What can I do to be more attractive? Here's a little info on me: I use to weigh 270 and was always made fun od at school and bullied so eventually I developed low-self esteem. However I did loose the weight and now weigh 157! But my mentality is still there, but I STILL think it has nothing to do with it. On the other hand I'm 5'4 (with no shoes) and am kinda small framed and I genuinely think that girls find me repulsive. I wear and need glasses.

On the good side: when my social anxiety goes away, I'm funny, talkative, very smart, sensitive, honest. Girls do compliment me but I feel it's ingenuine. Like I get LOTS of flakes, so I feel unattractive. When I talk, I tend to be too literal and sort of act nervousus like Jerry Lewis. I mean maybe, some of my issues have to do with inner game, but I see no reason to lie to myself and say girls love me, when I have no reason to believe it - like I said I'm a logical person. If you'd like some pictures of me to see my appearance and overall give advice on how I SHOULD ACT (to be not like Jerry Lewis lol) let me know.

I'd REALLY appreciate it. Thanks guys, please help me out.

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Hey Floyd,

I've only registered here yesterday and have my own issue with the girls, but I can totally understand you as I was once in similar shoes and I think I can share some thoughts.

Girls really like smart, knowledgeable guys, no doubt about that. Now go and make that work for you - one of the best ways in my opinion is to draw a sense of humor from it. Like you I'm also an extremely rational and logical person (nuclear physicist), which can cause more problems than solutions if you don't know how to behave (by for example expressing skepticism about things girls usually find important, like horoscope etc...).

However, I'm willing to share one of the strategies that works very nicely for me. I know a lot of smart and humorous quotes, sayings and proverbs. I know so many of them that I can virtually use them all the time to kill two birds with one stone: Make girls laugh and make myself appear smart in their eyes. A deadly combination. An example from a party previous week, which sealed one of the girls for me. I was in a group of people with a few girls talking about how to stop biting nails. I jumped in and said:"Stop biting nails? That's the easiest thing on the world to do! I've done it at least 50 times up to now!" A killer blow that made them all laugh, made me smart in their eyes and also showed them that I have no problem to make fun out of myself. (Original quote:"It's easy to give up smoking. I've done it thousands of times." ~ Mark Twain)

Yes, outer appearance is important, no doubt about that, but combination of appearing confident, smart and humorous takes the cake any day.

My 2 cents. PUAs, please correct me .

You don´t need to feel that girls love you to hook up from time to time and have a girlfriend. You need to feel that if you are going to F-close once a week and have a harem in your phone.

To get out of your pit you just need to realize that you in fact are a good guy, have overcome hardships and in fact a lot of girls would be lucky to get to know you. That said, you need to work on your social skills to be able to allow girls to get to know you

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Hey man, congrats on the weight loss! You should be very proud of that.
How did you do it? did you use weights at all? Doesnt sound to me like you lift weights on a regular basis. If not, then start. You'll be amazed at how much better it'll make you feel about yourself. And once you start to put on some muscle girls will start to look at you in a whole new light, believe me.

Anabolicminds.com is a great place to start.

damn thats alot of weight at 5'4 good job losing it boss

You can hang out with guys not as good looking as you.

As stupid as this sounds, it makes sense.

Studies have shown that people find you more attractive when you are better looking than the surrounding -people.

You can lose weight. fix your teeth, get them whiter. You can work out. You can dress real well. You can get a hair do that suits you. You can smell better. You can talk better.

You can smile, and be a good listener. You can be genuinely interested in the person, they pick up on it.

There are many many things you can do. Midlife wrote some of the things out.

Post your pictures here or message me, and we can get deeper into your appearance.
Low self-esteem wise, there are many things you can do, which you can look up on this forum as well. I don't have time right now, but if you want to message me, I can offer you some advice on that as well.

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I'm not gonna lie, 5'4" and 270 is ridiculous. But at least you don't weigh that anymore. Unfortunately you are still exceedingly short. This will never change.

You can still work out and put some muscle on. Dress sharp and practice good hygiene. Maybe get eye contacts if you think that will help. Don't have some dorky haircut either. Those are just standard things any guy could do to make himself look better.

I would recommend establishing some realistic expectations for yourself. You probably wont' be getting many 10s any time soon. Maybe start at 5s and 6s for now and see what your results are there.

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