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Not focucing on my friend, I hadnt seen him in 15 years. I said I had been focuing on myself, but in the real world, it doesnt matter, Looks trump all else. At least for one nighters.
that was more under the context of don't focus on not being good enough rather then ignore your friend all together
really though it's not looks that trump all else, importance trumps all else and it is what women are attracted to, among a giant group of average joe nobodies, the best looking guy is immediately the most important out of the group because that's the only comparison of value women have to go on, he will get all the attention and unless someone demonstrates some sort indication of value then it will stay that way, but physically you don't have to be perfect, just fuckable
women value more then just looks, in general, looks, confidence, money, personality, commonalities, social status, access to security social/physical, power etc. they all matter, who you are is more important then what you look like
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And I think your famous person example is flawed. All those guys are RICH AND FAMOUS. Rich and Famous goes a long way.
No amount of game will take a woman from a celebrity.
the thing is, how did those guys become famous in the first place? it wasn't just some magic fairy that randomly appeared and said, ''you know what, you're now a famous movie star, and you... you're now a famous musician, and finally you... you're now the dictator of cuba, FUCKING TAADAAA!! and so it was
they all achieved that status as a result of their own skills and efforts
the way you are echos through your life, you are what you make yourself out to be, and you are responsible for your own life and the direction it goes in, game is not just an e-book explaining a neg, game is your game plan to reach success, and the way you step to life is the same way you will step to women, confidence is attractive to women because it's a precursor to future success and goes hand in hand with competence, guys that are ambitious and motivated and confident and have a high self esteem that are smart and have competence in what they do excel in life, they go after what they want and reach a higher status then other people because of how well they excel at what they do and how they do it, and that is how status works
and no your value is not in a neg, but a person with status just can effortlessly neg naturally and it is genuine, the rich man that tells the poor man, don't worry I see great things in you, you'll make your first hundred thousand yet, I can help you through it, it took me years to make my first million it can be tough
the basketball star who tells the farm team rookie if he works on his jump shot it will be supreme, maybe even get him into the nba with time and practice he could make the team
the famous musician that talks to some kids starting in a band and says just keep working harder guys, you'll have a band like ours in no time, you're really good
^ these are the real negs, there has to be real VALUE behind the person who uses them, real STATUS for them to mean anything, you need to become good at something and excel better then others, women are attracted to men who are better then other men, looks do they help? yes, are they everything? that ultimately depends on the girl and what she values, if some guy who is infamous or famous walks in a room, chances are he's getting the attention, not your good looking buddy, among two guys who no preconceived value what else do girls have to base who they give their attention to besides how you look, rent a lambo one night and go out with him, roll up highly visible wearing a good suit, see what sort of attention you get then if attention is all you want to realize you are enough, you're already good enough dude, just have to learn to love yourself and be ok in your skin, you won't get every girl cause every girl will subjectively value something from the next, but you can always improve and you can always reach a new height of status and improve your life, and just maybe one day you won't care about who's better between you and your buddy and you will both just get laid and it will be sick
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