well, i have been 2 years in a row in love with one girl (and i know this is so beta) anyway, we talk about sex, what she likes, sex tecniques etc but she's "in love with her bf" and i miserably talk with her about her bf, and actually i teach her how to fix her relationship and i feel like the biggest beta in the world, how do i get started to grow the fuck up (i'm 23 btw)

edit: i remembered something, she told me than she liked me before like 4 months ago, but on that time i escaped because i was so fucking tired about being in love with her while she had bf etc.

What to do, also i have a HUGE Approach anxiety because my self steem is like onthe ground

I'm not an english native speaker so sorry

Anyone?

The cure for oneitis is so simple yet so effective: fuck other girls. Reduce the amount of interaction you have with this one girl, and increase the interaction you have with others. Approaching strange women is scary, but you'll have to challenge yourself if you want to change your situation.

As for your self-esteem, you have to ask yourself why you it is so low. What beliefs underlie your low self-confidence? Are they even true? And if so, can you change the things you feel bad about? And should they really stop you from reaching your goals?

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

Dude you are not her little bitch. You are not here to fix her problems. If your intent is to fuck her, then YOUR INTENT IS TO FUCK HER. Be honest about that and man up. You are talking so much to her because you have a secret agenda, you want to bed her. But have you ever told this to her? You are not doing ANYONE any good by being like this.

You should be upfront with her and all other girls you ever meet again in your life about what your intention is. And then you NEVER EVER APOLOGIZE FOR IT. You want to have sex with this girl. So what? There's nothing wrong with that. It's natural. She's attractive. Sexy. You cannot control your attraction - seriously, you can't - not on the physical front.

If she has a problem with that she can fuck off. Seriously. Why are you hanging out with her? You are gaining nothing from this experience, from her. You help her out with relationship advice, but actually you don't want to. You just want to fuck her. See how deceiving this sounds? You are a deceiving person if you are like this. You're not hanging out with her because you actually care, but because you want something from her, and yet are not man enough to own up to it, to be confident in your intention.

And she is just using you. She has friend-zoned you. That thing about her liking you a few months ago? Poof, gone.

Seriously, get reading and go out. Look up some PUA stuff, find out who you are and what you want. Have an erection and fuck a few girls without apologies. Be sexual. Be the man you want to be. Know what you want and go for it without any apologies whatsoever. Say and do what YOU want. Stop caring so much about the outcome. Have fun.

Know that you are a sexual being and never apologize for that. If you want a girl, go for her. If she isn't interested, NEXT! Find another girl, build a connection, have sex, and you will realize this girl wasn't all that, really.