" That is NOT a flake, because she's giving you another time she can make it. There's nothing wrong with her having a life. Sometimes shit actually does come up. Doesn't mean its a flake. If she keeps doing it though, I would just move on.

If she really keeps flaking, its probably because you didn't express enough interest in her in the initial interaction, you didn't qualify her enough or you seem needy.

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Sounds like its just a massive coincidence, not that she is flaking. Especially as she is trying to reschedule. Tell her you'll do something with her tonight if she wants, but say its no big deal if she wants to go out with her mate, act like you have plenty of other things you could be doing. If she agrees but then flakes again, I would move on. If she hangs out with you tonight then you should think of a few topics to keep her interested, to show her that she hasnt made a bad decision in ditching her friend and going out by hanging out with you. Be playing, play some games, talk, get to know her. If things go well you can introduce some push-pull tactics and even some kino. And possibly at the end get a kiss-close. Good luck and report how it goes

Zeus

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Ok, just an update. Last night she cancelled on me again, said she went home because she'd forgotten her ID, so we wouldn't have been able to go out for a drink or two. She went out with a mate later last night, so that feels great

Then today, (I work at a pub) she shows up at my work, going out for a few drinks with some other guy. Not so cool. I'm thinking drop this one, it ain't worth it. Am I right?

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Yea, just move on. The problem with the habitual flakers is that they'll start to lose a lot of respect for you if you keep allowing them to flake and treat you like shit. Which means it's over either way.

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