Okay this is what happened. I request some advice what you guys think I did was the right course of action or not, and what I should do to proceed.

1 I met up with this chick and we set up a date on fb. We had two lemonades at a bar and we chatted really well. About political stuff, her family, studies, expectations from life. Etc. definitely built some connection. She was like: Hmm yeah you know my sis is here, I wanted to ask my friend to come but she couldnt come, now im alone, but its ok.

2 after 90 min of talking she said: "well you have a dinner tonight, but we can go to the house where I live, theres like a room there where people can sit, its not in my room but just a neutral place." I said yeah sure.

3 We sat at this room, chatted casually, met up some of her housemates. After 15 min she said: "ok I feel guilty about not being able to offer you anything." I said: "well I would sure like a tea, and if we could have one at your place perhaps thats what we should do."

4 We went to her room and I sat in the vicinity of her at a table with like 40 cm between us, and I shoved my chair a little closer after about 10 min so it was about 20 cm. We chatted and had some tea and conv flowed pretty well. However no real way to make phys contact because her hands were either too far from the table or too far to make contact. I didnt want to put my hand on her leg because 1. she invited me to her room. This is a big move of trust. If I rush things or do something unexpected, I can break trust. 2 I had a dinner coming on plus a date with my gf later the night so I knew that I wouldnt have time to do this tea-girl properly and that I would be doing it later tonight anyway. 3 she was from Arab origin however very secular/liberal yet I dont think its normal in their culture to do naughty stuff on a first date?

5 an hour later she let me out and there we kissed goodbye in friendly normal way, I laid my hand on her abdomen very lightly very briefly as she pressed her cheek to my lips and it felt like a little shock of surprise went through her. However this was in the hallway on the way out I thought this would be better than doing something like this in her room. With this I basically gave off the signal "im interested in doing more in the future if we meet again and you an trust me." She said: "it was good to see you again," yet not super excited. We have talked about a follow up later this week but not planned it yet. She asked me to send a sugg. on fb which is what I just did.

Then again . . . What do you guys think? Should I just have blatantly said: "I like you" while having the tea in her room? Should I have moved even closer so I could grab her hand or leg? Or is this just the best way I´ve played it given the circumstance? My reasoning was that 1 her sis was coming in some hours so she felt safe inviting a guy, and now I proved Im trustworthy, and 2 if she really wants me she will be willing to wait. But now I fear that she might have been wanting to be banged and think of me as "not PUA enough" to have held back?

So, comments welcome.

Talking for 90 minutes is absolutely ridiculous.. however I can only congratulate you on conversing that long.
The good news: this chick is interested in a relationship with you.
The bad news: It sounds like you have triggered provider rather than lover.

(google "lover v.s provider" for more info)

It's going to be hard to change your style of play now because the ball is in her court but if you stick with her long enough she will be DTF. I had this same problem with a girl a few years ago and I blew it by trying to escalate too quickly in the wrong place after taking some bad advice. Later I realised it wasn't the advice that was bad it was just that she had placed me in her mind as a LTR boyfriend type guy so when I switched to being more of a badboy to try and get sex she shut me off. Ironically I now have the opposite problem.. but that's another unrelated story.

My advice is to try be less of a provider if you want sex.

Do me a favor, slap yourself for even thinking about saying to the girl "I like you".

You didn't really screw anything up, so there's no need to analyze what you did in great detail. Could've, Should've, Would've doesn't matter in hindsight anyway. I think you did good building comfort and trust and rapport. Attraction doesn't always come right away, especially if she is shy or there are logistical issues. What a lot of guys don't realize is that some girls just want to know the guy isn't there because he wants sex. Now I know that you are there for that, but the point is that you don't want to telegraph that right away. That's why you keep it PG at first before going to the R rating on your next date, or even triple X.

Maybe you could've made out, or even had sex, or maybe not. Either way that's in the past. Just focus on your next encounter and make that one worth while.

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If you want to find love, then gtfo fag.

Obviously it´s no contest of honour to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed person. You did not even read the original post, where I wrote that there was no need to do this particular girl the same evening since I was going to have sex with my actual girlfriend anyway later this night.

Someone has to take out a knife, flay you alive, and make a lampcoat out of you. It will be in the best interest of posterity, the gene pool, and all of mankind.

Plus when I am with a beautiful girl for the first time, I desire to saviour her every touch, moan, fibre of muscle and bead of sweat. Caress each bony spot on her spine as I make my way down toward her supple, petite behind. A quicky won´t do - I desire to explore her completely for hours and experience surges of sheer extacy while doing so. There was no time for this since I was having dinner with a guy who works directly with the minister in the cabinet.

By the way I did my girlfriend after the dinner. Once at 24.00, then again at 07.00 and again at 08.00. Actually she was an hour late for work this morning as a result. Yet she said I made her feel so good that she couldn´t resist. Also she said, and I quote: "You know I met so many guys, British, Spanish, Cyprian, Greek, French, you name it, and they all fantasize about sex all the time. But when you, as girl, want it for longer than 10 minutes or more than once per night, suddenly they can´t deliver. You always deliver, always last, and satisfy me every time. Therefore I can never say no to you."

Rest of the guys, thanks for the feedback. I don´t see what I could have done to escalate, but perhaps someone here has, that´s why I posted. Provider vs Lover dichtonomy isnt very useful if theres no escalation opportunities. Also I bought the first lemonades and said: "its okay you can buy the second" and she paid for the second btw it was her tea not mine so provider doesnt really apply yet I suppose.