| Hello all,
About a year ago I once posted a message about my aproach anxiety that I had problems with, in the meantime this became less of an issue and I often seem to have no big problems with it I think. This was also thanks to reading more info about the whole game, but also reading the book "The Game" and studying NLP which is what I'm currently still doing.
But along the past year (and combining it with all years before) I'm getting kind of frustrated about it.
If I think about all effort I'm putting into this hoping to achieve some relationship and the dissapointing result coming from it, I feel pretty helpless.
If I have learned one thing in the past it was to never overcomplicate things or think too much.
So that's what I did as far as I believed. But I still seem to do something wrong.
As an example, there was this girl I met this year at a friends party, she was the girlfriend of another friend of mine back then. That night, I had the advantage that I knew a lot of people there, so when I came in, everybody greeted me, and I spoke to everyone feeling like a man. So I quickly got into a chat with her.
During the evening the general chat changed into a very deep conversation about feelings and such, and from what I had learned here, I could clearly notice IoI's. Later the evening when we and 3 others walked to somewhere she even grabbed my hand while walking.
Of course, she was in a relation ship back then, so it was painfull for me to know not to escalate to avoid trouble.
a few months later, the relationship went out. I spoke a few times with her in the meantime on FB but not anything special.
This one time, I just wanted to ask her out, I just wanted to.
So I most casually asked her "Hey, how about we go out tonight?" where she responded to "...(something about already occupied)... why'd you ask?"
At that point my heart dropped, I just didn't knew what to say. so I just responded with something like "nothing to do, so going around a few people" which I now know wasn't a smart move. I probably could just tell her that I would just like to go out with her. But again, I'm overthinking! I'm like Einstein when it comes to that!
A similar situation happened later on but I will save all of the writing, you know the drill.
But to all of this trouble I'm doing, I see the most AFC's from my high school years on which I never thought they would, in relationships with the most hottest girls you could find.
What am I doing wrong? why is it always happening to me that whatever I do or try, I'm always doomed to fail?
Getting girls shouldn't be rocket science at all. So why am I keeping hitting the floor after so much effort while other's which don't pay any effort or whatshowever get so much succes?
It's making me feel miserable, especially now when these "christmass love photos" from everyone pop up all over the place.
I'm 19 years old, financially stable, and not too bad looking I think. (not fat, nor skinny and no weird disorders)
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