Guys totally new to this, looking for some support feedback gameplan.

Details about me, 44 working my way out of my first marriage, run 2 biz, dress well, in shape, good looks

I was in Vegas about 5 weeks ago, met a stripper who I liked spent about 6 hours with her in private chat for about 3-4k, she gave me her number, we texted a few times, I came back the next day, and spent a couple more hours with her, another 2-3K.

I get home text her about 10 days later, we start texting a bit, she is very flirty initally says things like I was dreaming of you last night, thought of you all day, lots of lead on language, etc etc. Right now she knows I am married, she doesn't know we are separating/divorcing have 2 kids she knows that. May not matter.
The texts seem to go well, but I can sense, about 2 weeks ago, they were less flirty, like it was waining, my text game probably sucks, but there was no desperation, though there were some comments from me like thinking about you etc, maybe I wore that out. She has shared a good deal about her family etc, but you know hasn't really asked much about me, selfish I guess? She told me her boyfriends all took her money, I know typical stripper pathology.

I setup a trip to visit her in LA, initially she is into it, says she can spend a couple of days with me while I am there on biz, I setup a couple of cool things to do etc. Anyway just sent her an email with details, says she has to go back to Vegas to work next week as biz has been slow and the rodeo is in town the last big week of the year, so essentially she blows it off. Which may be true, but whatever, I know the deal if a girl is into she will make time.

1. Questions was there any connection, did I just wear it out, was it just money based wants me back in to spend more? Thoughts.......... Should I reply to her at all, blow her off, tell her to F*** Off, or just move on.

More than likely she just wants your money. Sometimes they may genuinely like you (to an extent) and the idea of being with you and letting you take care of them so they can get out of the stripping lifestyle is appealing to them. You can test her by mentioning that money is going to be tight for you after your divorce. Even if she thinks you are rich, lead on that this will be changing. See how she reacts. Also, try to find out what she actually wants, like if she is looking to stop stripping and settle down. That's my advice.

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Right on the money issue that was in the back of my mind, but do I even bother to reply at this point after she has blown me off this one time. I am not really sure what to make of it.

I am pretty loaded as well but I never tell girls about my career, I drive a Civic, and I dress like an average guy. That way, I know a girl will accept me for who I am -- not my money. puaninja's advice is pretty spot on.

If you haven't heard of Bill Gross, I suggest you read up on his love story -- a billionaire who lied about his wealth and career to his love interest and only revealed the truth after they got married.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

Only reply if you feel like you want to pursue a further relationship with her. It's as simple as that. If the girl was hot, and I wanted her around, and money wasn't an issue for me, then I probably wouldn't care if she was just with me for the money. But that's just me.

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Ninja's advice is tight!

With that said, here is my rosy view lol.

You are 44, just coming out of a long term marriage. About the same thing I went through at your age. (I am now 53).

Fuck the stripper and DONE! Bro, I'm sure the pussy was great, as well as the emotional crutch-ing!

But as you said, your still young, in shape, good looking, and still have a little dough left!

I wasn't that lucky, Her, the good ol' IRS man and the Lawyers seemed to need it worse than me LMFAO!

Go out and try on vagina's like your shopping for new shoes.

Have a FUCKING BLAST! You just got the gold hall pass, WEAR THAT MOTHERFUCKER OUT!

Do you want to sit around for weeks, and pine over a Stripper that has 7k of your hard earned money?

OR.....do you want to suck up your man-balls, and have that well deserved TIME OF YOUR LIFE you've always dreamed of?

I chose option 2! It honestly took me getting through a few fuck-ups before I figured out how to slap myself awake, and choose ME, MY LIFE!

It's been FANTASTIC.

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Update on this, kind of wrote a blow off email to this person, then appeared out of nowhere to see her again about 10 days later, and was warmly accepted, almost closed this, but we spent some time together, loser boyfriend (her words) creeped back into the picture again. She kind of blew me off on the last day (she could tell I was bummed), but still wants to stay in touch via text, but not quite making time for me and I have suggested some get togethers, get the feeling she is conflicted when we were together (enjoying it, but fighting it at the same time), but wants to try to work it out with old loser boyfriend (her words not mine). She texts back when I text her, but it's not as warm and fuzzy as it was. She has clearly put me into a waiting mode. Should I just leave it be and wait for the other dude to blow it, which he is likely to or what, probably play it cool now, pull back.