Dude, shes your oneitis...forget about her. The only thing left you can do now is to stop digging the hole your in. Remember, if you want her, you have to be willing to lose her. Be willing to walk away.

You are 100% right... But right now I KNOW she won't chase after me...

I guess basically my question is walk NOW or try to build a better connection with her...

I am leaning towards walking away now since that is what majority of you guys are saying... It will be tough but I've gone a whole month without texting her so I'll try to continue it...

No, you get friendzoned if you don't build attraction and show her your balls. So yes, continue texting her, but at the same time, up the ante on the flirting and sex.

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Dude, you're not getting it. You dont have a connection with her. She pities you for being so desperate. She simply doesnt want to have to be mean to you. You need to man up and walk away. Even if in the distant future she decides that she will give you a chance(which isnt going to happen btw)you would still need to walk away from her then just to repair the damage done already. Its a harsh reality man, but reality none the less. Ive been where you are, the best thing to do is chalk it up as a learning experience and dont let it happen again. There are lots of other girls bro.

I'm just saying it is way easier to build attraction face to face than over text. But you are right with the flirting/sex.

How do I not get it!?!? I am the one pointing out she is being nice here, I don't deny she is giving me some pity (I even call her out on it once). And where did I come off as SO desperate? I played it cool most of the time, I did slip up a couple times but nothing really changed...
But like I said, I highlighted the bad things rather than the good. And not every case where you fuck up it is a done deal... Have you not ever seen someone 'change', go back and get the girl? Ya it happens. But this case is different, she doesn't even know me really so it can't be a complete write off...

Also, where is my biggest downfall?? When I didn't make a move during school? Or something after??

And of course there is a 'connection', you don't even know the nature to our conversations. I haven't even been persistent/needy really...

I disagree with just walking away from it but I won't text her till I hear from her. She always wanted to stay in touch anyway so I won't just ignore the chick...

*On a side tho, how was she suppose to act? Did you really expect this girl to be texting me all the time and cancelling her plans/work to go out with me when she is dating someone 'seriously'? Even single girls do this shit to other dudes so I don't see the big deal really... And like I said, she is DOWN to kick it, I know I can her to come out and chill with me no problem. I didn't push hard for the hangouts because I wasn't sure if I should do the friend thing or just stay in touch with her till she is single...

I think you have really good chances. She replies to your texts ? Great.
I think you need to send her roses. That always work. Or the peacock thing I've read on other forums, that good too

If you stay as her friend you will be friendzoned. If you just stay in contact and pounce when she is single then you might have a shot. Stay a friend and your chance is significantly lower.

I still vote you stop seeing her altogether. Its hopeless and I would leave it but you seem to be WAY STRUNG UP on this girl. And obv 95% of the posters saying leave it alone isnt working so there you go. Don't be a friend

You guys are all right. I really thought about it and I was in denial I guess. I already knew my chances were low but I thought trying and failing would be better since I would at least learn something from it. This morning I was set on walking away...

But surprisingly some GOOD news, she texted me about 3 hours ago and told me she apologized for not keeping in touch, asked how I was and told me she had an exam in a couple hours. It was pretty random and caught me off guard, but I texted her back an hour ago and told her "No worries, good luck. We should catch up soon" And she replied back saying "I know we should !! Thanks, msg u later!"

I wasn't going to reply but I didn't want to be rude. But she may hit me up later tonight, or maybe fool me again. So should I peace out now and walk away or be nice and respond?

Man, if she invites you, GO! If she's giving you attention when you are ignoring her, it is a good sign. So, I say grab the opportunity to be with her. Try to take the most out of it and you'll see where it leads you. After this, you should be able to make a sound decision and stick to it.

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What a significant change of events! If she invites you out to "catch up" that is your chance to show her what you got. i don't wanna say its imperative you be at your absolute best, but it kinda is haha. No pressure Do not bring up her relationship status, if she chooses to just say thats cool and move on. If she mentions a bf, use the BF destroyer. If she is single just neg her a bunch about how her last guy didnt work out. If you see IOI's then go for it. This just got interesting

Thanks for the reply guys...

Only problem is I don't know if she wants to catch up via text or finally, in person. Regardless, I'll play it cool and act like it was no big deal we haven't communicated in a while. But if it is just via text, would she be expecting me to ask her to hang out or what?? Any tips?? Don't wanna fuck up since this is probably the best chance I got...

Well all along you have been right about one thing. That texting is way less easy to create attraction than in person. If i were you, I would see how she plays it. If she just texts you a lot I would say that I have other priorities and busy. lets get together this week and catch up over coffee. If she flakes again, for a reason other than work, then you finally know you have to let her go. Easy

Ok, not like I was waiting for her text but she hasn't even hit me up since, guess a false alarm...?? Such a fucking tease lol... I thought I understood chicks, until I met this once... If she does take a long time to get around and hit me up I won't reply and move on for good...

She really does expect everything to be handed to her, I definitely don't want that in a relationship because I know that is how it'll be...

So, she STILL hasn't hit me up... WTF?!?!?

So it'll be a week tomorrow since she said she would "msg me later" lol... If she ever does actually go through with it and text me should I just completely ignore her? I mean there is no way she is THAT busy... smh... How do I even bother not looking needy to a girl like this??

Why the fuck did she bother texting me to begin with?!?!? Did she just want to have a quick chat before her exam? And felt a little insulted when I kinda snubbed her??

Really don't get this chick... But I think it truly is time to just give the fuck up on her... I just really wish she actually got to know me but whatever...