In life, people have two options:

1 Live Epically. This means that, even when you wake up at 04.00, at 23.30 you still stravel 40 min by metro to pick up your girl and 40 min back with her, to have her in your room and have sex. Which is what happened to me last night. Living Epically means doing crazy shit. Me and my gf went to some of her friends. Then on the way out I said to one of her friends: "Yeah, so nice having having met you. You know, we cannot stay anymore because we have to do naughty things. See you next time." I said it in a totally casual tone of voice and the person I was talking to didnt notice shit because they´re only smalltalking anyway. My gf however noticed and she turned red. I didnt even flinch when I said it. Awesome.

2 Survive. This is what people do 999 out of 1000 times. They think the mountains are too high for them to climb. They PREFER to think the mountains are too high for them to climb. They choose to believe this because not trying costs less effort than trying. They like to be little and powerless. So people create masters, like "I´m not beautiful enough for this anyway." People love having masters. When they say that they want to change, they always lie. People are born with character or without it.

In your point of view, it seems people don't have options, but are born "to live epically" or "to live non-epically". I think people can work on their character, and improve. If I look back a month, I can see I already changed, both personally and professional. Why am i changing something? Because I was not comfortable with my current life any more. I'm far from living epically, but it's that very knowledge which motivates me. Nonetheless, I like how you state "choosing a master" instead of "plagued by a demon". In the end, we choose or own believes and destiny. And obviously, you have a strong believe of living an epic life, which can only be beneficial to you confidence. However, the reality is far more nuanced than epic and non-epic people..

I am plagued by a demon, the passion that I feel for a girl that broke up with me a while ago, and it is a ripple in my otherwise so imperturbable personality. And no matter how much sex I have with other girls the extacy is just not the same.

But the distinction between Epic and non-Epic is accurate. I meet people from all walks of life for my job and I´ve read all Epic books from Dostojevski to Ayn Rand, Nietzsche, Shakespeare, the Alchemist, whatever, I´ve travelled many lands, dated girls from a variety of nations and races, seen and done the craziest shit. Sat down at a dining table with the commissionar of the queen and with a bunch of bums at a railway station. And I will tell you this, what it all comes down to:

Girl really loves a guy. She´s totally in love with him. She told him: "I will meet you tonight and won´t hold back!" At the early evening she sits down with her friends in a restaurant, has a drink. Another one, it gets cosy and she has in the back of her mind that she´s supposed to meet him. Another drink. The hours slip by, something nags her that she has to get moving . . . And then it´s too late, because the last train is gone. The only thing she can do now is to call him and make excuses, about how badly she wanted to see him, about that the train is gone.

Perhaps she will lose the love of her life because of this, or the ultimate dream job offer. In the end, people lose because they cannot struggle against their own inertia.

This is how it always goes. In politics, relationships, business. People are overcome by their own inertia. 99.9% of the people only move because either someone holds a carrot some centrimetres in front of him, and presses a knife against his back. The 00.1% is the people holding the carrot and the knife, and they see how trivial and weak the rest is.

I like this. I once read a scientific study in which they offered people a much cheaper energy plan, and asked them how much they would be willing to pay to switch. Turns out most people actually felt they needed to be compensated to switch to a cheaper plan. Scientifically determined cause? Inertia.

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One of the most useful things you will ever learn about body language.

You probably did something wrong in the second date. The important thing is to practice, learn and get better, its a fun game after all.

Nothing is lost though, you can reply: "What are you talking about? I just wanted to be friends". and wait for reply. Then arrange another date and try again, if you fail again then repeat this. If you are not able to get her just use her as bait for other girls, and have her as a guy friend to use with other girls for your benefit, tell her, help me out and I will help you too, we are friends after all (fix her computer or some shit), taking a girl out with another girl as your friend in the first date makes the other girl comfortable increasing chances she will want to meet and activates preselection, just for fixing up a computer or giving her advice about guys.

I also recommend to use the phone or email as little as possible or not at all and use time bridges of 2 or 3 days, even 5 at the beginning. Arrange this at the end of each date in a suitable moment.

Good luck and have fun.