Ok, so I met up with this girl last Friday. We went out for drinks, seemed to have a good time, and we fucked at the end before her sister came home.

Anyway, I text her when I get home, blaming her for taking advantage of me. She texts me back, and then texts me the next morning.

I try to make a few jokes over the next ensuing couple of days, but nothing too crazy.

I tell her that we need to go to see this bar near her house (I really do want to see it).

She says "Yes"

I then ask her when she's free, she says that tomorrow she has a girlfriend coming over and they're probably going out. Other than that, her week is a toss-up.

I suggest tonight or Wednesday.

She responds with "Ok, weds maybe"

I'm not quite sure how I handled this interaction poorly, but that is a very flakey response. I assume she will flake.

In light of this, how should I deal with it? Cancel on her? Go out with other friends and post it publicly on Facebook (she's a friend)? Make a bunch of jokes during the days between now and Wednesday in order to get her into it?

Well it seems like she's not conveying TOO much interest. Her "Wednesday maybe" answer isn't very convincing. And if you think she's going to flake you, just wait till she texts you on Wednesday, if at all. That way you save your dignity. That's what I would do anyway.

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If I were you I would text her again and ask her to cancel her other plans. It's scientifically proven that women like it when you exercise power over them like that

I wouldn't do that, it's too early.. As you describe the situation, you basically told her you are free whenever she is, thats not good.
Take Fly's advice. Or txt her on the day that you cant make it and tell her when you will meet her instead. If she flakes again, let her and try it next week. You are still at the gaming stage so treat it as one!

I think not texting her entirely would be odd - we've been texting off and on for weeks. I'll keep texting her for the next few days, but I'm not going to bring up hanging out - in fact I intend on going out with other friends. I went out with three of my other friends last Wednesday, and got laid, so it wasn't a horrible time.

I am aware that she is going on a LOT of dates lately (and widely making that knowledge available) but I likewise am known to be going after a large amount of girls at once.

My text game, when I control myself, is fairly decent now, but I sorta let my guard down after hanging out and the drunken sex.

I also don't know why I care about this one - typically I don't care, but for some reason I'm sorta jealous about her spending time with other guys.

I was a little easy on my offer to hangout, though. I'll need to note that as a weakness and control it for this one.

Your plan is good. I guess we always want what we can't have, and right now you can't have her for yourself...

Hrm.

I'm not sure how to interpret this - as randomness or as her trying to make us meet up randomly.

So I go to this bar in town (we live in the same town - fairly smallish but not that small, lots of bars, and in the middle of a major metro area, so if you want to go to bars in other towns, it's not that far of a drive).

She's posting about how she's out with her friends at such and such a bar, downtown.

That's great. I go out with my roommate and my other friend. Post an update to Facebook with us out partying (showing my Facebook I am social and having a good time).

We leave that bar shortly after, maybe 5 minutes after I make the status.

We drive to the next town over (a lot more bars even than the town I live in). I check my Facebook. This girl is at the bar I JUST left.

I post about how she just missed me and my friends by 5 minutes, and how she was a creeper, to her.

She likes that, and responds with "Shame."


How should I interpret this? It's definitely flirty - but was she trying to meet up with me? I mean it's one of the more popular bars in the area on a Tuesday, I suppose, so it may just have been random - but it seems odd that I post and literally less than 20 minutes later, there she is, at this bar.

Any idea?

No idea. 50/50 I suppose. But "shame" is a short and uninterested answer for most females.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

I read it as VERY sarcastic - she and I are incredible smartasses to one another.

Exact phrasing was:

"Oh what a shame."

It's up to you. If you actually don't give a fuck about her and you're looking just for some fun, text her Tuesday night and tell her the time and where you should meet her. Being persistent a bit might work. Try not to show her you're interested in her and keep having a good fuck.