My confidence is shot. I've been doing this for like 4 years now. Its hard to explain how this happen, but I used to feel more comfortable and relaxed around girls. The approach would be more natural. Now I am nervous, fidgety, and flighty. Its like I can't commit to the things I want to say. I will go up and talk to girls all the times, but because I feel this way a lot of times its awkward, I look like I'm trying hard. It been this way for 6 months now. I was dating a girl and I was going to break up with her( i'm thinking nothing of it)and we got into an argument and she just chewed me out. I was totally surprised. I have been somewhat just ashamed of myself every since. When I talk to girls I am ashamed. Ashamed of everything! And I have been hiding this from everyone out of pride, but this most change.

I guess what I am saying is that I am struggling more than usual. Last night I ruined 2 DTFs. The opener, the technique, the routines can't measure the x-factor...how you feel and how you are making someone feel. Feelings are the intagibles and they rub off...

First step is admitting u got the problem bro. I'm think the only way to get out of rut is not to try so hard and just relax feel the moment and just know life is a bitch but when u get lemons make sure you get tequila ... and then once you drink the bottle move on and Have a good party man.

The fact u mentioned ur ex means u still stuck in her void as i call it . concentrate on getting to know a girl before u think about fucking her bud , might stop u from getting figity because ur not putting any pressure on ur self to close. once u feel comfortable with a girls again start working ur game out. but for now just relax bro .

to be honest man I was the same way and think thats because of growing up with broken up parents and hearing all the bullshit about relationships . the best way to approach a girl and not feel awkward is to actually be interested in what she has to say and then reacting accordingly . hope this helps bro. and trust me man this is a hard thing to over come but once out of it amagin the possibilities.

Quit being a fucking pussy and stop mind fucking yourself.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1TeQpXPY9nQ

Thanks man I appreciate that. I definitely know I have been forcing it. I think that will help if I just relax and enjoy the moment more.

I have been facing this fear so I'm not a pussy. Its a fear of being wrong and a feeling of being wrong. I have been facing this feeling, but it just has affected my performance. I guess you could say I feel guilty

When you realize that it's all in your head, it will be a good day.

That's how they get you! Women have been using SHAME to manipulate and control men for centuries. As a man you should never let a woman's opinion of you dictate your life in any way. I think your current problem comes from fear that the new women you meet will eventually attack you in the same manner. Right?

Don't sweat it. As long as YOU approve of your behavior, that's all that matters. Now.. if deep down you don't approve of your behavior and this girl that chewed you out just brought everything to the surface.. then you need to do some soul searching and decide if being a PUA is really the right path for you. Because its definitely not for everyone.

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Don't worry about what women think of you. Worry about you. Work on you. Improve yourself and the rest will come with time.

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What this is about is my character. Yes. Somewhere within I am afraid of being ashamed like that again. I am fighting myself more than anything when I approach, seciond guessing myself sometimes. I say somethings timidly. I do somethings timidly. That's not attractive. It shows a lack of faith in myself and if I don't sound like I believe in myself; if i don't behave like I believe in myself why would anyone else...I mean besides my mom. I think this is going to be a process, but if I take the risks and have some good experiences my mindset (subconsciously) will improve. I suppose my confidence was high once, but if it was shake like that it was not cemented.