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PostPosted: Fri Dec 28, 2012 7:16 am 
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THE 4 ELEMENTS OF CONVERSATION
(1) FIRE (Humor/Fun)
(2) AIR (Intrigue/Fascinate)
(3) WATER (Real Listening)
(4) EARTH (Rapport Building/Emotional Connection)



THE ELEMENT "AIR".
WE ARE NATURALLY CURIOUS.
As human beings we are naturally curious about certain topics in our world. Just think about how books and mags are such big business! Men are intrigued by topics that revolve around women, electronics, cars, video games, movies/T.V. shows, alcohol, working out, fighting and sports. Women are intrigued by topics that revolve around dating/relationships, pop culture, fashion, celebrity gossip, Sesame Street (lol) and personality issues. There are more but these are some of the big ones.

"AIR" MEANS TO ENTERTAIN VIA INTRIGUE.
"Be Interesting and a Women Will be Interested in You."-Mystery from the VH1 Show "The PUA."
By having interesting things to say about a women's topic of interest you will give her intellectual pleasure. As humans we are drawn by curiosity to fascinating, intellectual pieces of information.

DELIVERY IS JUST AS IMPORTANT AS CONTENT.
A breath-taking, jaw-dropping, edge-of -our-seat story can be said in a lame, boring way by someone who has bad story telling skills. Always remember, the delivery of a story is just as important as the actual story. Not to mention, that your delivery of anything that you say says volumes about your personality.

HOW TO BE MORE INTERESTING.
TIP#1. REMEMBER GOOD BITS.
Being able to fascinate women means that you have a mini-database in your head of interesting, amusing stories that you can bring up to entertain on command. This is were routines come in handy. As you go through your life REMEMBER the interesting things that you hear, read or see so that you can use them when the time comes. Reading good articles and magazines help a ton in this regard. Youtube can do wonders.

TIP#2. KEEP A ROUTINES JOURNAL.

A massive, massive problem is that although we are exposed to a hell lot of fascinating things we FORGET. So I strongly suggest keeping an organized notebook which contains a list of good tidbits, stories, amusing facts and etc. I suggest reviewing it once in a while to remind yourself of the good fodder you can use in conversation. That way not only will you not run out of things to say but you will have to choose from a few good responses what the your next best response would be.

TIP#3. WATCH AND LEARN FROM ENTERTAINERS.
Try to role-model after the people who've made it their life to entertain. After years of professional practice they've perfected their craft to a high level. Try to figure out what elements and tactics they use to entertain their audience and then try to integrate these things into your own storytelling skills.

TIP#4. PRACTICE IN FRONT OF THE MIRROR WITH A RECORDER AND NOTES.
You want to get laid right? You're gonna experience a lot of rejection and embarrassment from women so just get over it now rather than later. To succeed in your journey you're gonna have to become thick-skinned. Don't be embarrassed by this exercise. It helps you progress and that's what matters most. Remember, your room is the place to perfect those routines so that you will execute them flawlessly in front of a hot chick. And while you're at it take organized notes on what you can do to improve the delivery of your content.

TIP#5. REAL SENSE OF ADVENTURE = COOLER STORIES.

If you always live on the safe side of life and never risk doing anything out of the familiar/ordinary then guess what... you won't have interesting stories about yourself to tell to the ladies. Have a sense of curiosity about the world that encourages you to experiment, to do things you've never ever done before and to go places you've never been before. Have a real, true desire to adventure and take on the world. That's a huge key to enjoying life, being a fun person, having a seductive lifestyle, broadening your mind and having cool stories about yourself .

TIP#6. ENJOY YOURSELF AND SHOW THAT.
If you aren't enjoying yourself in the conversation then she will have a difficult time enjoying herself. Remember, just as fun is contagious so is boredom. Laugh, smile and show that you're having a blast in the social interaction.

