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I am meeting girls, just not as often as I would like. And honestly, the ones I have met so far don't really intrigue me. I mean at best they make me forget about her for a week and I dig the girl, then for some reason I just lose interest with them so fast. Guess I'm just not meeting the right girls.
would you like to change this?
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As far as the chick I like, yes, she has a boyfriend. And don't you think it is better to at least be a friend to her, yet keep the flirting/kino going in hopes she can at least feel something back?
no, that's needy
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If I choose to ignore her I will never get her, but if I stick around MAYBE there will be a chance if she is ever single again.
this is needy, girl either likes you, or doesn't, you barley talked to this girl and didn't try, then when you did, it didn't work out, why would you become her friend when you still barley know her, to get attached to a girl you can't have? why?
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This girl doesn't meet a lot of guys outside of school/work/church, she isn't as outgoing as well. So if she does break up with the guy she is seeing now then I might have a legit shot. The only reason why I am holding back is because I don't want to be seen as JUST a friend, because once you get deep in the friendzone it is tough to get out of it. And I won't be seeing her with her boyfriend anyway, I don't even know the guy so I could give a fuck if I become a problem really. And it will be sure fun to run the boyfriend destroyer technique for once...
friend zone doesn't exist, girl either complies to escalation and thinks you are a candidate to sleep with, or doesn't, you can have sex with a girl that labels you a friend, you can also not end up having sex with a girl that flirts with you for validation but never starts calling you a friend, the difference is compliance... and testing it
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But my "relationship/friendship" with her is definitely different, I mean she tells me things she doesn't with anyone else including other guy friends that she sees as a "little brother". I honestly, can't be too sure of her intentions because she is really nice which throws me off. I can't really tell if she wants me to stick around as a plan B or is just being nice. And another things that bugs me is that she says she will initiate next time but never does. Although I did mention that if we do hang out it wouldn't have to be weird because I'll start seeing her as a friend instead, which I said on purpose to see how she would react. And after I said that she did seem more distant, that is what leads me to believe her Plan B thing. But again that is overthinking shit which I shouldn't be doing...
no it's not, you are needy, more contact and rapport makes you and her more comfortable with each other, it kills the intrigue, it kills the WHAT IF, and leaves everything known, this won't increase your chances, it will break them and on top of that make you more and more needy and obsessive over how great she is cause of your emotional attachment to her, meanwhile she has plenty of guys to choose from, don't be surprised if when she breaks up she has a new guy within a week and it isn't you
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Anyway, you are right, I can either be a friend or walk away. But honestly, I rather go for it. I will keep her as a side chick (hence the no contact in a while) but I will still attempt to push for it. Until she gives me a REAL rejection that is. Because that "boyfriend" excuse doesn't tell me anything...
sure it does, it tells you to stop calling her or talking to her until she is single, what's wrong with... ''ok, call me when you're single''
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If you have any tips on how should I turn the situation around I'm all ears... Although I do feel the longer I wait the better I am getting with chicks... And at the end of the day I'm gonna have fun with it, worst case I learn something...
don't waste a year of your life going for this girl, try to have some sex next week to get over this, don't ''get better'' with chicks and remain celebate while holding out for the perfect flower, just get laid, meet a whole bunch of new girls that you think are cute and find a new reason to fall in love, do your best to fall out of love with this girl
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