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| Shady Shakes | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 9:14 am | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:14 pm Posts: 28 | | Ok, I have spent the last year and a half reading a great deal of pua material, and learning virtually everything there is to know about the game.
For me, the problem is the deep rooted mindsets that I'm currently stuck with, as a result of a rather conservative upbringing. By this I mean my parents are the kind of people who come up with bullshit like I should learn to cook because it will impress women.
I know stuff like that is rubbish, and that you need to not care, be aggressive, dominant and lead, but when I'm on the field I freeze up and don't do it.
When I'm on the dancefloor I'm that guy chilling with his mates, looking over his shoulder hoping some woman will magically come over and start dancing with me.
It's a piss weak mentality, but it's part of my subconscious, and I'm finding it a huge obstacle to overcome. That's why I'm 20 and have had no sexual experiences. What can I do to get over this?
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| Pickwick | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 10:43 am | |
| Offline | | Dedicated Member |  | Joined: Fri Jun 08, 2012 12:37 am Posts: 659 | | You should know how to cook well, great skill to have.
Either way, it's not your upbringing but just a lack of confidence and experience. Dive into improving your self-presentation. How you dress, how you look, how you talk. Start getting interested in things. Go out and do something new. It will give you experience and with that, confidence. _________________ A morning of awkwardness is far better than a night of loneliness.
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| puaninja | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 12:35 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Fri Aug 10, 2012 12:27 pm Posts: 2817 | | You have to take initiave at some point. I liken it to the hunter. You can sit in one spot and hope an animal walks in front of you, but you might be sitting there all day and see nothing. Eventually you'll have to get up and start stalking some prey and make some long shots.
You are going to need to work on opening sets. Give yourself a goal, like 5 girls per night that you cold approach. That means walking up to them, even if they haven't even looked at you yet, and running a routine on them. Expect rejection, and don't get discouraged by it. Let that spur you on to open even more sets. _________________ “Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn
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| Shady Shakes | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 1:10 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:14 pm Posts: 28 | | You know what, after I wrote this I realised there was more to it.
I have a really, really low sex drive. It's baffling low, like I don't even feel like masturbating most of the time. If I had the true desire to go out and pull - and I do get it on rare occasions - I feel most of my problems would vanish.
How do you cure something like this, I'm just leaving my teen years, so it's not an age problem.
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| puaninja | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 1:38 pm | |
| Offline | | PUA Forum Leader |  | Joined: Fri Aug 10, 2012 12:27 pm Posts: 2817 | | I had a very low sex drive for a while due to medical reasons, but I still felt compelled to sarge just to maintain my social life and continue to meet women. I ended f-closing a girl and could barely get it up. But that didn't matter, I still did it. Eventually my drive came back and I'm horny all the time again.
Trust me, once you start fucking you'll become girl crazy and your sex drive will go through the roof. _________________ “Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn
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| Shady Shakes | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 2:02 pm | |
| Offline | | New to MPUA Forum | Joined: Thu Jan 26, 2012 7:14 pm Posts: 28 | | What do you think of spending a few hours watching porn, but not masturbating, before a night out to get testosterone levels up? Could it work?
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| ez_attraction | PostPosted: Thu Dec 13, 2012 5:38 pm | |
| Offline | | MPUA Forum Enthusiast |  | Joined: Thu Dec 13, 2012 3:05 pm Posts: 34 Website: http://www.howtoimpressagirl.biz/privatecoaching.html Location: UK | | Like the Nike Slogan, "Just Do It". That is how you will get confident with women. Keep practising. If you are on the dancefloor and you see a girl you like, go up to her and talk to her. Say hello. Say anything! What is the worst that could happen? If she is not interested, go and talk to another girl.
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