| Sorry if this seems like a rambling post just a few things on my mind and trying to be as objectionable as I can without getting ahead of myself and need some opinions.
Background: been friends with a girl for a few years. Don't hangout all the time and can go a week or two without seeing or speaking to each other. There's always been a flirty aspect to our relationship (physical aspects includes: discretely playing footsie at the bar when either in a group of people or when we're on our own, lots of kino during conversation and grabbing my arm when we're walking somewhere on our own). I got the impression she was into me until one time when we were out in a group in front of everyone, she said "I couldn't sleep with (me), we're too good friends!" that's fine, I thought, we are pretty good friends, I've never actively pursued her and have never tried to take it further. Didn't really mind being friend-zoned on this one. That was about 6 months ago.
A few weeks ago I bumped into her at a party, told her she should make me dinner sometime and sure enough, the next morning I got a text from her inviting me over for dinner. Had a good time and noticed a lot more flirting on her part. Took a few hours for her to start kino (started with an awkward hand on knee during conversation and then continued more often and longer as she got more confident to which I recipiated and I remember thinking that it was as if we were both using any excuse to touch each other) she'd sit closer and closer and when watching a film I could see her staring at me through the corner of my eye and then as soon as I turned round she quickly looked away. This must've happened about 10 times in the space of 2 minutes. Called it a night as I had work in morning and gave her a quick cuddle and kiss on forehead before leaving (it was what she asked for when I said I was leaving).
Next time I saw her was briefly at a bar, I only popped in for 20 mins. She immediately came up to me, stood in-front of me and played with my (newly trimmed) hair, lots of direct eye-contact and paying compliments, this lasted a few minutes. I returned to my friends and before I left I noticed her staring at me, we locked eyes, both smiled and the gaze lasted about 10 seconds before she coyly looked to the floor still smiling. I went to leave and again, kiss on forehead, hug, prolonged eye-contact and smiles with "gimmie a shout sometime" as the only verbal exchange.
The day after she texted inviting me over and we spent the next two days together (broken up by me going home at night - when I woke up she had texted me inviting me over again) same thing happened each time (build up of kino until we're both confident and then we're touching each other all the time, holding long spells of gazing into each others eyes and smiling (5+ seconds) usually instigated by her after putting the other one down, making a witty remark or we've caught out the other one staring, lots of hair and lip-play). I know it's not all in my head and the fact that we seem to act like nervous teenagers around each other when we are both pretty confident people, makes me think she wants to take things further.
Also, some comments she's made recently such as "girls don't text guys randomly without any intentions" seem a pretty obvious indication of her intrest.
It's not as if I'm new to this, I'm almost 30 and have had very few problems picking up girls and getting into relationships over the years. I guess I've never been in this position with someone I know so well and have a hard time believing I slipped out the friend zone without consciously trying.
As I said, I'm trying to be objectionable and have gone over this post and made sure I haven't exaggerated anything. It's always her that instigates flirting, kino, etc and I just return it at her pace. I don't really use any "game," just relax and go with the flow. Guess I should just grow a pair and get on with it.
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