I finally managed to brake up my girlfriend from her ex-boyfriend, who had a 3 years old relationship
We're been friends for a very long time, so now that we're finally together, we can't have those feelings you have at the beginning of a relationship
Instead, we're tense between us, because we both have high expectations of each other
I'm not sure if our brains are trying to sabotage us, as neither of us is ready for a serious thing yet,but we're distant and cold, yet I want to make this work.I love her and she loves me back, but we're both in tough spots in our lives (money problems mostly) and that only amplifies the stress even more

Anyway, because I love her, and want to make her happy, I focused most of my energy trying to keep her happy as I feel that's what she needs.She now needs a support in her life more than ever, and right now I'm the only one capable and willing to give it to her.But because of this, she is redirecting all her anger towards me.I wouldn't mid if she did that once in a while, as those negative feelings have to come out somehow, and I consider myself strong enough not to get affected by them

But by doing this, even though she somewhat needs me by her, I know I'm doing it the wrong way.I feel like a doormat.I want to be strong for her, but I somehow end up as a weekling by trying to help her.
What should I do to regain my power?How exactly do I take over control again, while trying not to be a jerk and push her away.

I know that if I'll keep trying to help her in this way, I'll just end up losing her.

So what do you guys suggest?(I hope I explained my problem good enough so you can understand it)

Honestly, I find it's much easier to be a good partner when your partner is NOT your highest priority. When you're in control of yourself, you can see how your partner feels and what they like more objectively-and that allows you to treat them as an individual, instead of just your girlfriend, stop making her your priority! Stop NOW!

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That's exactly what I thought off too
Having no more expectations of her, and stop trying so much would actually bring her closer to me
But because of my lifestyle and lack of friends, this is really hard for me

I guess I'll just have to try harder doing my own stuff,and stop focusing on her so much