Hello,

I'll cut right to the chase. I meat a girl at a party though a friend. She is my friends cousin. We talked on FB and exchanged mobile numbers and went out for a date. Then I asked her out again but since she has a busy schedule full of dinners with friends and what not, we went out after a week. Then again we went out after a week but all these times it was me that I asked her out. She asked me once or twice to go have a drink and we did and now we are going out again this week.

All these times that we went out there was no kissing or kino which is something unusual from my part. This girl is smart and average looking and when I tease her in a witty manner that I want to have sex with her she says she will have sex with me when she is sure. However, I always tell her to relax and enjoy the ride and that casual sex is also nice. She said she doesn't do casual sex and the a week later she denied saying it.

Bottom line, I like the girl, we go out once a week for the past 5-6 weeks and she says that she is busy lately but her schedule will clear up soon. Nothing erotic happening between us even though there is attraction I guess. She also mentioned on the first date that she doesn't want to be exclusive and that she wants to date other men and I told her that it was fine with me, just relax and enjoy and I made a joke in the lines "you come off as a weirdo when u say u don't want to be exclusive on the first date" which she laughed at. Anyway!

What do you guys think? Is she unsure? Is she not interested? Is she taking it slow? Does she expect a move?

My thought: If the girl is taking things slow then one date per week isn't enough to give this "relationship" the momentum it needs.

Thanks

You guess? What are her IOIs? I'm just suspicious of this because you haven't even escalated. Have you kissed her? Have you even touched her? By the 5th-6th date, if there hasn't even been any touching, you're likely out of the game. Still a small chance she wants to suck your dick though.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Make a move and find out.

Would save you a lot of time that you could spend getting other girls.

Youve been on multiple dates and havent kissed her??

I don't normally talk to girls about having sex with them before I have sex with them. You can talk about sex, but just not in the context of you having it with her. Saying shit like "We should have sex" or "I want to have sex with you" is purely AFC stuff. You telegraphed too much interest and she put up a shield and blocked you out. That's where you went wrong.

If you want to fix all this you have to now be everything you weren't before. The next time she sees you you'll need to be this confident guy who isn't begging and teasing about sex, but is simply moving in and taking what he wants. Just pull her into you and kiss her. If she resists, ask her if she is gay. If she asks why did that, tell her it was because you wanted to. If she tells you she is offended, tell her you don't care. Remember, you were a pussy AFC before, and now you are going to try to be an alpha asshole and see if that gets you better results. I bet you it will.

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Hello and thanks for the replies,

I would like to say that I wasn't talking about having sex with her in a serious/literal manner, I was making jokes about it which is something that she went along with and carried it on herself so there is no way I look like an AFC to her regarding this matter because we both have a laugh.

I do believe that she is attracted to me (did I say that right?) but she states that she doesn't like men easily because she has no interest what so ever in the outer beauty of the man but she gets attracted to men that are smarter than her and of high intellectual level. She is smart I can say and its not something that I can measure but the least I can say is that I do keep up with her. Nevertheless, since I do have my fair share of women, I will concentrate on them and if she is still interested then she will call me for another date. I have to admit though that she seems to have fun with me most of the time but at certain points she seems tired (because of her busy schedule I will give her that) or disinterested (but why keep making plans for the future then?).

Any thoughts?

Thanks.