Gentlemen,

I'm new to this whole scene here and I'm one of those hard-headed people who can have a hard time learning certain things, of which what you guys do is certainly one of them. I learn best by example, so I'd like to run through my night out from a few days ago and hopefully those more learned than me can pop in and tell me where I went right or wrong.

The night started at a friend's house for pre-drinks. One of her friends, I noticed, was rather cute. We all head out to the bar and we're sat down and she seemingly opens with a neg, playing on my very young appearance: "Didn't anybody ID you for that drink?" she says (I was driving so it was just pop). I decide to give her both barrels and do a really sarcastic, over-the top reaction because I get shit for my young appearance all the time. The girl eats this up, and we get to talking. A few minutes later, she's peeled off by another friend of mine and they start having a quiet (they thought) conversation about guys and I overhear stuff about what kind of guys she prefers, this one particular friend-with-benefits, etc. Target girl then comes back to talk to me and asks me the canned stuff about where I'm from. I decide, well, I'm not going to pretend that I heard nothing or be intimidated, so I open right back up: "You know what you should go back to talking about? What kind of guys you like banging. That's a lot more entertaining than where I'm from."

At first she was shocked that somebody who was sober would talk like this, but she somewhat sheepishly talked about the one gentleman caller in question, leaving out any explicit details. The evening kind of degraded from there: she starts talking about her divorce, how messed up things are at work, how she admits she's in need of therapy, and how everything is going to be a-okay once she gets back into school. Mm hmm. Now she's clearly not sober, and I notice that she's not just standing close to me but brushing up against me with her body as she's talking, she pulls me out to the dance floor to dance with her, etc. I give her the cold shoulder a bit to test if she's really interested, and what would you know she keeps coming back. I might have kept going, except a) don't stick your dick in crazy, and b) she was really not sober, and c) it went from her being simply indiscreet things to being a huge douchebag, which totally turned me off.

So, questions for you gentlemen;

a) Did I take a good aggressive posture, or did I go too far?
b) How should I have dealt with the conversation getting way too heavy?
c) Anything else you want to chime in with.

You did great son, played "'The game" perfectly.

This chick was obviously crazy. Yes. The very typical of what women are today. Perpetually whining and bitching about how their life is a mess, have no clue what their future will look like, and still have this narcissist over-valued self image.

You might have asked her to come to your place and bang her. Why not. Then again, if you were really turned off by her douchebag behaviour, who cares.

If the conversation gets heavy, it doesnt mean that no sex follows. It builds intimacy. All you have to do is change the situation "lets go out and get some fresh air" and you can put an arm around her waist if she sits down because its fresh outside. Remember, if you cant change a womans mind, change her mood and her mind will follow. They are that whimsical. And hence, unfortunately, that unreliable.

+1. A change of scenery is always better, and getting them alone is the whole point. Plus, she'll be less likely to wear her "social mask" in a private setting and you can see how nuts the bitch really is.

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"Cleaning, baking, hot love-making. That's what girls are for."
-Michael Starr

You just described that girl to a T. The breaking point for me from sympathy to revulsion was when she drunkenly slurred "I have a great sense of self-awareness!". It's almost enough to make me wonder what I do to make myself a target for this kind of behaviour.

Now if you'll pardon me, I've got some soup going on the stove, and it's not going to deliver itself to this other chick's house all by itself.

Let this thread be a lesson to all of mankind. Let us know how it goes with the soup.