Perfect mindset, good on you! I hope you can pull through with it.. If the old feelings come back just start venting again

See this attitude has always bothered me. Firs and foremost - Wildface - you are clearly the man and I'm glad to hear you're doing better and moving on. But every time you talk to someone about their ex, or your ex, or anybody's ex - the response is always the same "blah blah blah worst person ever blah blah."

Now look... clearly' Wildface's ex is, in this case, a pretty dumb whore. But let's not go too far - it's also clear that there was some awesome things about her and that's why it hasn't been easy to get over her. And as pathetic as it was for her to do what she did with that whole bit about the chef... that's really a sign of her own personal weakness, not of a directly malicious attempt to hurt you. She sees you as having armor made of fucking diamonds and she just wants to make a scratch. Again, pathetic on her part, but my guess is she is all-and-all a pretty cool chick if it's been this hard for you to get over her.

Three months ago I was dumped by my dream girl HB9 after a 10 month OLTR. It was the first time I'd ever really cared about a girl... the whole thing was really difficult, and I'm doing pretty damn well but I still think about her more than I'd like. (I'm on level 4 of the GFTOW process).

Anyway - like everyone who get's dumped - you want to know WHY it happened, WHAT caused it, so of course I asked... and her response didn't make sense... and the way in which she broke up with me (random drunk text at 3am on a Friday night) really really sucked too... And whenever I talked to my friends about it they say "oh whatever dude she sucked anyways," and I go "nah actually she was awesome." And I really think that accepting that has helped me. I've stopped wondering WHAT caused her dump me (because even if a girl gives you a good explanation, more often than not it's something else, and more importantly - is there ever really a reason? or is it just a feeling we get in our gut that we don't want to be someone anymore?). And I've fully accepted that what we had was an awesome thing (this girl was smoking hot, expected no BF SPAM from me, we always had fun, I saw her 1-3 times a week and she let me sleep with as many other girls as I wanted... shit was baller) - it lasted 10 months, one of the best years of my life - no reason to look back on any of it or her with any resentment.

Was she the only ONE for me? hell no.
Will it be easy to find another one I like that much? probably not. But that's the way it goes.

Excuse me for doing some personal venting of my own in your thread, but I guess my point is, you're doing a kick-ass job of dealing with this but realizing that this girl overall was a positive part of your life will actually help you get over it in a healthier way, than pretending the whole thing was worthless (in my experience at least). I'm not a big fan of sugar-coating the truth, but nor am I fan of dumping salt all over it either.

Oh and one more bit about what I just ranted about above - it is an AWESOME piece of conversation to have when you're taking these new fine ass hoez out on a first date.

On every first date, the conversation of the Ex always comes up - and both parties always dive right into it with full force. So there are two things to do here, and I swear to god they lead to instant makeouts.

1) when she asks you about your Ex, DON'T bash her. Say "yeah, it ended, it wasn't pretty - but we had a great time together and I really don't have anything bad to say about her." The girl you're on a date with will think WOW he wasn't hurt by the break-up, he's strong, he's not judgmental, not insecure, not reliant, not outcome-dependent and overall has a dope life.

2) When she talks about her Ex and starts going on and on about everything that was wrong with him, blah blah blah – DEFEND HIM!! Say, “oh well the reason he did ____ was clearly because he cared a lot about you but is insecure…” (all the normal boyfriend destroyer stuff). Every other guy she’s talked to about all that will be like “oh yeah, what a loser, bet he had a small dick too huh? Yeah clearly this guy was needy pffff loser. Not me. I’m the man.” But just wait for the look in her eyes when you DEFEND the guy she bashed, and the guy who both of you know she is comparing you to.

Last time I did this I f-closed in the bathroom of the bar 10 mins later.

Ahh Man that fucking sucks bro, Yeah unfortunately women like this do exist and to be honest Men are not better either.
I see the way my brother treats his girlfriend and it's wrong but some people are emotionally corrupt. We just have to accept it and move on.

Breaking up over text tho! after 10 months! that is fucked up to the next level.
I completely get what you mean about people bad mouthing their ex's, it shouldn't be like that. but some people do deserve it they simply change and are not who we fell for. I'm glad she fucked the chef 3 days after we broke up I think it would have been 10x worse if it was done during our time together. even though she must have been thinking about it while we were together.

Thanks for the tips pal, I will definitely keep that in mind.
Been out in field putting what I have picked up from the forums so far into practice and have been getting some really good feedback from it all.