Hi there,

it's been a while since I needed your help the last time. I'm 21, been with 30+ women, I think I'm doing pretty good for someone like me. Yet about every year I fall for the same trap, oneitis.

This year it's a cool blonde. She just turned 20, so I am almost 2 years older. We met about 2 months ago at a silent disco party. We started dancing and since we had only one pair of earphones, we kept sharing them, what was kinda fun, since one would always have to "guess" the rhythm of the music. I started touching her, but didn't kiss her. After a while I pulled her out the club and took her home. Halfway home she told me she can't since she has a boyfriend. I said it's cool, hug her goodbye and went home.

Four days later, we ran into each other at a college party. We talked for a while, she mentioned she broke up with her boyfriend 3 days ago (day after she met me), but she claimed it was after she kissed another guy. We played question game and SHE asked me if I want to kiss her. (At that moment I just thought what a pussy I am). We made out, she offered me to stay at her dorm, I told her I'm gonna stay at my friends' dorm, hugged her goodbye and went to another girls' dorm to fk her brains out and stay overnight.

A couple days later I've proposed we watch a movie at her dorm. She was okay with that. Since then we meet every 2-4 days at her dorm. I can feel I'm falling for her for so many reasons. Not that she's only beautiful, she's also pretty damn mature. Now some stuff that might help you analyze where am I standing:

Pros:

- we're 50/50 at engaging texting, fb chat, etc.
- when I lay in bed with her, she has that doggy dinner bowl look, she caresses me a lot, she makes sure I'm covered with a blanket, she cuddles a lot, she rests her head on my chest, etc.
- We make each other laugh a lot
- her friends constantly tell me not to break her heart
- she complies a lot (she cooked for me, baked for me (she's a great cook btw.), she travelled over an hour in cold weater in short skirt to see me, she stayed for weekend to spend it 100% with me although she's never stayed before, etc.)
- once in a club she's tried to make me jealous by making out with my friend. I didn't give a flying f..k, went to bar, met a hot girl, made out. She kept checking me out from distance. When I came to her, she bit me in my neck pretty hard and complained she is pissed off when I make out with other women in front of her. I responded something like "We're not exclusive, darling, you're free to do the same."
- We have a lot of sex. Even in her dorm room while her roommate is there, sleeping cca. 1 meter away from us. She has earplugs though.
- During sex, we talk a lot. I've given her some pretty cool orgasms, especially once when I asked her how much she likes me, right before she came. She answered after the orgasm, whispering "a lot". I responded the same.
- She loves to go down on me, she loves all the nasty stuff I do to her.
- In the bedroom, I call her my slut, etc. She loves it.
- We hold hands a lot, although i initiate it most time
- We go to cinema, for walks, etc.
- We sext, she loves it.
- She's really wet. Way more than most girls I've been with.
- Sometimes during the first two weeks she's been bitchy. Now she amost never is. She shittested the hell out of me and I think I've done well.
- I've described the state of our "relationship" to my best female friend and she said the girl probably loves me.
- She's probably not a slut. She didn't go with me when she had a bf, although I've seen she definitely wanted.
- Once during fb chat, I just turned the thing off and went to bed, in the middle of a conversation. The morning after there was a message from her saying she thinks she deserves at least a "goodbye" when I leave. I feel she cares about me.
- Her ex keeps calling her but she just ignores the phone when I am present. I am convinced she doesn't care about him much anymore.
- Last time we met in the city, she was late. She sent me a text apology she's gonna be late for 10mins. She was actually late for about 20, but I've seen her RUNNING FOR HER LIFE in those high heels as she was coming. She started apologizing right after we kissed for a welcome. She definitely wanted to be on time.
- She's only been with 4 guys and I believe her. The first was a ONS at holiday, the next two were LTR. The last one is me.
- she oftenly texts me with some stuff about her family, dog, she sends me a youtube video, etc., just to strike a conversation
- she didn't go off the pill for two months so we could have unprotected sex
-we often have "me too!" moments

