So my Ex of 2 years and I split about a month ago, and at the time I was the typical heartbroken guy, calling and asking where we went wrong/what I can do to get her back, writing her emails begging for a second chance, etc.. She started dating this guy and I went off to her about him, telling her he was no good and a looser, going nowhere in life. It came down to the point where she did not return my calls or answer the phone. And was very short and tempered with me.

Fast forward to a week ago when I discovered this site and started reading for hours and hours each night on every topic that I felt I needed to read. Within that week I stopped texting and calling her all together. I started gaining some confidence, I started running more, got a new haircut, and changed my wardrobe a little. I got out of the "depressed single guy" feeling to "I own this world, get the fuck out of my way"

Yesterday she called with her bitchy pissed off attitude and said she found some things at her place and I need to pick them up at 11am or shes throwing them out. It was a nice pair of shoes and a few books that I wanted so I figured I'd make it quick and get out of there. But then I thought. Why the hell am I letting her control the situation? I walked in with my head up high, walked with a little swagger, didn't make eye contact, said a few words and on my way out she touches my shoulder and she asks if I was ok? I told her "I've never been better, anything else before I go?" She gave a little confused look and said "no". I left.

This morning she texted me and asked how I was doing, I responded back with a simple "I'm doing great! busy, ttyl". Later in the day out of nowhere she asked if I wanted to get coffee with her on Thursday. This is coming from a girl who just a week ago was calling me every name in the book and telling me she would never talk to me again.

Half of me wants to tell her that shes not good enough for me and to enjoy your coffee alone, and the other half wants to get coffee, dominate that Starbucks, bring her back home and fuck her one last glorious time.

What do you guys think I should do?

I can honestly say that's one of the best turn around stories I've read on here... Usually people are depressed and don't listen to our oneitis advice. Good job, I'm proud of you.

Now about your situation. You say you want to fuck her one last time... Not gonna happen. Fuck once and you'll fuck again... Fuck again to the point you'll become FWB or just get back together. Promised.

So here is my question for you... Is this a woman you can spend the rest of your life with? If the answer is no, my suggestion for you is to take that huge ass confidence of yours and use it as a new beginning in your life. Don't look back and break contact with her.

You can always play that "I don't need you and I don't care for you" game with her but eventually your emotions will give in, and that's about the same time she'll start treating you like shit again... Putting you back to square one.

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Before she can respect you, you need to respect yourself.

LISTEN TO FLY SWATTER This SO much. But if you decide to try the FWB route, as it can be loads of fun IF you keep your emotions in check, a few things to remember:

1. De-prioritize her. Game other women, and make that a higher priority.
2. Don't fall into old ways i.e. treating her like your girlfriend again.
3. Become busy, at the very least fake it. You can and should:
---take your sweet ass time responding to texts/calls, if at all
---be vague about what you're up to; insinuate you are with other women but don't be explicit
---cancel plans with her for the fuck of it (make shit up)
---role switch - pretend she's just some clingy chick you fuck when you're desperate
4. Also, like I said, KEEP YOUR EMOTIONS IN CHECK. No angry outbursts, no talking about the relationship, no crying/whining, no "let's get back together" speeches, nothing. Remember the reasons she pissed you off, and take it out on her vagina.

I am going through a similar situation right now myself... good luck to you. And especially if you keep contact with her - you absolutely must fuck another girl ASAP. Avoid that one-itis like the plague. Even if new girl isn't as hot as your ex, it will still reduce that subconscious "need" that you likely still have for a girlfriend / sex.

Absolutely! My Ex is a solid HB8, and a HB10 in the personality department. I still have no idea how I got her.

She is dating this guy, who from what I hear is a schmuck. As much as I'd like to get her back, I'm feeling really good right now and want to have some fun and fuck hot chicks for a while. I've never cheated on her in our 2 years together so I'm going to take this opportunity and do it.

I'm still devising a plan to get my ex back next year, assuming I don't end up involved with someone.
I'm going to get the coffee with her on Thursday, let her know without saying anything that I'm to good for her and disappear for a while, at least until January.