Hi,

I have been after this one special girl for a while and also dating other women. This girl does a lot of sh*t tests (I pride myself on impeccable manners, so if you don't like my spelling, go fuck yourself). So anyway, I mostly either just ignore them, blow them spectacularly, or use humor or frame control. But recently, she started texting me questions when I know she already knows the answer, and she does so disinterestedly (no punctuation, no caps). Is this a sh*t test, and if so, how bad is it if I blow one?

-JJ

I'd drop texting. If she gets irritating, next her or you could tease her for being so "weird"

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Sometimes when the girl starts using hardcore psychological manipulation you need to put her in her place. If she shit tests you, give her a clever answer that she knows you are trying to pass off as the truth, eventhough BOTH of you know it is a lie. Then when she calls you out on it, be like "Well then why are you asking me that question if you already know the answer?"

I'm seeing this girl who is really needy and needs a lot of validation. She continually asks if I like her, if we are right together, etc. At first I tried to reassure her, but she kept asking the same question over and over, although she'd phrase it differently half the time. Eventually, I started telling her "No, we are not really right for each other. That's why after Christmas and the New Year I think we should move on." That sounds fucked up, but if she didn't want to hear that answer then she shouldn't keep asking me the same fucking question.

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That's pretty brave, man... why go through the holidays together?

Nobody wants to be alone for the holidays. Plus I'm dropping hints that I want a big flat screen tv for christmas and I'm hoping she'll get me one.

I told her that after the new year a contract extension will be optional and negotiable, if we decide to keep seeing each other. You may think I'm bullshitting, but it's amazing what you can get away with when you dance the fine line between outrageous propositions and pretending to be just kidding.

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