Hey guys,

Anyone who's been following my posts might've gotten reference to this dry spell / whatever you wanna call it, that just won't quit.

Guy, there's no light at the end of the tunnel. I'm getting cold shouldered and one-word answered by every single girl I meet and try to talk to, be it online, the mall, out and about or at bars.

Things weren't always like this and I still can't figure out WTF or why. I've never been the "mack daddy" but I've had reasonable success as recently as a year ago. About 6 months ago I met a couple of my single guy neighbors in my new building and when they saw me approach, unhindered, and without worry, they responded, "OMG man, you've got game! We need to have you out with us more often! You actually get us in talking to the girls!" One, earlier on, assured me that no matter how bad I thought my game was, his was worse.

Well, fast forward several months and they've just reverted to what they'd been doing before: social clique-based dating. I'm sorry but that's not saying anything anything if you've been able to get a girl who was a friend of a high school friend to date you. That doesn't show that you've learned anything or that you've got game. So now they're not out with me and my nightlife has taken a plunge.

Friday night I had a going away happy hour for my job I've been a about a year and a half (left for about 40% more pay; build an "extraordinary life", right.

I had had a few drinks, and afterwards a buddy of mine from work and I hit the neighborhood scene. There were three Asian girls; one smoking hot, one tall but not a troll (he said ugly); the 3rd was mediocre.

Taking my lead, he approaches, and we're talking to the three of them. I had isolated the hit Asian girl and after about 10 minutes of conversation, the girl tells me "I have to go to the bathroom" / or maybe it was "I have to go over there for a second." I chill at the bar. I look over my shoulder 2 minutes later, she's there with the whole group and my friend, *in* the group and just talking regularly.

I come back around. The girl ends up somewhere else when I then relayed to my friend what had happened, (and WTF??!!). He said, "I don't know man, she came over and said she just didn't feel the chemistry or something with you. (That's the 90% post first-date response I've been getting from girls, hands down.)

He had to go to the bathroom. I was just at a boiling point and just hit the road w/out him. He called later, and hung up when I told him I bolted b/c I was just so fed up with that shit. Inconsiderate of me, yes, but I was also drunk and fed up. The next day he told me he understood but that I shouldn't do that again bc that kind of thing can really annoy people. He said that I was drunk may have been a cause, which is funny because the drunkness usually got me over the finish line years ago.
He also relayed to me that he ended up going home with the "tall, ugly one, not one of my proudest moments." I told him at least he closed - period.

A week ago I met a girl on OKCupid. 29. Owns a horse and rides him 4 days a week. Expensive private college, then London School of Economics for grad school. I could not for the life of me get the discussion OFF of our jobs! She was no prize in the looks dept either, but when she walked in, her first glance at me was a look of disappointment. She social screened all through the date and I ended it early on my terms.

Guys, this is getting to me to the point where I'm being an asshole to friends (case in point that one night) and spitefully following up with girls who refuse a second date by saying stuff like. "Have fun spending New Years by yourself!"

Does anyone have any feedback or advice on something like this. Nothing in my life matters; not all of the quality shit I've got going on - matters to these girls. I don't brag and force it. I don't talk about my job or car. Again, I've had success before.

I'm beginning to think my age and looks are starting to affect my game. I've been told that your face is 90% an indicator of good genes, and girls can assess that from a guy's face in a heartbeat. They want the chiseled jaw.

Have any of you seen age and associated looks instantly becoming a problem overnight? I'm not fat or balding or anything. This is just driving me f'n nuts!!!

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First of all, not everyone will like you. That's why you need to keep opening women. That girl did you a favor by getting up and going to the restroom and not coming back. That way you don't have to waste anymore time on someone who doesn't like you back.

Also, I'm curious as to what you think it is about you physically that women don't like. Most guys who are just average can peacock or clean themselves up enough to get their foot in the door with most women. It sounds like to me that you are kind of down on yourself and your inner game is fucked up.

There's a reason why a lot of pua's try to get physical/sexual early on. Because it will tell you if the girl is interested in you or not. If she's not, then it's a waste of time to keep talking to her. Not that you need a girl to make out with you in five minutes after meeting her, but it's the fact that she would be willing to make out with you which is an ioi that she likes you. All you can really do bro is just keep gaming women and try to improve your inner and outer game. Remember, some girls just won't like you no matter what you do. Don't focus on those girls. Focus on the ones who will put out!

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“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says 'I'm possible'!” ~Audrey Hepburn

I feel for you man. I figure 90% of the time when you talk to women it's an energy thing with regards to how you come off, if you're feeling shitty and down then you'll not do so well. But sometimes it just doesn't click. Drinking large volumes worth of alcohol doesn't help in the attraction stakes, of course.

I am with you on the 'better life' thing. It matters outside of the clubs, but inside a nightclub, everyone is equal. That's where the real PUA's and not the wannabee's like me excel, I guess. If you get talking to some girls about the stuff you got going on for you, sometimes though you can build serious attraction as long as they are invested in learning about you, somehow - 'figuring you out'. Maybe you are coming on too strong or something, and need to hold back a little, be more mysterious?

No need to take it out on your wingmen though, it's not their fault. It hurts to get rejected but it's all part of the game. Just keep plugging away I guess, relax. Maybe if you have to, listen to some hypnotherapy stuff on youtube before you go out, get some new threads, try and change 'something' so your mentality changes with it. It works for me, anyway.