I see many guys complaining about how hard it is to open, to be sexual, to full-close, etc.

But let me tell you something, all of those aspects are nothing, compared to "sexual inconstancy". Just think about it for a second... You have no problem opening, you can be sexual with a girl, you have the required skill set to bring her home and fuck her. But guess what, you are inconstant when it comes to fucking her, which lead you to not fully want to close her.

This is what is happening to me. And yeah, it sucks.

Sometimes I can't get it up, sometimes I can last for 30-40 minutes while I may last for less than 1-2 minute with other girls. I am being harsh on myself since I know most of the girls enjoyed their experience as they want to see me again later, etc. But coming from a background where I was always expected to be the best, it is quite discouraging since I feel powerless about that situation.

But hey, do you imagine the lack of motivation I have when it comes to pick up if I don't really feel like closing girls anymore?

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

I've been there from time to time.. For me it's more of a thing that comes and goes. Sometimes I want to close really badly, and have an awesome time doing so. Other times I don't feel like closing at all. At this point I'm actually able to enjoy the gaming a little more because I am less outcome dependant, and simply game for the fun of it.

My advice as to this problem is to try and enjoy the gaming, not the outcome!

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Alea iacta est - The die has been cast

I think the focus should be on the real problem, what is happening when he get them naked.

I can feel your pain Matt. Although I have never had a problem with getting a hard on, a friend of mine did on a recent holiday and it really knocked his confidence. I can relate to the quick firing though, not all the time but it feels like you got them all worked up for the night of their life and you stop it short. I have two extremes of bad, either I cant shoot my load at all or its annoyingly/embarrassingly quick(2-5 minutes). Not really sure of a way around of it though, I am sure its all in the mind because whenever I do get to the dirty and think about it one of the two happens.

Its annoying but I have never bothered to research into. Maybe because looking up a problem is accepting it? If you do find anything useful let me know though!

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"Lets get out of here..."

I want to get more consistant in bed so I've done some research, and stumbled on the forum pegym.com which is basically a forum dedicaced on sex/penis. How to get harder erection, last for longer, have a bigger penis, etc.

Looked for a lot of information and even started doing a routine. I cannot assume that it works yet but it worth trying.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

For getting a hard on, I don't know any natural solution (except viagra of course non-natiural).... but if you want to last longer, highly recommend Kegel exercises, google it.

Matt and his Penis talk, bring flashbacks... Anyways, this happens when you are too much into your head, nervousness, sometimes alcohol and sometimes lack of chemistry. I also recommend the book "Sex God" by Rose it covers and explain in detail this problem and is just a must read as part of your growth in seduction.

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

hey i have this problem actually. very inconsistent in the sack - some days im a god and others im busting way quick.

i think its all about just fucking one girl for awhile and figuring your stuff out.

thats what i tried and even though i am still inconsistent, i know at the beginning of taking off our clothing which type of night it will be so i adjust and have some foreplay beforehand where i bust via blowjob or handy and then after a short break, fuck her brains out.

but i completely understand, some girls dont want to have foreplay, they are already aroused and ready to go and your pecker needs to be ready to go at an A level asap.

@skills, ill read that book bro. thanks for the heads up

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Slayin ladies all around the world

You miss 100% of the shots you never take.
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I think it all depends on the girl how long you last.

The real tight bangin chicks I'm attracted to make me finish a lot sooner thats for sure

My solution: Get reallllyyyy drunk!

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Meh, I don't think it's a good solution because it will not help you on the long term. However, last night I brought a girl I banged a couple of time home and because I drank 4-5 beers, I couldn't even get hard until morning sex !

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Dear Optimist, Pessimist & Realist,

Just to let you know that while you guys were arguing about the glass of water...... I drank it!

Sincerely, the Opportunist

Maybe it would help if you felt more for the girls? Sometimes it sucks cause I really don't like most of them, but I want to...