| I got my inspiration for this topic from my own experiences, and Mack's topic about recognizing one. So what do you do when you realize the woman you're involved with fits this role? Well, you've basically got two options: run for the hills or continue the game. The first option, I'm gonna tell ya is probably your smartest bet, because these women prey on suckers and can really fuck your shit up. But if you insist on maximizing your interactions with a woman like this, read on.
Feel free to correct me, and share your similar experiences.
First, let's discuss what benefits you gain from continuing the game on a woman like this. As you may have already experienced, the sex with a crazy chick is often phenominal. It's how they keep suckers around. They feed on the attention and validation through men via seduction and manipulation. Another benefit is that if you can maintain the power over a crazy chick, you can really develop your game. Think, if you can maintain control with a crazy girl, then normal girls will seem much easier to handle in the future. A lot of good lessons can be had here.
Things to keep in mind, once you recognize the signs:
1. These women often suffer childhood trauma, often neglect and sexual abuse. They are DAMAGED and you CANNOT FIX THEM.
2. Emotionally, they are like children. When unsure what to do, pretend she is an eight year old girl. With the expectations and punishment/reward system that children follow.
3. They are NOT capable of real, mature love. Despite what affections and attention she may shower upon you, it is NOT real. Do NOT, and I mean ABSOLUTELY DO NOT DATE THEM. If for some reason they insist on being your girlfriend, make the relationship be an open one as a condition. Tell her some nonsense reasons, such as that she will be allowed to pursue other guys, or that you were cheated on in the past.
4. These women are drawn to men with their own baggage. However, they often use them up and tire of them. Only one type of man can hold their attention indefinitely...
5. The Narcissist. Read up on it, and adopt the traits of a Narcissistic Man. Continually hold yourself in higher regard than her, no matter what. Do not let her think she has ever fully met your needs, or is able to please you. This will keep her trying.
6. Never, and I mean NEVER give her what she wants. You may throw small bones here and there, but any compliments you give should be double-edged. Don't tell her how much you care about her or love her. Say things instead like "nobody can love you like I do" or "you could mean the world to me, but you keep letting me down".
7. Always be seeing and fucking other women. This will keep her pining for your attention. If there's no other girls in the picture, she'll know she has you and that she has won. Your value will plummet. Make no effort to hide that you are fucking other women, but you don't have to brag about it either.
8. Never commit. See #3. Dangle it in front of her, making your love and attention conditional, but as soon as she meets those conditions then give new ones and push her away.
9. Never react. Even moreso than normal women. If these EMW's ever think you're reacting to them, they'll see you as weak.
10. Pretend that you are their God. You are their mother, their father, and the center of their universe. These women grew up being completely unable to please their parents and loved ones, and are addicted to the abuse. This woman exists to worship the ground you walk upon, and as soon as she lets you down you must punish her.
11. Set boundaries and limits. Don't give ultimatums, but always stand your ground and put your needs above hers.
12. Never expect her to be honest with you. They've made a lifetime of getting what they want by lying. Always assume she is fucking other guys, and lying to you about anything that may portray her negatively to you.
13. Act ambivalently. One minute, give her total attention and fawn over her. The next, pretend she doesn't exist, especially when she displeases you. You'll keep her fighting for your attention.
14. When you fuck, fuck the daylights out of her. She gets her comfort and validation through sex, and if you're giving it to her the best then she'll never leave.
15. She loves THE CHASE. Never, ever, ever, let her think for even a moment she has your undying love and attention. She doesn't know how to handle mature, real relationships, and will push you away as soon as you pursue one. Never let her catch you.
16. If you really piss her off, give her an "honest apology". She will think you have changed, and things will be like she wants them to, but come back and work back into your seat of power. She may think she wants things to change, but subconsciously she does not. She wants to be abused, neglected, and manipulated.
17. Isolate her. Don't spend time getting to know her friends and family, you are trying to become more important than them to her.
18. When she flips out on you, ignore her and shut her out. Don't defend yourself - you're God, remember? God is infallible. Her problems are HER problems, and any outbursts from her will be reciprocated by you leaving. She fears abandonment above all else, and if she thinks you're going to leave then she'll make it up to you.
19. Make your affection conditional. If she asks you for something, you can do it but only if you get something out of it.
20. Don't outright LIE to them, but always be vague about the truth. Never give straight answers. If she does catch you lying, twist the scenario to place blame on her. Remember, if she's the one at fault, she has something to fix.
Above all else, remember that you are dealing with a woman who is EMOTIONALLY A CHILD. You MUST treat her as one. Now, do I recommend that you follow these steps with someone you are seeing and care about? Absolutely not. In fact, there's probably a lot of anger in my words. I also think there's some really morally gray stuff in here, and that these EMW's really need serious therapy and help. However, they will refuse to get it, chewing up and spitting out anyone in their path. If you insist on maintaining a relationship with an EMW, definitely keep all these things in mind. The EMW I was involved with on-and-off for about 9 months taught me all of these lessons. She has been controlled by her Narcissistic ex-boyfriend for over three years. He cheated on her, lied to her, dumped her repeatedly, never went out of his way for her, kept fucking and pursuing other women, and still maintains control to this day. The last time he really cut her out, he went no contact for three months while he dated another girl. During this time is when I met her, and she instantly put me on a pedastal and attached herself to me. I didn't see the signs back then, and nobody could validate all the claims I'd heard of her "being crazy". I allowed myself to fall for her, and once I did she left me out of nowhere. I went no contact for several months, and she instantly attached herself to me again... but little did I know she only wanted to know she could still have me. After a couple months of being FWB, I let her know that she could, and I was summarily discarded again. The whole experience taught me a lot, but it was mentally exhausting and I hope that what I've learned through this I could share with the community.
Now don't confuse my advice with treating her like shit. Karma is a bitch. You can be nice to her at times, and do things for her, but only do them as a reward. Don't ever physically or sexually abuse her, but you can emotionally manipulate her in a subtle way. Just remember, you're dealing with a child.
Even if you do decide to keep this woman around, you do so at a high risk. She will most likely drain you, wreak havoc on your self esteem and confidence, and you may start to believe you can't do any better than her. That she's a victim you need to "save". Guess what - she doesn't want to be saved! Do yourself a favor, and as soon as you think she may start to have a negative impact on your life then let her go. Don't let her become YOUR problem. If you're drawn to women like these, you've probably got your own issues to sort out and may need therapy yourself.
All in all, please feel free to share you stories with dating an EMW, and help refine my guidelines. I think that they're probably over the top and cruel, but I assure you that there is a lot of truth in them. If you can do this correctly, you're get yourself a great fuck buddy and potentially great partner for sexual adventures and group sex. But never forget - as soon as you fall for them, you're done.
One example I can think of, is the character Elle Bishop from the TV show Heroes. Her father continually lets her know how much of a disappointment she is, and she is constantly trying to gain his affection. Despite being an adult woman in her 20's, Elle is portrayed as mentally unstable and reminds me quite a bit of my ex. She is petty, uses other characters to her own benefit (using her sex appeal as well), and only cares about herself and pleasing her father. Always refers to her father as "Daddy".
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