Hi guys! I am new to the forum, but i've pretty familiar with most PUA concepts for a while now.

There is a girl who is 2 years older than me. I am 20 years old and still a virgin so my lack of game probably contributed to the current events.
So I've known this girl for 3 months now and there was a mutual attraction between us. We are veryy much on the same wavelength. I think i've build up more than enough comfort in this three months. We watched movies together, laughed, and she told me things she would never tell anyone. And many times she told me that she trusts me more than anyone.
As for Kino escalation we didn't really proceed further from sensual hugging. But occasionally she brough up the topic of sex, and even qualified herself to me. I could have had many opportunities to escalate towards sex with her because she brought up sex as a conversation topic many times and i could sense that she tested me because she would be interested to proceed that way.

Yesterday we chat on facebook teased her, build more attraction, and she brought up sex again so we talked about that. Things got pretty hot because she came into my room with only a towel on her to bust my balls a little bit. Then went back to her room. Later she came back to my room and we smoked, she ran shit test which i've failed, she continually busted my balls with comments. Then i left her and went to the kitchen to make a cup of tea to myself. She followed me grabbed my ass, we teased each other by fake kiss closes. And all of a sudden we hugged and she started biting my neck. Heavy make out started. I grabbed her and went to my room. We had petting. Pretty much everything except actual sex for an hour. But because i had no condoms we stopped, talked a bit smoked a cigarette and she went back to her room.

This morning she messaged me. She definately felt regret. Said that we were stupid last night. But things like this happen. She got scared not ready for something like this. She doesn't want to screw up things between us. etc..

She is experienced while i am not. I know i wasn't pretty good, but still when i told her that i don't have condoms she seemed disappointed.

I can't get a read on this. Is this buyers remorse or am i being friendzoned? And what can i do to make things better and continue proceeding towards sex and probably even LTR?

Thank you guys!
AlexGB

That's probably approach avoidance ("autorejection") caused by moving slow and making her think in the back of her mind that you might reject her sexually. You can get out of it by disqualifying yourself; this is best done in person. Say you think you may be too much of a bad boy or something like that. She'll not really think you are a bad boy but depending on how deep she is into it her feelings will rapidly cycle and she will start using a foul language and will appear angry, but usually passes pretty quickly, and you have to remain calm and just listen. You might have to talk to her a bit and reason with her, but you'll get a window to escalate. If you miss it, you'll have a really rough time fixing things.

Vin Dicarlo wrote a short piece on it. I haven't tried his whole routine, but autorejection is really one of the hardest things to break: http://dating-tips-online.blogspot.com/ ... ot-to.html

Seeing how you may be a virgin, you might want to think carefully before trying to score with her about whether you really want this to be your girl since you would probably get attached.

She also invited me to go and have a lunch with her, because she wants us to be the same way we were before this. Because she is probably afraid that this will ruin what we had so far. If it is autorejection why would she do that? Wouldn't she just distance herself from this all?