Now the cons:
- She rarely invites me to her place. Often she asks if she should download a particular movie for the next time I come, but rarely arranges a certain event. I almost always have to ask if she's free. But maybe this is how it's supposed to be.
- Two days ago, she asked me if I had any idea for a costume she could wear for her friends' party. Well, she didn't invite me to the party and I found it quite rude, so I didn't answer that. But maybe she just wanted to start a conversation with me? Next time maybe I should tease her about not inviting me?
- Yesterday she got a part time job out of nowhere. The very same day she added her boss, cca. 30yrs old, definitely a millionaire (I told you I'm obsessed with her) as a friend on facebook. She's superhot and he'll def. try his move. This kinda makes me feel like shit.

Another thing:
I don't know where do I stand with her. I'd like a LTR with her but I feel this is a topic she should touch first, right? I can feel sometimes she represses her feelings towards me because she's afraid she would scare me. Only if she knew....
But sometimes I feel like maybe she's not that much into me. Maybe it's just my head and insecurities messing with me, who knows.

To sum it up:
She does a lot of sweet things to me. I like her a lot. I hope she does like me a lot too. I feel I might be turning into a wussy. I am definitely jealous, so is she. I repress my feelings towards her, she does the same. I am a little afraid I'm just a rebound for her, although she might be afraid of the same, because I broke up with my previous LTR just 14 days before I met her. I have a oneitis. GFTOW doesn't help, I've tried to f..k every solid girl in my sight, but all I have in my head is her. I see a lot of quality traits in her and I rate them way higher than her beauty. I feel weird because she rarely invites me over, but maybe she just expects me to be the one who initiates that...etc.

Sow how should I behave now? What should I do? I want a LTR with her, but I just feel like my PUA brain is shut off because of her. Right now I'm with these oneitis glasses on and I'm pretty blind, I need your insight. I wrote down every single important thing I can think of and I've been very accurate.

Guys and girls, if you could answer these doubts and questions I have, this might really bring me a great LTR.

Thanks and feel free to analyze the shit out of this!

Today she messaged me saying she doesn't feel well and that she has to postpone us being together. I responded later with "Cool. Let me know when you get better." She said "Yeah."

I smell BS but well, what can I do. And maybe she really doesn't feel well as she's 2 or 3 days off the pill.

We're gonna run into each other tomorrow at a party and I need to get myself together. Any suggestions?

I don't really see the problem here. You've got her pretty interested. If you want an LTR with her, start treating her like a girlfriend, and sooner or later "what are we" will come up. Oh, and keep up the mind blowing sex, of course.

Well, I can feel it in the air, man. Her interest level IS going slightly down.

I've decided to put more girls into my rotation and go NC with her for some time. Let's see if she fights back not to "lose me".

Just try a mini-freeze out for now, no need for total NC. Do things to improve yourself, and DHV yourself, that should get her interest level higher. Adjust the frame so that she is the one doing the chasing.

Alright. Thanks man!

Another possibility ran through my head - is it possible she's expected me to make a move after she said she likes me a lot? I don't like the idea of me proposing a relationship.

UPDATE: She's just texted me she still doesn't feel very well but she'd like to see me. She asks if I could come earlier, too.

Let's make her wonder a little.

Obviously your cons are BS: you feel insecure because she met a millionaire. WTF who cares. Just do this chick. Why do people get money`? To have sex. You have sex with this chick. So you´re there already. AND OMG she COOKS FOR YOU.

Sounds reasonable. It's probably just my head messing with me. I'll just be the guy she met two months ago, be a little more unavailable and see what future brings.

We spent last two nights together, it was really good. Once after sex, I asked her how much she likes me. She said "I like you a lot, you know that." Then she asked me about my feelings. I told her I also like her a lot but told her she knows that's not the answer I'm asking for. She told me she is a little afraid to tell me more.

It sounds pretty good to me.