I asked this question before but got no response so handled the situation myself and may have handled it wrong.

I met this girl on a online dating site and we hit it off pretty well with online chatting and texting. She was very affectionate and flirty and began texting me every day all day. She basically begged me for a date so we met and everything seemed to go well. In person she was very shy so I was the one who had to initiate everything. We made out, there was touching and biting and soft moaning and fast breathing on her part. All in all I thought it went well. She texted me when she got home thanking me and mentioning she had accidentally taken my hat.

Within the next couple of days her texting changed though. She still texted all day, but now her focus was on complaining about problems in her life. Any text I made to change the subject was met with one very short seemingly uninterested responses. I called her on it and she apologized siting her problems in her life as being what was making her act that way. I let it go but she continued doing it after her apology. So I froze her out which made her respond by texting what did she do and several calls. I eventually started talking to her again but she started doing the complaining and uninteresting texting again. So I froze her out again this time her attempts at re-initiating contact where less desperate and came about once a day asking what she did wrong and saying she hopes all is well and she guesses she'll talk to me when ever she here's from me. I responded the next day saying I'd just been busy, but everything's good I got no response.

Two weeks pass and she texts me Hope u have a good Thanksgiving! I asked on here for advice on what my response should be and got no response to my thread. So I responded by wishing her the same. She then asked me if I was spending Thanksgiving with my daughters which I responded yes. She then expressed that she was spending Thanksgiving alone to which I didn't respond.

Now a week has gone by and I find myself thinking about her and she hasn't contacted me since. I'd like to try and get her interest back. Anyone have any helpful suggestions on how to re-initiate contact? Or should I just continue the freeze out or potentially forget about her all together?

How far would you go to get her back? The reason I ask this is because you could fabricate some type of issue that is occuring with one of your daughters. Text this girl and be like "OMG, my oldest is missing, we think she ran away!" It doesn't necessarily have to be that extreme, but you need to make it seem like it's a big deal to you in that moment and you are desperate for advice on what to do. Women are suckers for that shit and they'll quickly forget about the "man and woman" issues and instead focus on the kid. Then you get her opinion on what to do and tell her you have to go because you gotta' go deal with it.

Wait until she eventually calls you or texts you back (don't text her!). Tell her "All is good now, but that little girl had me scared!" Then be like "So how have you been by the way..." and just start from there. I call this creating a false drama.

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Confused as to why you didn't respond with "hey, why don't you come over here and spend thanksgiving with us?" which is pretty blatantly what she was fishing for, I think.

Judging from what you wrote, it seems like you weren't TOO interested in her... Afterall, you froze her out on more than one occasion and didn't seem too disturbed. After not hearing from her in a while, you must have missed that attention.

In short, you're not after her... You're after the attention. My suggestion is to forget about her and find another girl that will give you good attention... Not shitty attention. She also sounds like a retard for the record.

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I'm not sure I want to go that far, I worry about Karma possibly biting me in the ass if I do something like that. Like if something did happen to my daughter afterwards I'd feel like I tempted fate and paid for it.

I feel like the wishing me a Happy Thanksgiving was her giving herself the excuse to contact me under the facade of being polite. Problem is I think I was colder than I should've been. I've seen other similar posts that if I understand correctly she was reaching out and should have been rewarded and instead I punished her for it perhaps making her think I've lost interest all together. Truth is I can be a bit prideful and it lends a hand in me being colder than I actually am. Trying to balance that and not be a AFC is hard for me I seem to go to extremes.
I felt like she was doing that or at least looking for pity. In either case I didn't want to do what I feel made her take me for granted in the first place which is being too nice or too available.
I was interested at first, but the less interested she got the more cold I got. It's a defensive response on my part I think. You maybe right about missing the attention, I recently cut a couple of girls loose. All I've got now is a FWB so I receive no attention except when her boyfriend is getting on her nerves and it's strictly sexual. It's also why I was able to freeze her out easily I had a lot going on just a week ago. All I've got going on now is a potential who happens to be either sleeping with or dating a friend of a friend, but that's another thread entirely.lol! The weekend is coming up though so hopefully I'll be able to open with some more potentials.

Still I would like to initiate contact with this girl again any suggestions?

First I want to thank those who replied and offer an update if anyone's curious.

I let the freeze ride till today and gave her a casual call. I've been lucky enough to have 2 FWB's and a potential LTR to keep me distracted and control what ever AFC tendencies I have. I'm a selfish bastard and wanted more attention so I decided to give her a call. My mind frame was nice and calm since if I was rejected I definitely had places to turn. As luck would have it she was ecstatic to hear from me. She was driving and I heard her fumbling the phone before I got too shaky hello's. She was really happy to hear from me and said as much repeatedly. In either case we talked for 10 minutes before I ended the convo. with her saying call me and me replying nah, you call me.

Just figured I'd put it out there as so far I've mostly seen problem threads so I imagine it's a nice change to get an update and it be positive thread to read.

Again thanks for the advice.

Awesome, I hope this works out for you. You have a good head on your shoulders and I think you'll play this right and get what you want out of her.

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