TIP#7. SPEAK WITH ENTHUSIASM/PASSION.
If you aren't excited about what you're talking about she will sense that and assume that whatever you are saying isn't that interesting. Remember, enthusiasm is contagious.

TIP#8. SPEAK WITH CONVICTION.
If you don't believe of the validity of what you're saying then your content losses a lot of intrigue points. We are intrigued by things that true not false. Convey strong confidence in what you are saying in addition to saying it with enthusiasm. You can do this by speaking in an authoritative, genuine and loud voice.

TIP#9. PAY ATTENTION TO SEE IF SHE'S INTERESTED IN WHAT YOU'RE SAYING.
What can be very interesting to one person can be deathly boring to another. If she's giving you body language indicators that she's not interested in whatever you are saying then ending it soon is probably your best option. Switch to another topic or subtopic.

TIP#10. KEEP IT INTERACTIVE.
People LOVE to talk and share their opinions. Let her invest in the conversation by pausing at times where you feel that she may want to say something. Encourage her to keep talking by practicing active listening. (More on that later). By keeping it interactive you're encouraging her to continue to listen to you and be interested in the topic.

TIP#11. BE RANDOM.
If you're doing an indirect approach you have to rely on only talking about what's relevant in the present conversation to avoid demonstrating too much interest. (Even here there are ways to transition to basically anything). However, if you're already in the comfort phase or in the relationship there's nothing holding you back from being completely random. If you feel that a topic is dying down (she's losing interest in it) then say something else that's fun and interesting even though it's completely unrelated. Don't be afraid to jump to anything. As long it's fun and interesting, you're good!

WISE WARNING
If she feels that you're trying hard to entertain her that makes you look low-status and needy.
By being entertaining you are showing a lot of interest. So it's best to calibrate that with disqualifies/IODs/Taking Value. (More on that later).


What suggestion/tips do you have for better conversation?


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PostPosted: Fri Dec 28, 2012 8:35 am 
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When first starting I over used cool stuff. Once lines, routines, games, etc.

When I tell people about game and how to do it I stress these few conversational keys:

1. Master the Pause.

It is powerful. Pausing builds instant intrigue. It is a conversational void and social awkwardness. With any attraction, a girl will fill the void due to the level of discomfort, if no attraction she will walk away. Good use is to say something good then pause, and wait for her to say something witty in response.

2. Cheat Sheet.

The proper Routine Manual of a PUA should be not memorized but written down. Why? If you memorize it, and envelop it into your personality you will say it when it fits. You keep a cheat sheet of some good gems when stuck. The proper length is ideally a few banter/tease lines, a couple cold reads, and maybe one DHV story and one game.

3. Master a transition.

A good transition is huge. To get off a routine or onto one, or steer the conversation onto more goal oriented topics. Badboy uses "Anyways", other PUA's use "Check this out" until it hits. It matters not, just have a transition on auto pilot in order to flow conversation.

4. Take an Improv and Comedy Class.

Basic stuff here. This improves wit, delivery, and content vastly.

5. Tonality.

Its not what you say, but how you say it. I HATE THIS STATEMENT. All new guys dont 'get' it. But, try this. Pinch your nose, and talk. It sounds funny. Practice speaking in a way, with your chest, so that when you pinch your nose it sounds the same as your normal speaking tone. This is HUGE. A big booming voice is why your stuff hits, why you can talk in the club despite not hearing her and also why content does not matter. Demand attention. Combine this with pauses and your words gain huge power.

6. Misdirection.

Listen to what she says, and misdirect the content and meaning. She asks you to do something, tell her you wont make out with her. Instant way to make a conversation playful.

7. Be Animated.

Be expressive. Move your hands. Be playful, use your face.

A lot of good structural points you made about passion and intent behind the words. But I feel a lot of people (Myself included) tried that at first because every MPUA preaches to speak with passion and enthusiasm to get the girl but often cant put that into a bottle. If you learn to work your voice tone, master pauses, become animated with delivery, you naturally appear charismatic and enthused about what you are speaking upon.

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